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33 Santa Clara, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My Details

Last Online
Dec 18
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Korean (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Well, I'm in a relationship now, so I'm not 'looking' for anyone. But I'll leave my profile open and just let it be. Hope I don't need to come back to the OKcupid game.. whoo boy it requires quite a lot of patience and determination. writing messages could be fun in that way that self-disclosure could be fun but it gets to be draining, and requires a constant renewal of hope (for me at least). best of luck to all who are looking, everyone deserves to find love! i am so blessed by the partner i have found. anyway, my old profile before i [supposedly] found the love of my life --

i'm trying to write a positive, yet honest account of who and what i am but i have no idea how to do so without feeling like i'm full of it.

my best quality is an acceptance and willingness to listen to people's stories, and try to understand where they are coming from. i have a few eclectic friends on the fringe of society for various reasons, and is probably where i'll be for the rest of my life.

anyway, here is my raw account of what i am, if i had to sum it up in a short modern internet paragraph:

i'm a very kind hearted soul, deriving more pleasure from cuddling my teddy bear these days than the thousands of odd dollars i've spent on computer games and other junk over the years.. i yearn for connection, warmth, but fear the rejection, misunderstanding. i'm desperate i guess, but at the same time hard fast in my aloofness and disconnection from others. in the end i'm tired of projecting an image that i can't sustain for the life of me, someone who is dedicated to the future and goodness etc. i'm living for what is ultimately hedonism.

something cold and dark often times tugs at my feelings from deep and i'm in a constant struggle to renew my love for the things that i think will bring me joy. which brings me to the next section
What I’m doing with my life
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half baked job of trying to build my career in software engineering while pursuing non-practical passions in my life, including piano, photography, hiking and biking.

i want to become a jazz pianist someday, if ever i had a dream to be someone or something in my life, that wasn't just like "a great engineer!", this is probably it. should i quit my job and sink 5-10 years attempting to learn jazz improvisation? i dunno probably not but damn it's nice to dream
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being an easy going and loyal companion to my friends, contributing insightful or alternative perspective understanding and commentary on some of the many diverse things in life
The first things people usually notice about me
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i wonder. but at times people have commented that i smile a lot. but i'm not really aware that i'm smiling, so i'm not sure it's a real smile or just the natural contortion of my face.

other than that it becomes readily clear i don't talk a lot
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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i love reddit, wikipedia, currently trying to learn some jazz theory

love beethoven, bach, chopin, debussy,

monk, bud powell, sonny rollins, charles mingus

weezer, incubus, MGMT, tribe called quest
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
a PC to browse the internet

a recent friend who indirectly inspired me to just say what is on my mind and not project an image of something i think people would like, because i know that shit looked fake. anyway it's not like i'm this frank in real life, but for an internet dating profile, gah oh well somewhere to reflect my feelings.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
sitting wondering what i am going to do on the weekend
You should message me if
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god, i'm sorry if you read this, it looks so pathetic. i'm not sure how to be more honest though at the moment. well write me if you really like to just see what people say and not just reinforce what you want to hear, i love to listen and say what i believe and well, i think i am good at understanding.

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