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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:35pm
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I am rather strange.

A quote I have seen attributed to Dr. Seuss seems apropos: "We’re all a little weird. And life is weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness -- and call it love." And that, really, is all I am looking for in life: someone to be weird with. I want to be one of those couples that still holds hands when they're 80; a "we" instead of a "you and me."

My general strangeness:

I am a smart-ass; I am goofy. I like semicolons; I like dashes (and parentheses) -- and overly long ellipses................. I like art galleries, browsing in book stores, gardening, cafés, and long, aimless walks. I read constantly, usually several books at a time. I do crossword puzzles in my head, without writing the answers in. I like doing things with my hands, which is why I am usually to be found wearing at least one Band-Aid....

I love to cook, and am quite good at it, but rarely put much effort into it just for myself. Having someone around to cook for (or better yet, with) would be a truly wonderful thing. I am, however, extremely committed to being vegetarian (for ethical reasons) and I would find it *very* difficult to date someone who did not share these ideals. FYI.

I am not very good at taking myself seriously. I am a news junkie, a knowledge nerd, and an obsessive collector of knowledge of any sort.

I am endlessly fascinated by words. And light. And people. And small, mysterious objects whose purpose or function is not readily apparent.

I like a hike in the mountains just as much as I like an evening spent on the couch in front of a movie or with a book. I enjoy travel (and have traveled extensively), but this is my 40th address in 20 cities in 11 states and 2 countries, and I am really hoping to stay put for a while. I love my home, my cat, my work, my friends new and old, and everything about my life -- all I lack is a companion to share the adventure with.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a sculptor, a furniture maker, a painter, an editor, a writer, a wine reviewer. Essentially, I'm a Jerk of All Trades. Although I prefer the title "Man About Town"......
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Crosswords puzzles
Semantical gymnastics
And of course writing, sculpting, making things, breaking things, fixing things -- I am *very* good with my hands...... (Okay, I *know* that's cheesy, but it's not my fault. My friend Rachel told me to write that.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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My voice, I am told. I'm not quite sure how that's the *first* thing people notice -- apparently, I am invisible. Or a ninja.....
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Proust, Beowulf, The Raw Shark Texts, The Elephant Keeper's Children (or anything by Peter Høeg), The Arcades Project, anything by Haruki Murakami, Garcia Marquez, Borges, Perec, Twain, Poe; science fiction, science fact, art, gardening, history, how-to. Currently reading Karl Ove Knausgård's Min Kamp.

Music: Pretty much anything but country or reggae; I even love gospel music, even though I'm an atheist! I have a strong preference for shoegaze-y and ambient/drone music, especially if it has ethereal female vocals -- though I also like New Wave, punk, and industrial. Specific bands are (in completely random order) Cocteau Twins, Dead Can Dance, This Mortal Coil, Switchblade Symphony, Rose Chronicles, PJ Harvey, Stars of the Lid, Lycia, Queen, Journey, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Love Spirals Downwards, lovesliescrushing, Beirut, Orchestar Zirkonium, Billy Holiday, Dresden Dolls, Tapping the Vein, Android Lust, Mira, Rosewater Elizabeth, Edith Piaf, Emilie Autumn, Brian Eno, Django Reinhardt, Low, Einsturzende Neubauten, Portishead, Wall of Voodoo, Dark Sanctuary, Flaming Lips, Throwing Muses, plus just about any classical music from the medieval to the modern era.

Movies/TV: Wings of Desire, Elling, Three Amigos!, Tapeheads, Donnie Darko, It's a Wonderful Life (yeah, I'm a sap....), Spirited Away, The Gleaners and I, Buckaroo Banzai, Pi, Amelie, The Imposters, Mythbusters, Greg the Bunny, The Simpsons, Futurama, House, The Red Green Show, The Young Ones, Monty Python, Fawlty Towers, Big Bang Theory, This Old House or any other "house porn," Nova, Nature, Masterpiece Theatre, Mystery!, gardening shows.

Food: Well, as long as it's vegetarian (obviously) and gluten-free (sadly), just about anything. Top of the list, though, are Ethiopian, Thai, Indian, Middle Eastern, Italian. And I can absolutely rock a Really Big Salad. And I make what is officially the *World's Best* French Toast. And I love to bake.... No, that doesn't really narrow it down at all -- like I said, just about anything. And often. One of my best friends has nicknamed me "Metabolism Boy." I generally do my best to eat healthy, and my diet is mostly organic, but also enjoy the luxury of Bad for You food (probably more often than I should, actually). Also, I used to publish a magazine of beer reviews, I currently review wine, and I loves me the hell outta some coffee.......
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I don't really like having *things* -- clutter annoys me. And besides, I can usually improvise if I don't have precisely the thing I need; as my hero Red Green says, "Any tool can be the right tool."

So I will assume that *things* here means concepts more than actual objects, in which case my answers are art, literature, music, green growing life, the opportunity to create, and friends with whom to share conversation about it all.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
art, aesthetics, stories, what I want for dinner, and the plans for the house and art studio and gardens and fortified compound I want to build someday.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
doing the same thing I do every night, Pinky. Trying to take over the world.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a mild addiction to sauerkraut. It's not a problem, though, really. I can quit anytime...........

Also, I am not nearly as tough and self-sufficient as I pretend to be -- I may act like a crotchety old man, but I'm really a big softie.
You should message me if
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you are interested in finding out more and perhaps sharing a great adventure.