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54 Olympia, WA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 40–65
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 19
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Full figured
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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i relate to having an infj profile on the meyers briggs.

i think life is an amazing mystery and we are all brave just for showing up to it each day.

I am dorky, gentle, quiet and observant. and strong.
What I’m doing with my life
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i am a homeowner of a small cheerful old house. i have wonderful grown children, and a somewhat cranky cat.

i've recently retired and am enjoying some lifelong avocations (writing, making little art things, travel, enjoying nature and being curious about people).

i am often out walking local trails in a leisurely way, taking photos.

i have stage four cancer (and don't mind questions about it). like all other humans, i am terminal. (just maybe sooner than later). this means i'm very focused on the joys of now, and am not looking for a traditional connection.

i don't need a caregiver or a rescuer. fortunately, i have a beautiful support system, and am taking good care of myself (nutrition, exercise, sleep). sometimes i have treatments to do (and a new hairdo). often i'm feeling all right, and can enjoy adventures.

even though i have this big thing going on in my life i am interested to learn about another's life, to celebrate their joys and care about their concerns. however, i am honestly not available for unnecessary drama in any form

i am more attracted to people's kind energy than their gender, prestige, possessions or looks. intellectual and emotional chemistry are the only means for me to feel physical chemistry with someone.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
enjoying the day to day things.

noticing nature. realizing the utter strength and utter fragility of life.

seeing the loveliness of gender and orientation without a preconceived notion.

writing has been a lifelong pasttime for me
The first things people usually notice about me
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dorky quiet cheerfullness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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authors: lynda barry, anne tyler, rumi, mary oliver, rilke, walt whitman. laura ingalls wilder was my childhood celebrity crush.

movies: a room with a view, ma vie en rose, antonia's line, emma, carwash, breakfast on pluto, together, biloxi blues, to kill a mockingbird, muriel's wedding, pride and prejudice

music: van morrison, marvin gaye, kd lang. t-rex. leonard cohen. the music made by young people i know.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
daughters. cat. library. trees. humor. notebook.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the world, the environment, fair wages, clean water for people. racial and gender equality. i think about how to live in action and contemplation. i wonder how to give room for grief, compassion and working for justice in balance with enjoying all that's beautiful in the world.

i recently lost my best friend, former husband and coparent to a freak accident of illness and circumstance. wading through grief. and with a more poignant knowledge of how unpredictable this existence is. his favorite thing to talk about was POSSIBILITY and "what do you want to create?". i've been thinking of that a lot
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
various things. maybe reading a book. or visiting with one of my daughters or friends. or making a collage. or watching a film. or just relaxing in the quiet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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even though i'm in this precarious situation, i would still like to experience affectionate companionship. i like that feeling of growing with someone (or someones). talking, romance, cuddling, walks, giving and receiving gentle feedback, meals, sharing feelings, supporting one another's best hopes and being there to sort out life's challenges.

at the same time i know asking others to connect with me deeply is a risk for their heart and mine.

my situation and being an introvert can sometimes make me a flaky friend. very present sometimes and then suddenly less available. i'm not good as someone's only or main friend or intimate. and i kind of hate talking on the phone. (email and text works much better). i also have a preference for people who live close by or are willing to travel to me at least some of the time.
You should message me if
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something resonated here.
you pledge allegiance to the world.
you are a gentle person who needs occasional solitude.
you like written words.
you are nature's bride or groom.
you are kind of romantic and kind of practical at the same time.

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