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29 F Brooklyn, NY

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5′ 2″ (1.57m)
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Graduated from masters program
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English, Chinese, French

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My self-summary
Constantly waging a war between interests that are out of sync with sensibility. For example, belying my interest in poetry is a denying or at best skeptical attitude towards all that recycled Platonism, but I am most drawn to people who are intrigued by similar spiritual concerns whether they're believers or skeptics. This skepticism can probably be attributed to a mind that privileges logic and science as principles, but which is, unfortunately or not, more fascinated by the arts than the sciences. I am most attracted to polymaths and tolerant only to tolerance of multiple disciplines.
What I’m doing with my life
Statistics while capitulating to the individuality of human beings.
I’m really good at
distracting men from the thing that matters most, character, with my interests and how I curate them in this profile, our conversations, etc. See interminable lists below.

I have to admit it's a skill that's no longer quite desirable or useful to me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: Elmer Gantry, Divorce Italian Style, Heaven Can Wait, Gold Diggers of 1933/5/7, Criss Cross, Jezebel, The Lady from Shanghai, The Killers, Bad Timing, Gilda, The Night of the Iguana, Trapeze, Sabrina, Now, Voyager!, l'Avventura, Tabu, Cleopatra, Maya Deren films, Night on Earth, Scent of Green Papaya, Salome ('23 version), When a Woman Ascends the Stairs, Roehmer's 'Moral Tales'

Shows: Anthony Bourdain, Mad Men, Lie To Me, Weeds, House of Cards, Scandal, Portlandia, Girls, Brideshead Revisited, travel documentaries.

Music: Peaking Lights, Blue Hawaii, Glasser, Austra, Bear in Heaven, Milo Greene, Tamaryn, Mitzi, Wild Flag, Sleater Kinney, Ariel Pink's Haunted Graffiti, Purity Ring, The Private Eyes, Work Drugs, Real Estate, Anais Mitchell, Rihanna, Snakadaktal, The Weeknd, Susana Baca, Mali guitarists, dan bau, early music, most classical, avant-garde jazz, hard bop, ethiojazz, '80s.

Books: Main Street, Against Nature, The Dying Animal, Strait is the Gate, Jude the Obscure, Mauprat, Lucrezia Floriani, Indiana, The Rainbow, The Waves, The Book of Laughter and Forgetting, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Laughable Loves, A Certain Smile, La Chamade, Bonjour Tristesse, Confessions of a Child of the Century, Cheri, La Fin de Cheri, Dangerous Liaisons, the Tao, some Marguerite Duras, some Paul Auster.

Poets: Juliana Spahr, Rae Armantrout, Nicole Brossard, Charles Bernstein, Larry Eigner, John Taggart, Anne Waldman, D.H. Lawrence, Horace

Food: chili crab, dumplings, dim sum, ayam penyet, nasi bryani, roti prata, chicken rice in laksa
The six things I could never do without
"Candid women will tell you, I'd like some of this and some of that -- a little Muhammad Ali for straight sex, some of Kissinger for savvy, Cary Grant for looks, Jack Nicholson for entertainment, plus Andre Malraux or some Jew for brains."
-Saul Bellow
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I don't spend a lot of time thinking, but when I do,

the void, infinity, aesthetic imperatives, absolutes and how they intrigue me but how I can never fully grasp them or even believe in their existence

music and food

the perfectly prosaic like my melting groceries.
On a typical Friday night I am
watching a movie, reading a book or out with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think 'too much' about food.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you are reflective, sensitive, stable, warm and open.

Oh, but wait, look here!
"The main reason many girls become “leftover women” is that their standards for a partner are too high … As girls are not too picky, finding a partner should be as easy as blowing away a speck of dust,"
"When holding out for a man, if you say he must be rich and brilliant, romantic and hardworking ... this is just being willful. Does this kind of perfect man exist? Maybe he does exist, but why on earth would he want to marry you?"