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48 M Alameda, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 36–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 13
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Tremendously contemplative,
eminently creative,
sharp, sarcastic, and kind.


Very intuitive.

I have cracked open the luminous nature of the world, and am amazed, and the grace from that knowing is not far from me.

I understand the intellectual game very well, but don't want to play it too seriously. Though beautiful, I'd rather move, fall in love with the sensuous; hold one another; stare into the night sky.

I care deeply and passionately about life (humans, nature, food, kids, architecture, cities, nieces and nephews, making things, coming up with new ideas, small things that are too beautiful to ignore; color; language).

Life is an emotionally intense journey, full of tremendous beauty and many challenges. Wouldn't you say? To me, this is the game we are playing, and it's not about always being "happy" (or sad, of course) but it is about being alive; very alive.

I sound intense, but I have a calming, accepting presence that radiates care.

I listen.

I was raised in Berkeley; taught that everyone is equal; God is love; and we can make a difference on the world.

I renounce costumes and labels, when they get in the way of realness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Sacred Economics
Let's Get Real or Let's Not Play
A New Earth.
The Diamond Cutter.
Spiral Dynamics.

Many business books, because business could help people do good things, and be free. Social entrepreneurship, the reform of money, awakened management.

I love: Ram Dass, Eckhart Tolle, Harry Palmer, Pema Chodron, Thich Nhat Hanh.

Also: Harry Shearer, Ira Glass, Glynn Washington, Scott Simon.

And admire: Peter Senge, Brian Tracy, Seth Godin.

Lately into: Frou Frou (Imogen Heap), slack key guitar, still like Luna, sometimes very sappy indie pop like Snow Patrol. Regina Spektor, Guided by Voices, Belle & Sebastian, Yo La Tengo, Massive Attack, Dar Williams, The Weepies, Krishna Das, Tibetan chants, James Brown, The Velvet Underground (forever), Lucinda Williams, Jonathan Richman, Missisippi John Hurt, The Carter Family.

Vietnamese Phở, wheatgrass and sunflower sprouts, a very very good piece of chocolate cake; a very very good cup of coffee, mixed greens salad, roasted vegetables, a very simple, thin pizza. Too-hot pozole, blue corn Christmas enchiladas, or a real taqueria burrito.

Wings of Desire, Brazil, Raising Arizona, Groundhog Day, X-Pax, Office Space, The Princess Bride, Rushmore, Bottle Rocket, Swimming to Cambodia, Magnolia, Firefly.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Cycling. (Rather slowly and all over.)
You should message me if
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You wear your heart on your sleeve. You love this world deeply, but are sometimes bowled over by it. You are tender, and available, and present, and alive.

You have a playfulness somewhere in there, who remembers what it feels like to be three.

You know that there is a smile, deeply embedded in the heart of the world.

You have a passionate, active mind, but impulsively grasp at the sensuous experience of life (not settling for the conceptual).

You want a silly, passionate person, with an endlessly inventive mind, and the curving balance of your sensuousness rounds him out. His endlessly creative, and caring mind rounds you out.

The cultivation of the Actual Beautiful (as an emergent quality) is most important--not emulation of any pre-defined ideal.

You are sincere, strong, and heartfelt. You are not afraid to have your feelings, or be around a man who is not afraid either.

You care deeply about people; love; life.
You have an inner practice.
You like breakfasts and bike rides.

You like overly-earnest people, and want to help them party.

Also ... you consider it natural that relationship has phases of blissful joy, but also points of prickliness; and you think that these points are not a sign that something is "wrong"; but rather, you greet these (however trepidatiously) as opportunities to grow, through honest and kind communication with the other, and through this, to deepen with the other.

Also ... Let's just try to be as kind to each other as possible, no matter how it goes, OK? This is not an *easy* process. Let's give each other closure, if we go out on a date (and it doesn't turn out to "click"), even though we don't *have* to. Let's assume the best of one another. Let's presume we're all trying as hard as we can, and be as loving, kind an encouraging to one another, no matter what happens — k? — The added benefit of this, is that often you end up with some nice friends out of the process :-)