Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Readers Digest version:
Non monogamous guy seeks compatible other(s) for play and
friendship. I'm intelligent, friendly, kind and open minded. If
you're any two of these things maybe we'd get along.
I was the kid who instigated all the games of doctors and nurses.
You'd think I'd have grown up but I ain't!
I'm in an open relationship with a wonderful woman and after a
period of situational monogamy I'm dipping my toe back in the
While I'm open to casual fun, ideally I'm looking for something
more. Intimate, close friendships would be nice.
I don't identify as a feminist, and I think it's often a bit
sketchy when men do but I do consider myself an ally and I do my
best to listen, learn and amplify. I try and take this approach to
a range of issues where another white, cis-male voice isn't helpful
to the discussion.
I'm confident and friendly, though not a crowd person. I don't hear
well, so I sometimes avoid noisy situations.
I have a strong interest in slow living. I make my own booze and
fermented vegetables, and I love meals that take all day to
prepare. I'm slowly accumulating the necessary skills to keep the
beer and bacon coming post zombie apocalypse.
I’m also a photographer, though I've been less than prolific of
late. If you're a creative type and you like my images & want
to collaborate let me know.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being a Dad, working for the man, homesteading.
Photography school dropout & reformed juvenile delinquent.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm really good at being pretty ok at most things. Try me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm really not sure. I probably seem reserved at first blush. But I
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Salinger, Greene, Steinbeck, Maughm. I liked some Murakami
recently. Liked Irvine Welsh's early stuff, but that fucker is
cynically milking it now.
TV: currently OITNB, GOT, Netflix in general. Classic favourites
include Six Feet Under, The Sopranos, Mad Men - the usuals.
Movies: Shortbus, Hedwig & the Angry Inch, Trainspotting, Fight
Club. I realise these are all quite old. Lemme think about more
Music: Rufus Wainwright, Conor Oberst, Tool, Smashing Pumpkins,
Portishead, Sonic Youth, Ben Kweller.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My little family
Something to become absorbed in
Beer (no alco)
My right hand (Sorry Jaime)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why OKCupid a) matches me with people who don't say they're
interested in cis dudes, and b) why I get cis dudes in my matches
even when I limit the search to women.
I mean, I only think about this when I'm on here, but still!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably stalking your profile for the umpteenth time. I'm sorry
about that, I know it's creepy. I just procrastinate messaging
people for a long time sometimes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I joined the mile high club, by myself. It was a boring
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You think our skills would complement each other in the event of a
You want to grab coffee or a drink.
You'd like to make out.
Who are you looking for?
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