If you're not poly or you are unfamiliar with poly, please, don't let the fact that I have a boyfriend make you feel weird; we don't come as a "packaged deal" and I'm not looking for anything specific beyond, "Hey, this lady sounds cool! I'll get that bitch some coffee, bitches love coffee!"
...no, seriously. I love coffee. I've pretty much replaced my blood with coffee at this point. Coffee.
I'm one of those gamer nerds — paper and dice more than video. I attend a few Bay Area conventions throughout the year, though it's mostly for the LARPing, since I don't get to do it very often outside of con. I'm not hardcore about it, but I'm a fan of escapism and I really enjoy it.
I love animals. My family and I ran a cat rescue out of my house for most of my teen years, fueled almost entirely by neighborhood kittens who'd wind up on our doorstep. I've become pretty skilled at pet adoptions over the years. I have cats and rabbits.
I would describe myself as an alpha personality type who practices secure attachment. I'm less about dominating a person and more about mutual respect. The only person I'm interested in controlling is myself. Seeing my loved ones happy gives me a real feeling of joy. I dislike it when someone confuses my good manners and consideration for my fellow person as a sign of submissiveness. Doms who go around posturing and demonstrating how mighty and in control they are make me roll my eyes.
Being genuine and self-accountable is important to me, in myself and in other people. Admitting to the things you don't know is just as impressive as sharing what you do know.
I want people to be straight with me. Speak the truth — tactfully — even when it's unkind, or inconvenient, or you may be hated for it. If someone stands to get hurt from keeping quiet for the sake of harmony, then the harmony isn't worth it.
I'm a book lover and will read just about anything. My favorite scientific topics are psychology and I've recently gotten into human genetics. I like Norse and Celtic history and folklore, and I love fictional novels that involve gritty, modern-day high fantasy, survival horror, and a good brain-twister or mystery.
I am obsessed with red everything. If left to my own devices, my house would look like it was bleeding, and it would make me all warm and fuzzy, like my insides were lined with kittens. My favorite colors are red, black and neon.
I'm into personality theory. I like MBTI and numerology (I'm INFJ, enneagram 6w5 [tritype 648] sp/sx, life path 8, Aries, year of the pig, Slytherin. Yo.) and all that silly stuff that makes most people roll their eyes. I don't like them because I believe IN them, I like them because they're different sorts of tools that facilitate examination of a person's personality and behaviors. You take bits here, turn them all over and pick them apart, throw out the bits you don't like and mold them into who and what you are — not because you want to change these systems to force them into reflecting you, but because the process of studying these systems forces you to look at a person's sense of self in a different way and from there leads you to a stronger understanding of yourself and those around you.
I like people who are curious and follow through on that curiosity. Some of my favorite times have come from friends and me coming across a thing we didn't know anything about and huddling around the computer as we look it up.
I really love to learn. Tell me all of the random crap you know. I'll make my whole damn day.
I like to throw small get-togethers and act all classy and shit with my friends. Wine, cheese, tiny little sandwiches with cucumber and the crusts cut off — oh yeah.
...and coffee. Always. Coffee.