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39 F Berkeley, CA

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5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), German (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I am in a deep, committed, non-monogamous relationship with my banjo. It's kind of unfair, because I see other people and she doesn't. She even likes to hear the stories (what's up with that?). It's only ever been a problem when I've been with other banjos. But as long as I don't bring them home, it's usually okay.

Catch a glimpse of me in my ideal day:

Run, swim, or Bikram.
Get out into nature. Dissolve.
Make music with friends.
Read. Write.
Laugh till I cry (or wheeze, or people start staring).

Oh, and. My mind is very fucking open. I like to be stretched.

I have a strong preference for the dudes, but some girls turn my head too. Toggling this profile to bi, so you can find me.

But in general, I'm here to meet friends! Open to other things too, but it's feeling more authentic for me to lead with friendship.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've always been an admirer of trees. Now I'm putting faces to names. This is mostly plain awesome, but does require some mental adjustments. For example, many maples reveal themselves on closer inspection to be sycamores. Kind of like the time that beautiful naked woman at Harbin turned out to be an uncut tranny. Only less hot.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Learning languages.
Envisioning possibilities.
Listening deeply.
Light-saber battles.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The fucking porch-swing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Some musical tidbits, for now:
Thomas Tallis
The Punch Brothers
John Craigie
momentarily, Andrew Bird (this may not last)

For the record, I like men who like Rilke. You might assume that I like Rilke myself, but you'd be wrong. I'm merely recognizing a pattern.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The deeper layers, that bubble up. Serenading them, taunting them, drinking them in.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 27–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You are lost.

You are reaching for something that may not yet exist.

The light in the garden.