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OneDarkFlame_

30 Union City, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Pisces
Education
Working on space camp
Job
Student
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Polish (Fluently), Russian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
**I am a bit overloaded right now and may not be responding much or quickly for a bit... ---December 2014***

**also, not available right now emotionally for dating anyone else--Dec. 2014**

***my situation is a bit complicated. I am technically married but we are separated (romantically/intimately). We will still be living together for the time being for our son and so that i may finish school. There is no issue in my dating others, etc. However, I am NOT looking for a casual hookup or anything of that sort. I am interested in deeper connections/ relationships,but i don't want to rush any involvement and would probably prefer to keep things open longer than most people might(sept 2014)***

For a while now I have been trying to explain to others something about myself that I could not find a word for. Recently, I have found a word to describe this: I am a sapiosexual.

I have a child-like enthusiasm about me and a sense of wonder about the world.

I'd say I'm fairly nerdy/geeky and get along well with those types

I feel very deeply but am logical at the same time, sometimes its a bit of a push/pull with
my heart and my head. However, usually my head wins.

I am very honest. And I want honesty from others, even if it hurts me. There
is no reason to lie. The truth will come out in the end anyway...
why waste someones time? If someone doesn't like something about
you, and they are willing to let it come between you, it will
eventually anyway.

Id rather be hated for something I truly am,
than loved for something I am not.

I am highly honorable and ethical by nature. Sometimes to my own detriment.

I try to live my life in a way that if I were to get hit by a bus tomorrow, I would have no
regrets.

I love to experience life to the fullest I can. This does
not mean I value experience over doing the right thing. I always
try to do the right thing in my life, even if that means I have to
sacrifice something 'fun' or 'interesting', etc.

I find good communication to be of utmost importance in any
friendship/relationship.

I like people who are unique and not
afraid to be themselves. Being different is a GOOD thing!

I tend to think about everything and anything, always analyzing and coming up
with my own theories. My mind is always going! So is my heart.

I want to learn for the rest of my life! I adore knowledge. I find most subjects fascinating in one way or another.

I'm am a very passionate person, I have a tendency to put everything I have into everything I do.

I am very determined, live with conviction, and once I decide on a goal I waste no time in fulfilling it.. full steam ahead! This trait tends to come off as being the opposite of 'go with the flow', I have a directive.. Im intense and I fight hard for things I want in life. If you are looking for someone very easy going Im probably not your girl; though I can be that at times, naturally I have a more serious, systematic approach to life/problem solving.

I am an independent thinker: I tend to think things through for myself rather than just accept anything at face value or because someone said so. This and the above traits, make me a bit of a challenge. If you want someone easy, where you dont have to put much work into the relationship, Im also not your gal. I can be crazy, fun, and colorful... joking often, as well as very silly and goofy.. but Im not easy. If I love you, I will work hard to make the relationship a success. I want the same. I admire those who think for themselves and fight for the things they believe in/want/think etc.

Very versatile. I'm a little bit of everything and looking for the same.

Ive had a lot of life experience, this can be both a good and a bad thing,
But I like to see it as that I learned a lot. Which is a good
thing. heh.

I laugh. a lot. Because I find humor in everyday life.

And ffor those of you who remember okc's three word thing: I am curious, intense, and quirky
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a mother and a student. I try to be the best mother I can be to my 2 year old son. Also, I am working on my Business AA degree and hopefully later transferring to work on a BS, also in business. I mean hey, if youre going into business you need to know a little BS ;). Previously my goal was to go for a Master's in Psychology (marriage and family therapy), which was my dream job since i was a child. But circumstances have changed and I can no longer do that. Instead, i plan to open two businesses :) In addition to school and being a mom, I organize a parent's group in my area, and am also an organizer for a music committee. I am a little more busy than I would prefer. ;)

I like spending time with my family, my animals, my friends, occasionaly meeting people, watching good movies/shows, going down to the beach, reading, going on random adventures, playing music (guitar and drums), learning (i LOVE learning!)..especially about typology recently (extra points if youre an INFP! just sayin ;) Get along pretty well with Entp's also). I like just doing whatever happens to come into my head for the moment. However, I currently have very limited time to do all of the things I so love.

Other fun things: Board games, camping, concerts, cooking, arts and crafts (crocheting, scrapbooking, other projects), dinner parties, going to the local thrift store... lol.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
conversations. being fun and crazy without need for any substances. writing. understanding whats going on inside of people, often before they know themselves. dealing with whatever life throws at me. reading peoples vibes. arguing (not because I wanna argue, just that Im good at it). leaving an imprint on peoples lives (or so Im told). cooking. running the other way when people get too close too fast (timing is everything). telling you what movie that actor was from. giving advice. going out in a moments notice (okay, so I need ten minutes but still lol). finding humor in everyday life. =P
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think probably the first thing people notice about me is probably that I am very expressive and reactive. I dont hide my emotions like most people do, if I like you...I really like you and I will just say so. If I dont, I wont talk to you and you will get a bad vibe from me. The eyes say it all...If I'm happy my eyes will twinkle like the brightest star and my face will light up accordingly...if I am unhappy...my eyes are hard and cold and my expression will normally show it as well. Dont get me wrong, I am nice to everyone at first, I give everyone a fair chance. And even if I dont like someone...Im not going to be rude...I just dont like being fake...but I am always polite. I guess I'm a lot more open than most people are.

also, Im sort of an odd duck. I've very rarely felt like I've fit in anywhere. Just kind of a weirdo. But I like it that way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Now this is the best section! Movies? Music? Books? AND food!?! Goodness me, I think Ive gone to heaven. lol ;)

Movies: Princess Bride, Interview with the Vampire, LOTR, Bram's Dracula, Underworld, Matrix, American Beauty, The Butterfly Effect, The Nightmare Before Christmas, The Fifth Element, Empire Records, Fight Club, Terminator (all), Back to the Future, The Neverending Story, Pirates of the Caribbean, Star Wars, Spider Man, The Prestige, Howls moving castle, Spirited away, The Crow, Lost Boys, Lucky # Slevin, Aliens, Harry Potter, Saved, Die Hard, Sin City, The 13th Floor, Equilibrium, Star Trek, Avatar, Before Sunset, Romeo and Juliet, All Disney, Ever After, The Wedding Singer, 50 first dates, Kate and Leopald, 13 going on 30, The Slipper and the Rose, Diwale Dulhania Le Jayenge, AI, Heart Breakers...

Shows: I dont really watch TV anymore...but there are a few shows I really like: That 70's show, Sliders, Chobits, Avatar (last airbender)!!!!, Dexter, Angel, Roswell, Mad Men is addicting! The occasional episode of family guy and courage the cowardly dog (that show is damn funny!).

Books: I would have to say that Anne Rice is my favorite fiction author. I love her vampire series...Im currently reading 'vampire armand', just finished 'memnoch the devil'. Any book that has to do with typology (MBTI, astrology, Keirsey, enneagram, Jungian functions, etc). I also very much enjoy reading books I can learn from...usually various non-fiction stuff etc.

Music: I <3 metal! llmll Deftones, Stabbing Westward, God lives underwater, Ours, Linkin Park, Tool, Perfect Circle, HIM, Danzig, Korn, Smashing Pumpkins, Metallica (old stuff), Offspring (old stuff), Def Leopard, Guns N Roses, AFI, My Chemical Romance, CKY, Jimmy Eat World, Incubus, Our Lady Peace, Cake, Jack Johnson, Content Life, Journey, Depeche Mode, The Cure, Talk Talk, Sarah Mclachlan, Coldplay, John Mayer, Keane, Beatles, Gipsy Kings, Modern Talking, ATB, Most 80's music, lots of classic rock, etc.

* this list needs some sort of update (1-11-08). Heres some other stuff Ive been listening to lately: Chevelle, Circa Survive, Seether, Last Falling, Apartment 26, Sister Machine Gun (Ive actually loved them for years heh), Mindless Self Indulgence, Muse, Red hot chili peppers, System of a down, Alanis Morissette, the Sundays, The Smiths, Lacuna Coil, and various metal and rock music....

Foods: I am following a pescetarian diet (no beef, chicken, pork, etc...seafood okay) for moral/environmental reasons. My absolute faves are Lobster and Crab, but I like a variety of different kinds of food. I like Polish food, Italian food, Thai food, Indian Food, Japanese Food...anything that is different/exotic and usually healthy. I loves them veggies! Never met a veggie I didnt like. And I am not too fond of junk food/fast food. But I'll try anything...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Son (and family). Good conversation, music, my dog Zu, affection, true understanding (and of course food and water and such things).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People and their motivations, their feelings, their thoughts, our similarities... helping people if they want it, my life, how I can be a better person, the future, the past, the now, why, does any of it even matter?, how I can learn/grow (or have learned) from the present circumstances, understanding, acceptance, the environment, FREEDOM!- demanding it for myself and others, yin/yang, nature, energy, school, health, finances (jesus christ the gas prices are high!), typology, music, movies, physical affection ;)... My mind goes a thousand miles per hour. I can even have two conversations at once!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Post Baby: Either at home cooking/doing chores, spending time with my family, or sometimes out with friends.

Pre baby: Like to watch movies... see friends... go to shows (when the funds allow for it)... read... have meaningful conversations... playing a board game (or something like D&D..yes Im one of THOSE, lol). doing various projects. Going on random adventures! I definitely prefer being around others than being by myself though...so...Im pretty much okay with doing whatever so long as Im around people I like. or studying.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I haven't had the easiest past, but Ive beaten considerable odds to be the person that I am today. *flexes muscles* :)

Im addicted to chocolate!

and although metal/rock owns my heart <3.. I listen to totally cheesy horribly wonderful dance/pop when Im getting ready in the morning lol! :P

I feel like an alien in this world. Like everyone else is blue and Im green. Though I seem to be wearing a mask because most of the time it seems like I might just be "one of them"...but Im not. I dont fit. The more time you spend with me the more you will realize that what you were seeing was your own mirror image and Im really somebody entirely different! Im looking for another soul that doesnt quite belong here...If you live in the future (or in unlimited creativity that has you asking "what if" constantly throughout the day), but yet feel the moment, see what cannot usually be seen, find beauty in everything around you even though you absorb the ugliness at the same time, search constantly for answers to the silliest of questions, laugh at things that most arent quick or creative enough to put together...etc etc.. you might get who I am. Maybe. And if you possibly do... please reach out. Because there are not enough of us and I want to know you.

*Update: Not sure where to put this so it's going here. :P I wanted to add that my body has changed somewhat since making a baby...it sure does interesting things to a woman's body! Lol. My pregnancy was extremely difficult and i was on bedrest the entire time. I gained 77 lbs, a third of my weight. I have since lost 52 lbs but am still not where i was before. I left some older photos up because they show my personality very well and also show where i am heading back to. I recently posted new full body pics in a separate album on here so that there is no misrepresentation. Oh! And you can't tell in the picture but the under backside of my hair is currently dark green :)

Also, Ive had this profile on OKC for about 10 years, before it was ever a dating site. So there is a lot of information on here that I written over the years!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Friends: You think we might get along and youre in my area ....if we have similar interests...If youre a decent person (no liars please)... If you really want to?

Potential Dating Partners: If you are looking for something real and not just a hook up. You think we might be a good match, or you'd like to find out.

Intelligence,wit, kindness, and honor are greatly appreciated. Please have a healthy relationship with conflict (i.e: you don't use avoidance tactics, don't sweep things under the rug, aren't passive aggressive, and don't start fights just to make conflict because you cannot feel comfortable without it), I work hard to get through issues as they arise and much prefer the same. Also, if you are the "too cool for school" type, then you are too cool for me as well ;)

*Also, I seem to get along well with aspie's who are low end on the spectrum (as long as they are the type who actually value relationships and are good with physical affection etc). I can communicate very well with aspie's which is a major plus in my book.

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