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pinecone123

46 M Cambridge, MA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 18
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I've gotten advice about "selling" myself here, about tailoring this profile to what women are looking for. Instead, I'd rather just plainly say who I am and what my strengths and flaws are. That might be the most practical way to find out if I'm a good fit for you and if you are for me. Getting into someone's good graces under false pretenses sounds exhausting.

Getting rid of pretenses and expectations of what a person should or shouldn't do or be, being true to oneself, can be wonderfully freeing and energizing. I used to write a lot in a journal. I loved the freedom to write anything, to be goofy, sappy, or brutally honest. All without judgment. There were times that writing and getting down to what I really thought or felt, sorting through what was gnawing at me, would leave me centered and grounded, even smiling. Writing also taught me that sometimes the strongest, most beautiful thing a person can say is "I'm wrong" or "I don't know."

Journals might seem an odd thing to go rambling on about in a profile, but they might be an analogy for a good relationship. Imagine a space where two people can be themselves, say what they really need to say, where they find acceptance and an energizing freedom to be themselves. I have a vague vision of what could be possible if two people worked at being willing to say and hear the difficult things. ... Not that I do either too well yet. Sometimes speaking up, asserting myself, and saying what I want still feels like disturbing the universe.

As you can probably see by now, I'm an introvert.

I'm also drawn to tranquil situations. Twilight tends to be my favorite time of day. It has an inherent permission to relax. I have great memories of sitting on a mountain overlook on summer evenings after a day of hiking, breathing in the warm, fragrant earthy scents, savoring the iridescent twilight colors. It was so relaxing I stayed for hours into the night. Hearing an owl or seeing a shooting star made it more magical. It's times like those that my breathing slows, my mind becomes clear, and it's easy to smile and laugh. It feels so right. I want more of those experiences, even if alone, but with the right person would be good too.

Not that I'm all zen. I'm pretty industrious too. I churn out a lot of work, both at my job and at home. One long-term obsession has been creating my own conservatory, of sorts. I've spent many weekends sawing, sanding, staining, right up until bedtime. (I'd love to have my own home someday and build a true conservatory.)

In some ways, my mellow side compensates for having an anxious, worrying mind in other situations. It's hard to explain here. I'm fairly normal, but anxiety and fear really shaped me early on in life. It's made me appreciate people who've tasted enough of struggle or sorrow to have learned compassion. I dislike sharp tongues and unpredictable moods. There are people who care passionately about struggles on the other side of the world but who can't extend their empathy across gender lines to someone a few feet away.

My diet is semi-vegetarian. Since the early 1990s, the only meat I've eaten is a little fish now and then. (By "a little fish," I mean a small amount, not an actual little fish, like a guppy.)

It's never too far from my mind that I live a middle-class life in a wealthy, relatively peaceful society and that, for now, I'm in good health. What great luck, like winning a lottery. Of all the billions of years the universe has been around and will be around, isn't it amazing that right now, this little window of time, also happens to be when I'm alive and healthy? I'd like to savor this. (Of course, that bigger perspective doesn't keep me from complaining if I get called for jury duty or if it rains on my vacation.)

Thanks for reading.
What I’m doing with my life
I work as a graphic designer. It's busy, rarely boring, and is a good creative outlet, but I still would like to win the lottery.
I’m really good at
I'm usually pretty good at making jokes or terrible puns (but not in an endless, compulsive way). Sometimes I see surprising connections between ideas and am fairly good at articulating my thoughts. I'm a decent cook and gardener, and (if it's not too lame to admit) I keep a tidy home.
The first things people usually notice about me
I usually assume people first notice my nose (the reason for including side view among my photos). Other than that, I wonder if I give off a non-threatening, "nice guy" vibe, because people ask me for directions a lot. ("Maybe you look like you know where you're going," a friend suggested.) I once read an old book on manners for men, which said men should strive to be known as "that nice Mister so and so." The notion appealed to me, so maybe I do give off that vibe.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I really enjoyed the book "Your Inner Fish," which traces through fossils and evolution the origin of some human features. I'd come into work every day going on and on about the latest thing I'd read, probably annoying my co-workers, frustrated that they weren't as excited. The book even answered a question I'd jokingly asked years ago, after talking to a woman who said children seem hardwired to bite. I wondered, What was the first creature to have teeth? (And does anyone know who was the first to get bitten?)
The six things I could never do without
Nature
Peace of mind
Comfortable shoes
A good dessert
Twilight (the time of day, not the movie)
Laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Nature, psychology, poems, word origins, the night sky (did you know there's an atlas of the universe?), memento mori, some day living where I can have a real garden, not just on my porch, the next time I'll see mountains, shooting stars, or sit on a cabin porch and hear owls.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
... would be to answer the previous question and admit that my Friday nights are about as far from wild nights on the town as could be.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 37–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you want to. What better reason?