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  • Ages 35-51
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Last online
Nov 22
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Average build
Christianity and laughing about it
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Irish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So, I should add (this is a pre-script post-scriptum) that I had deleted (or at least abandoned) my profile about two years ago, and only came back to it because "OK" invited me to see all the amazing, wonderful, heart-stopping improvements and changes to their site.

What the hey, why not?

What follows is out-dated - but I just can't be arsed to change it (let alone re-read it*).

However, I will add that I'm not really looking. (...for a partner - but I'm going to assume you knew what I meant.)

(btw - palimpsest is one of my all time fave words.)

But if someone really amazing pops up, someone that I just have to meet, I am going to at least say "hi!". (I'll probably say something slightly wordier than that though.

All that said, what follows is fyi only. You can put as little regard into it as you can. (He says nonchalantly, with a wink and a smile.)

(*so, apparently I re-read what follows the other night, as in way back in July... eh...)

Okay, so circa - 2013...

For the Meyers-Briggs aficionados... ENFP (Now you don't have to waste yer time reading this ridiculous profile...)

A wise man (well, I am assuming it was a wise man) once said, If you want to improve, be content to be thought stupid and foolish."

So when accused me of being stupid and foolish, I just say, "No, no - not at all - I'm just improving!".

Speaking of which, I have, improvingly, answered plus que 500 questions, taken a bunch o' tests, done a little bit of messaging and even been on a couple o' dates -gadzooks! - so with that little bit of incremental improvement over, I think it is high time I update my mini cauldron of, Truths, Half-Truths, Outright Lies and Shocking Revelations.

So, evidently, I am quite funny, witty and charming. Who knew? Nor would I dare to disagree with such astute observations.

No, no, no... it's not all good - I play the violin. Sigh. Oh no, not as a profession, I am nowhere near good enough for that (although my housemates do think I am amazing - no, I hadn't bought them off with cigarettes and beer!; but I did do a kick ass job on the Bach Preludio in E Major).

fyi - working my way through the Bach concerti and Partitas, and taking a stab at the Mozart 5.

I was a professional chorister in a couple of Church choirs for many years, so, although not mandatory, it would be nice to meet someone else who is, in some way, musically involved. (Guitar won't cut it - but as I said, music ain't mandatory.)

Books and television play second fiddle to that.

Back to Stupid and Foolish - I am an actor. Sigh... can this get any worse? Obviously I must have a good sense of humour, No? (Editors' note - was, was an actor, have taken a hiatus and am in the process of changing careers.)

I have two sons - both 26. (The eldest - you figure it out - I had with a Lesbian couple, just got married. An amazing wedding!)

I also have a wonderful, beautiful, 14year old daughter whom I adore! (You'll note that, when we get to the music section, my tastes disturbingly reflect the outlook of a 14 yr old girl - that'd be why.)

My daughter and son number two are in Montreal.

Well, Oi t'ink d'at's enuff foolishness and stupidity fer dis section.

(Oh, and I have quite the predilection for word play... in case you didn't notice.)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Improving, by all accounts.

When not improving, or periodically employed, I practice the violin. (Took it up at 19, studied like a maniac for 5 yrs. When the unavoidable truth finally sunk in that I wasn't going to catch up to the infant prodigies who had begun at 4, put the violin aside for many years and decided that acting was the thing for me. (I know, I know... a clear sign of stupidity and foolishness. But I did improve as a human being.)

I sometimes memorize poetry. Did a one-man show on the Irish poet WB Yeats a number of years ago. (What is wrong with me???)

Trying to make a better life for myself here in Toronto than I did in Montreal. Actually, I had a pretty good life in Montreal, but was under-employed - and that got sorely tiresome.

I'm thinking, maybe next season I'll join some community orchestra.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In the dark or the light?

Couldn't resist.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books - mostly poetry,Yehuda Amichai, Anna Swir, Patrick Kavanagh, Dylan Thomas and Yeats stand out as favourites, Everything is Illuminated - but I don't read anywhere near as much as I used to. Violin practice sucks up that time. I need to relax.

Movies - without a doubt, "The Girl in a Cafe", "Moulin Rouge", "Strictly Ballroom", "Scott Pilgrim vs the World", "Lars and the Real Girl", and a whole bunch of others whose names escape me right now - but definitely anything my 12yr old daughter would enjoy.

Shows - Brian Friel's "Dancing at Lughnasa" and "Translations". I'll probably add more, but those are what leap to mind.

(Dawned on me weeks later that they probably mean TV shows... not theatre. So... Justified, The Newsroom, Arrested Development; British - Fresh Meat, The Hour. Probably a bunch of others which escape me now. Finally started watching Breaking Bad... amazing.)

Music: Truth be told, I prefer playing to listening, but on occasion I will, unadvisedly, play along with just about anything. Beyond that, just about anything my daughter listens to. Of my own volition I do listen to Bach, Mozart etc.; Contemporary Chick Folk - "Vagina Music" as an ex of mine called it - (perhaps that should be listed under "Most Private Thing I willing to Admit"); as I get older I'm starting to enjoy Jazz quite a bit more.

Food - Indian, Thai, Szechuan - and every once in a long while, a good steak.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, Poetry, humour, the basic sustenance of life - food, water, air -and, of course, my...


What did you think I meant?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well, not gunna spend much time thinking about this, am I?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Up until fairly recently, I didn't care about Friday nights, let alone a "Typical" Friday night, but in the last couple of months I've thought, "Wow, I'd actually like to spend a Friday night with someone special; perhaps even a week-end."

Ideally someone out there is seeking to improve the same way I am.

Failing that, I'll meet new people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I frequently weep at romantic comedies - I'm a cheap sucker for cheezeball.

Okay, maybe that's not the most private thing about me - but as if I'd tell the world I once had sex with the Pope!


Shhh! Don't tell anyone!

Also, see "Favourite Music"
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Personally I don't like subjunctive imperatives (if that is what, "Should" is) however, should you, by any chance, find my profile in any way interesting... why not?

I'm an actor, so already 90% of life is rejection. Sitting on the sidelines saying, "What if?" That ... Is ... Hell!

So, go for it!