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My self-summary Propose an edit

Hey everyone! A little about me: I've lived in the Bay Area 15 years now, am originally from N.J. I think I still retain somewhat of an east-coast sensibility. I still miss NY pizza and warm summer nights, but I'm generally enjoying my bay area existence. Seriously, Berkeley smells really good sometimes - the trees, the plants . . .

My interests include music (mainly electronic, and particularly techno, but I do like some folk, new wave/'80s and experimental artists as well, see below), dancing, exercise, health, travel, spirituality, walking and hiking, hanging out with friends (I do like to make time for this), , food (sometimes cooking and sometimes eating out), and reading Lots. I read a lot, and it is rare you will find me without a book in my hands

I used to be more of an activist, and have fairly radical leanings, but I haven't done much social activism for several years now, and am interested in pursuing other interests these days.

I'm looking to meet new people, and, ultimately, for a relationship (and to "fall in love"), but I am open to, and interested in, other arrangements, such as being "intimate friends". I tend to feel deeply, and am not afraid of intensity. Sex for me always involves my emotions, and I cannot do casual hook-ups.

Let's see, what else... I'm bi, I think (well, I think I still am -- it's been a while), but I'm mainly interested in meeting men (which is why my profile says straight). I'm also not traditionally femme-y. For example, I don't generally wear make-up. I'm not androgynous or butch, either, though.

Physically, I'm short and curvy, approximately size 14 petite (hourglass figure, with a little meat on my bones).

For you astrological types, I'm mostly earth and water (lots of virgo and scorpio), with my moon in a fire sign.

I'm not interested in having children, and, for a serious relationship, would prefer to date men either without children or with older (above age 12?) children. For friends/friends with benefits, etc., it makes no difference.

I can be a bit vulgar and crass at times, but not in front of your parents or in inappropriate situations. :)

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

these days:

- wondering if I should stay in my job, with 5 weeks of vacation (I'm trying to get as close to a European way of life as possible here), or find a career I'm more interested in, or try to do both at the same time. (I'm a paralegal right now.)

- looking for a new book to read (always)

- staying in touch with friends and developing new friendships

- looking for some new music

- trying to heal my recent back flare-up, so I can get back to my favorite classes at the gym - I can't wait to fully work out again!

I'm really good at Propose an edit

Being modest (so this is a little hard to write!). My job, usually. Being affectionate and honest. Being a good friend. Grammar, usually (still wondering if I should be a copy editor). Perhaps the overuse of parentheses.

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

my eyes and my smile

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

Books/authors:

Jan Valtin - Out of the Night; George McKay (ed) - DIY Culture: Parties and Protest in Nineties Britain; Linda Hogan; Marge Piercy; Derrick Jensen; Neil Gaiman; Meredith Tax; George Katsiaficas - The Subversion of Politics: European Autonomous Social Movements; Elana Dykewomon - Beyond the Pale; Emma Goldman - Living My Life; Erick Lyle - On the Lower Frequencies: A Secret History of the City; Mary Morris; Junot Diaz - The Brief, Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao

Music:

I'm currently obsessed with The Magnetic Fields' "69 Love Songs." Other than that, here's a list, which is not all-inclusive (or, as we legal types like to say, "including, but not limited to, the following"):

Techno/electronica: Richard Villalobos, Luciano, Carl Craig, Sammy Dee, Donnacha Costello, Rob Hood, Alex Under, Jeff Mills, Dan Bell, Thomas Melchior, The Mole, Autechre, Aphex Twin, UR, Deadbeat, Monolake, Radio Slave, Claude Young, Octave One, DJ Bone, Air Liquide . . .

other styles: Chumbawamba,New Order, Joy Division, Cocteau Twins, Sonic Youth, Sol Invictus,
The Smiths, The Cure, Stone Roses, Bruce Springsteen (his older stuff, I'm from NJ, what can I say?),
Billy Bragg, Manu Chao, Coil . . .

Movies: Goodfellas, Casino, Antonio das Mortes, Cleo from 5 to 7, The Gleaners and I, Strangers with Candy, Fargo, The Battle of Algiers, Shaun of the Dead, The Usual Suspects, American Beauty, An Injury to One, Happiness, Control

TV: don't usually watch it. I did really enjoy The Sopranos and Six Feet Under, though. Am trying to start watching The Wire, but I don't have a lot of free time for TV viewing.

Food:

Tiramisu!
Spanish and Basque cooking.
Really good, thin-crust NY pizza
This tasty pasta dish I make with anchovies, crushed red pepper, garlic and olive oil. Mmmm...

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

well, I obviously "could" do without them, but life would not be quite so much fun then:

1) Good music.
2) Hot water
3) Cats
4) Books
5) Friends
6) Travel (I would be really freaked out if I for some reason I couldn't leave the country)

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

a lot of things. Hard to summarize right now.

On a typical Friday night I am Propose an edit

Going to the gym in the late afternoon, then maybe (a) checking out my friend's happy hour (just for socializing, not for drinking; (b) going home and getting ready to go out again or hang out w/ friends; or (c) kicking back at home w/ a book or movie

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here Propose an edit

I'm a bit kinky.

You should message me if Propose an edit

- you're looking for a relationship, and you think we might have some interests in common

- you're looking for a good friend

Note: I tend not to like instant messaging. If we've already exchanged messages (emails) on this site, then go ahead and IM, but I don't feel terribly comfortable with chatting with someone out of the blue.

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