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37 Hickory, NC Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:39am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
A little extra
Strictly anything
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I recently turned my profile back on after being dormant for quite a while. I have been working on the decision to make a move and shake up my situation. This begins with a move to NC. In an effort to create new opportunities and be closer to peolple that are important to me, I have relocated to the Charlotte/Asheville area.

I'm not a flashy guy, my daily attire usually consists of a pocket-t and jeans. Just keeping it simple. If I have a meeting or something more formal to attend to, I clean up well. I'm more interested with what's in the package than what it looks like. If you take the time to see whats inside, you may be pleasantly surprised.

If you do get me into a conversation I tend to become more engaged with big ideas, rather than small talk. I get distracted easily, so topics with more layers of thought and discussion are more likely to keep me engaged. I try really hard to engage in small talk when it comes up, but I don't think I do it very well.

I take a little more time before considering someone a friend. But those that have become that close to me can tell you that I am completely loyal after that point. I personally don't find the enjoyment of being surrounded by lots of people that I barely know. If you would rather hangout with 50 people you only kind of know, than 5 you know well, we will not click.
What I’m doing with my life
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I began teaching art at one of the local community colleges near Houston a couple of years ago. At the last I was with two different colleges. I was up to three at one point. Still working on getting up the next step in academia.

The most recent step has included me moving to the Charlotte area. With the state of academics I am likely to be adjuncting for a while, I just figured I could do that just about anywhere. And, I happened to have friends and colleagues in the area.

Previous to my teaching, but after grad school, I had owned/operated a courier company that serviced international airlines. It about ran me into the ground. Luckily, I found a job doing what I love (see above) so I could move on from it.

I am a firm believer of slow and steady winning the race. I've stayed focused to get where I am, though I am still not done. I may not have come to this point as soon as I would have liked, but I didn't let distractions (some quite major) get me off track. I find great importance in patience and perseverance.

"Make Haste Slowly"
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Mediating conflict. From high school on, I have been a go to guy for dealing with conflict. I have held several formal positions as a liaison.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I tend to be the quiet one in the group. I like to sit back and people watch when in, or around, large groups. In small groups of people I have come to know, I begin to talk more.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Most of my reading ends up being the news. Books I do read tend to come from people like Howard Zinn, Ralph Nader, Vonnegut, Hawking, and Dawkins. I have been relying more on audiobooks recently. According to my library there, I've been going through a lot of philosophy and sociology.

Movies I watch are usually from the comedy or documentary genres. I probably watch more series based media. The Office, Bones, House, Family Guy, 30 Rock, Peep Show, Hustle, Maron..

Music: Beastie Boys, Tool, Nightmares on Wax, DJ Krush, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Sneaker Pimps, Thievery Corporation, Cypress Hill, Massive Attack, Geto Boys, Röyksopp, Télépopmusik, God Lives Underwater, Jane's Addiction, Organic Grooves, Beenie Man, Stone Temple Pilots, Cake, Groove Armada, Morcheeba, Zero 7, Pretty Lights

Games should be a category here. I am by no means a gamer, but I do like to play video games (a few hours a week). It should be obvious by now that games hold as much place in contemporary media as the others. That being said... FIFA, Tiger Woods, SSX, GTA, Gran Turismo, Ace Combat, Watch Dogs.

Food is good too. I don't get enough Mediterranean, Indian, or Vietnamese.

Visual arts are an important part of what I do. So I'm just going to drop this in here, a list of artists. Hiroshi Sugimoto, Andy Goldsworthy, Richard Serra, James Turrell, Pipilotti Rist, Andreas Gursky, Jesus Raphael Soto, Santiago Calatrava...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Materials (for making things)
Coffee (lots of it)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Current Events, Spatial Interaction (artistically speaking), and lately I've been more concerned with the possibility of an idiocracy (as in the movie).

More recently, I'm confused by many of the women on OkC. I don't send the type of messages most of you complain about (Generic hellos, lewd advances, etc.), but even through an honest attempt to introduce and engage a conversation most of you are still quiet.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I like to find myself out in a semi-crowded bar with a beer and people to watch. My entourage is usually no larger than four people, and I have no problem heading out by myself to see whats going on in town. Though not always on Friday, a good weekend includes an art opening.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You'll probably find out the first time we meet. I don't have anything to hide, but I can't just give it away here.
You should message me if
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You don't mind skipping the small talk.

Going from point A to point B in a straight line is not your preferred path.