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My self-summary
I'm in the late part of my early thirties. I'm plump and rosy-cheeked; more Rosie Cotton than Eowyn, but running around barefoot and eating lots of good meals sounds better than pretty dresses and angst anyway. :) I watch anime, play RPGs and video games, dine out, listen to music, and travel for pleasure, and I read and write because it's impossible for me not to. I enjoy herbalism, cheese fondue, cross stitch, narratives of people who break free from cults and oppressive religions, BDSM, gardening, spending time with people with tickling fetishes, and chocolate chip cookie ice cream sandwiches. I enjoy a blissful and polyamorous marriage with scholarinexile.

After half a decade of trying to figure out what one *does* do with an MA in English, I recently had the opposite of a 1/3-life crisis where I realized with great fanfare and glee what I want to do with my life. I'm now back in school studying library science and loving every moment of it. Working to become a librarian has fulfilled several formerly free-floating needs to help people learn, to put things in order, to improve my own research skills, and to contribute to something truly meaningful in my community.

By night, I work hard to transform myself into the ultimate sexy librarian, and by day, I work in economic publishing, indexing, and abstracting. I've gained a very wide but extremely shallow pool of knowledge about the economic and political sciences. I probably don't know enough about them to discuss them, but I do know the word "heteroskedasticity." I keep forgetting what it means, but I do know the word. :)

Other random bits of information: I'm a former Roman Catholic and a lazy Unitarian Universalist/Pagan. I reside comfortably on the leftward end of the political spectrum, and although I don't always pay a ton of attention to the "macro" side of politics, I am interested in local community activism. Most of the D&D campaigns I'm in spend more time talking, running around doing inconsequential things, and engaging in intrigues than they do fighting, dungeon-crawling, and amassing treasure, and I'm perfectly happy with that. I like to strip paint, pull up carpets, and tear down wallpaper.

I am anachronistic, artistic, acarophilic, and alliterative, apparently. :)
What I’m doing with my life
Writing: both job-related and fiction (under a pseudonym, 'cause I write erotica). Studying to become the kind of person who doesn't necessarily know everything, but knows where you can go to find out. Knitting, crocheting, stitching, and spinning yarn very badly. Reading more than is probably healthy for me. Cuddling with my sweetie. Coexisting with two affectionate, vocal, sometimes maddening, but always lovable cats. Spending far too much time playing around on the Internet. (I get lost in YouTube,, and at the most inopportune times.) Doing lots of gaming, both video and tabletop. Making vague stabs at home renovation (what most people accomplish in a weekend, I can do in...four years and counting). Traveling as much as I can, although often to the same four or five places.
I’m really good at
Doing stuff with words. Please don't take the previous sentence as proof of this. :)

Also: listening, giving pills to cats (one of ours is epileptic and requires daily medication, yay), baking cookies, stripping paint, engaging in the parts of RPGs that don't involve combat, watching anime for hours, and making garden salsa.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm an introvert. I like to hover at the edges of crowds with a book or some kind of textile art in my hands, but I honestly do feel happy and included in things even if I don't have much to say.

Also: my hair, which I have been given to understand is long and pretty, my sense of humor, which I have been given to understand is entertaining, and let us be frank: I have been given to understand that I subvert what Westley in The Princess Bride called "a shortage of perfect breasts" in the world. So there's that too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books (or rather authors, since it will take less time): Terry Pratchett, Neil Gaiman, George R. R. Martin, Jacqueline Carey, Robert Jordan (yes, still riding on that old and by now slightly zombiefied bandwagon), Ray Bradbury, Patrick Rothfuss, Jim Butcher, Scott Lynch...and we haven't even left the fantasy/sci-fi section of the bookstore yet. You get the picture.

Movies: Favorites include The Princess Bride, the Star Wars series, the Lord of the Rings trilogy, the Pirates of the Caribbean series, the Harry Potter series, Lilo and Stitch, Beauty and the Beast, Shaun of the Dead, Hot Fuzz, Willow, Labyrinth, Legend, The Dark Crystal, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, The Dark Knight, the recent Avengers-related Marvel Comics films, The Nightmare Before Christmas, The Fifth Element, The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus, and Love Actually.

Music: My favorite bands are Great Big Sea and the Smashing Pumpkins. I also enjoy most 90s "alternative" music, Celtic rock/punk, ska, some J-rock and J-pop, and a lot of music composed for video games.

Television: Favorites include Game of Thrones (#1 at the moment), Mad Men, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic (pegasisters unite!), Firefly, The Muppet Show, Anthony Bourdain: No Reservations, Space Ghost: Coast to Coast, Buffy, True Blood, Heroes (mostly the first season), Boardwalk Empire, Higurashi no Naku Koro Ni, Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann, Gunslinger Girl, Elfen Lied, Samurai 7, Spice and Wolf, Fullmetal Alchemist, The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Bleach, Trigun, Cowboy Bebop, Doctor Who (the new stuff; my husband and I are still way back when Rose is the Doctor's Companion), The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya, Azumanga Daioh, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Revolutionary Girl Utena, Ouran High School Host Club, Black Lagoon, Baccano!, Hellsing...and many more.

Food: I steer clear of mushrooms, sweet potatoes, blue cheese, and mayonnaise (although I'm trying to make my peace with this last one). Most of what's left out there, I like. I love Italian food, quesadillas, hibachi, cheese fondue, and chocolate cake. I still regularly endanger my health and well-being by eating raw cookie dough, despite my technical status as an adult.
The six things I could never do without
My husband, my cats (do they count as two things if they often function as one unit?), the Internet, books, sweet tea, and fuzzy socks.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
a great many things at approximately thirty-second intervals. The Internet and grad school have gifted me with a rapidly decreasing attention span.
On a typical Friday night I am
attending a gaming night where we try out indie and homebrew RPGs, courtesy of a friend who is an awesome game designer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Really, I've admitted a bunch of stuff throughout this profile already. I like girls. I like BDSM, especially tickling (I've most often acted as a sub so far, but at heart I'm a switch). I'm polyamorous. I have a secret superhero identity in which the climax of the stories I write is usually an actual orgasm.

And if you're just looking at this profile to find a platonic friend and the above information isn't remotely interesting to you: *sigh* yes, it's true. I still read and love the Wheel of Time books. Even after Crossroads of Twilight.
You should message me if
Pursuant to the poly thing: I feel a lot more comfortable dating someone else who is already in a similar relationship. At the risk of seeming like I'm falling into the often hurtful practice of ranking my relationships into primary, secondary, etc.: I am madly in love with my husband, and I'm much better suited to be with someone who also has somebody else in their life. I'm not averse to dating a single person, but I'm not sure that I have the energy or time capacity to be the only person in someone else's heart.

Also, you should message me if you like creative, character/story-oriented gaming, anime, movies that stretch out into trilogies, books that are supposed to start as trilogies but end up as decalogies or more...and if you are willing to take on the sometimes trying task of communicating with a person who is happily quiet and shy.