philmud
36 Melbourne, Australia
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My self-summary
Readers Digest version:

Non monogamous guy seeks compatible other(s) for play and friendship. I'm intelligent, friendly, kind and open minded. If you're any two of these things maybe we'd get along.

Dostoyevskyesque version:

I was the kid who instigated all the games of doctors and nurses. You'd think I'd have grown up but I ain't!

I'm in an open relationship with a wonderful woman and after a period of situational monogamy I'm dipping my toe back in the dating pool.

While I'm open to casual fun, ideally I'm looking for something more. Intimate, close friendships would be nice.

I don't identify as a feminist, and I think it's often a bit sketchy when men do but I do consider myself an ally and I do my best to listen, learn and amplify. I try and take this approach to a range of issues where another white, cis-male voice isn't helpful to the discussion.

I'm confident and friendly, though not a crowd person. I don't hear well, so I sometimes avoid noisy situations.

I have a strong interest in slow living. I make my own booze and fermented vegetables, and I love meals that take all day to prepare. I'm slowly accumulating the necessary skills to keep the beer and bacon coming post zombie apocalypse.

I’m also a photographer, though I've been less than prolific of late. If you're a creative type and you like my images & want to collaborate let me know.
What I’m doing with my life
Being a Dad, working for the man, homesteading.

Photography school dropout & reformed juvenile delinquent.
I’m really good at
I'm really good at being pretty ok at most things. Try me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm really not sure. I probably seem reserved at first blush. But I ain't.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Salinger, Greene, Steinbeck, Maughm. I liked some Murakami recently. Liked Irvine Welsh's early stuff, but that fucker is cynically milking it now.

TV: currently OITNB, GOT, Netflix in general. Classic favourites include Six Feet Under, The Sopranos, Mad Men - the usuals.

Movies: Shortbus, Hedwig & the Angry Inch, Trainspotting, Fight Club. I realise these are all quite old. Lemme think about more recent offerings.

Music: Rufus Wainwright, Conor Oberst, Tool, Smashing Pumpkins, Portishead, Sonic Youth, Ben Kweller.
The six things I could never do without
My little family
Something to become absorbed in
A kitchen
Beer (no alco)
The Internet
My right hand (Sorry Jaime)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why OKCupid a) matches me with people who don't say they're interested in cis dudes, and b) why I get cis dudes in my matches even when I limit the search to women.

I mean, I only think about this when I'm on here, but still!
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably stalking your profile for the umpteenth time. I'm sorry about that, I know it's creepy. I just procrastinate messaging people for a long time sometimes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I joined the mile high club, by myself. It was a boring flight......
You should message me if
You think our skills would complement each other in the event of a zombie apocalypse.

You want to grab coffee or a drink.

You'd like to make out.
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