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53 F Olympia, WA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:37am
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Full figured
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
i like poetry, people, and potatoes.

i relate to having an infj profile on the meyers briggs.

i think life is an amazing mystery and we are all brave just for showing up to it each day.

I am dorky, gentle, quiet and observant
What I’m doing with my life
i am a homeowner of a small cheerful old house.

i like my paid job a lot (social service management) and also have some lifelong avocations (writing, making little art things, enjoying nature and being curious about people).

my 2 riotgrrl daughters are now cool independent riotadults, and i enjoy their company immensely. i am trying not to work out my empty nest issues on my cat, but i am a little codependent with her.

i have spent long happy periods of my life being in a monogamous partnership. and other long happy periods of my life being polyamorous and/or married to a creative solitude. i currently have some special relationships, but may have room in my heart for more surprises from the universe.

i am more attracted to people's kind energy than their gender, prestige, possessions or looks. intellectual and emotional chemistry are the only means for me to feel physical chemistry with someone.
I’m really good at
enjoying the day to day things.

noticing nature. realizing the utter strength and utter fragility of life.

seeing the loveliness of gender and orientation without a preconceived notion.

writing. and (not necessarily really good at, but really enjoy)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
authors: lynda barry, anne tyler, rumi, mary oliver, rilke, walt whitman. laura ingalls wilder was my childhood celebrity crush.

movies: a room with a view, ma vie en rose, antonia's line, emma, carwash, breakfast on pluto, together, biloxi blues, to kill a mockingbird, muriel's wedding, pride and prejudice

music: van morrison, marvin gaye, kd lang. t-rex. leonard cohen. the music made by young people i know.
The six things I could never do without
daughters. cat. library. trees. humor. notebook.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the world, the environment, fair wages, clean water for people. i think about how to live in action and contemplation. i wonder how to give room for grief, compassion and working for justice in balance with enjoying all that's beautiful in the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
various things. maybe reading a book. or visiting with one of my daughters or friends. or making a collage. or watching a film. or just relaxing in the quiet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
after a twenty two year marriage ending in friendship, i have spent time experiencing solitude, self and new people in an open-ended kind of capacity.

lately it's come into focus that i would like to experience deeper partnership again. i like that feeling of a long-term growing with someone (or someones). talking, romance, walks, giving and receiving gentle feedback, meals, sharing feelings, supporting one another's best hopes and being there to sort out life's challenges.

that being said, new sweet friendships are also welcome. and valuable whether or not they turn out to be an avenue there.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 40–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
something resonated here.
you pledge allegiance to the world.
you are a gentle person who needs occasional quiet.
you like written words.
you are nature's bride or groom.
you are kind of romantic and kind of practical at the same time.