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54 • Olympia, WA • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 40–65
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, short-term dating
- Last Online
- Dec 19
- 5′ 4″ (1.63m)
- Body Type
- Full figured
- Other, but not too serious about it
- Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Has kids
- Has cats
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)
i've recently retired and am enjoying some lifelong avocations (writing, making little art things, travel, enjoying nature and being curious about people).
i am often out walking local trails in a leisurely way, taking photos.
i have stage four cancer (and don't mind questions about it). like all other humans, i am terminal. (just maybe sooner than later). this means i'm very focused on the joys of now, and am not looking for a traditional connection.
i don't need a caregiver or a rescuer. fortunately, i have a beautiful support system, and am taking good care of myself (nutrition, exercise, sleep). sometimes i have treatments to do (and a new hairdo). often i'm feeling all right, and can enjoy adventures.
even though i have this big thing going on in my life i am interested to learn about another's life, to celebrate their joys and care about their concerns. however, i am honestly not available for unnecessary drama in any form
i am more attracted to people's kind energy than their gender, prestige, possessions or looks. intellectual and emotional chemistry are the only means for me to feel physical chemistry with someone.
noticing nature. realizing the utter strength and utter fragility of life.
seeing the loveliness of gender and orientation without a preconceived notion.
writing has been a lifelong pasttime for me
movies: a room with a view, ma vie en rose, antonia's line, emma, carwash, breakfast on pluto, together, biloxi blues, to kill a mockingbird, muriel's wedding, pride and prejudice
music: van morrison, marvin gaye, kd lang. t-rex. leonard cohen. the music made by young people i know.
i recently lost my best friend, former husband and coparent to a freak accident of illness and circumstance. wading through grief. and with a more poignant knowledge of how unpredictable this existence is. his favorite thing to talk about was POSSIBILITY and "what do you want to create?". i've been thinking of that a lot
at the same time i know asking others to connect with me deeply is a risk for their heart and mine.
my situation and being an introvert can sometimes make me a flaky friend. very present sometimes and then suddenly less available. i'm not good as someone's only or main friend or intimate. and i kind of hate talking on the phone. (email and text works much better). i also have a preference for people who live close by or are willing to travel to me at least some of the time.
you pledge allegiance to the world.
you are a gentle person who needs occasional solitude.
you like written words.
you are nature's bride or groom.
you are kind of romantic and kind of practical at the same time.
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