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31 M Winnipeg, Manitoba, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 13
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
When drinking
Not at all
Christianity, and very serious about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm not quite sure what to think about this section. It wants a self summary but the rest of the profile also wants me to summarize myself but in more specific ways. I guess there's a reason why I answered from the bottom up. It also feels like this is a fairly weighted section seeing as its the first thing people read so it better be good. That's another thing I don't really like about this section: can it truly capture who I am? And even if it can, can it convey the message properly to the reader? I'm not confident in this. It should be obvious to you, the reader, that a couple paragraphs isn't enough to get a good impression of an individual and that a face-to-face conversation would be much better (says the guy with the axe in the photo). About that axe. I got it for Christmas and I use it to chop wood in my back yard because I like to sit with friends around a small campfire in the cool of the evening. Its very pleasant. What do you think about that?

Well, lets get the good stuff over with: I'm polyamorous. This means that I believe in falling in love with a plurality of people simultaneously and being honest in all my relationships. It has been a wonderful experience and I'm hooked. However, I think its the reason why I don't get messaged a lot on okcupid. I think its because people idealize single folks, even the poly crowd. In the past 2 years, I've been messaged out of the blue by 3 people, one of whom had questionable sanity. Regardless, I think its very flattering to be messaged by people and its an unrivalled experience getting to know new friends. So, if getting outside for a walk, going for tea/coffee or watching some music in a park is your kind of activity, then by all means, lets enjoy together.

On a last note, I'm Christian. And as the detail section says, I'm very serious about this. I think this might be another reason why people don't message me because people who are hard-core Christians can be dangerous. But, you have to think to yourself, this guy's poly and hard-core Christian? What's the deal? If you find yourself thinking that, then maybe its time to reconsider what hard-core Christian means. If you want to know more, I would be more than happy to explain.

Well, that's it. I hope you enjoyed and that I piqued your curiosity so that we can chat and maybe get to know each other a bit better. What do you got to lose?
What I’m doing with my life
I currently have a job where I deal with people who are feeling socially isolated. Its a great job and I'm really getting to know Winnipeg well because of it. That being said, if you think there's something that would be fun, new and exciting about the city, I'd love to hear more about it.

I also like to write short stories. This may be a phase, however because it only started last fall and there's only been 2 stories. They're pretty good but who knows if I'll continue with it. It is fun though.

I am taking a Masters program which might take me several years. I think its been over 10 years since I've wanted to do a program like this. Hopefully I'll graduate and become a family therapist. I hope to do this without making money.

Lastly, I like to keep active. I bike for my job and I can end up doing close to 2 hours of biking in a day. Its really great because I get to see so much more of the city than if I was on a bus or a car.
I’m really good at
Meditation and relaxation. I feel that too much of an emphasis is placed on production and not enough on doing nothing. Sometimes I literally just like to stop and smell the flowers. I really like dandelions. I'm also good at helping others in my life slow down and relax too.
The first things people usually notice about me
If its summer, they'll probably notice I'm on a bike. If its winter, I have my mitts on a string.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I go through phases of intense reading and I can do 3 books in a very short period but other than that I'm not an avid reader. What I really like is when somebody tells me about a book they've read, what they liked about it and the ideas they gleaned.

Movies: But I'm a cheerleader, The Iron Giant

Shows: I don't really like TV. I find things very repetitive and predictable. Also, when I find I'm getting drawn into a show, I feel duped. Its because shows are generally only good because people designed them to be addictive rather than well written.

Music: Electro Dubstep primarily, but anything else is good too. I'm a big fan of music that has a political or social commentary. Think macklemore's same love

Food: yes please. I like trying all sorts of new flavours.
The six things I could never do without
1. Breaking the rules. I enjoy finding ways to accomplish what a rule sets out to do while breaking the rule. For instance, in a workplace that wants a positive, professional atmosphere but discourages fraternizing, I'm going to fraternize even if it gets me fired because fraternizing is a better way to get a positive, professional atmosphere.

2. Social Change. I like to feel that I have an impact and a positive one on the people around me. What I like to see is social change which brings about more freedom and respect for all individuals.

3. Intimacy. One of the few books I've read and will recommend is book called "the five love languages". It teaches people how to communicate love. I express and feel love through touch.

4. Stimulating conversation. I need my mind to be engaged to form connections with people. Also, sharing ideas is a great way to learn and learn how to love others.

5. Time alone. What can I say? I'm an introvert. I still enjoy time with others and I don't get cranky when I need to be alone.

6. A comfortable bed. I love sleep so I might as well love the bed I spend so much time with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
***trigger warning***

Five things I've learned about that help me treat women with more respect:
#1 Never, in the history of ever, allude to or make a joke about rape
#2 A woman is well within her rights to be uncomfortable with me looking at her, speaking to her, or wanting to be in a relationship with her. I am not entitled to an explanation of the reasons behind her feelings either.
#3 Learn that our society does not teach men how to deal with issues of impulse control. Learn what impulse control means. Learn how to control impulses. Learn to derive a great deal of personal satisfaction from controlling your impulses.
#4 Be vocal and brave about your dissatisfaction if ever you see or hear about a woman being mistreated. If she is not consenting to being touched or spoken to, speak out against it.
#5 Learn what the Bechdel test is. Think about how infrequently it is passed. Take a good chunk of time to meditate on this as an indication of how our society views women.

Bonus 3
#1 Educate yourself about how society (dis)respects women. Take these issues seriously and modify your behaviour accordingly.
#2 Ask your lady friends about the ways they, as individuals, feel (dis)respected. Take them seriously and modify your behaviour accordingly.
#3 Never ever speak about an issue of sexism when there is an equally qualified woman who can speak about the same issue. Let her voice be heard.
On a typical Friday night I am
coming home late from work after a good run at the gym
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I view group sex primarily as a form of anarchy and secondarily as an erotic event.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 24–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Anybody can message me. However, preference will be given to the following:
Self identified anarchists
People with blue hair
People who don't feel the need to shave any body hair
People who don't feel the need to wear make-up
People who don't feel the need to conform to social norms
And people who don't judge the above.