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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22-40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My details

Last online
Oct 4
Straight, Heteroflexible
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
6' 4" (1.93m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Man, a lot has changed since the last time I updated this profile! I guess that's what you get for being on a dating site for almost 10 years. Dang. I am still married to BMinor, though, and we're still an OKC success story. :)

Rationality is the one value from which most of my others are derived, which is not always a good thing, but hey. Like most people, I'm no paragon of sanity and good decisions, but I try to keep level-headedness as my primary virtue. Unfortunately, this often leads to stunted emotional growth, but I've been working on that for a long-ass time! It also makes me an agnostic in the purest sense of the term; the idea is that you should question everything in your life, not just your religion.

I've got an INTP personality, and demonstrate most of the textbook INTP qualities. If you are an INTP or INTJ, I guarantee we'll get along, if only to further our secret dominion over the less analytical personalities. (This week's password is "susurrus".) I like people who are genuinely kind and understanding, people who challenge me, people who are smarter than me, and people who eschew traditional roles, genders, jobs, and conversations.

I really like learning on the fly and becoming sort-of proficient at a lot of things in a short time. This makes coding web tools a lot less boring! I will usually listen with rapt attention to your eccentric hobby, because I hoard information like a jealous dragon.

I can be straightforward in that INTP sort of way, but not the autistic way -- you know what I mean? I say tactless or blunt things because I evaluated the situation and decided that "fuck it, we'll do it live" was the best (or at least most fun) course of action. I am hard to offend, and often make the mistake of thinking that others are the same way, which goes great with my habit of assuming things too quickly. Sometimes I get excited about something mundane and begin to resemble a loud and eager moose. For all my flaws, though, I try really hard to be compassionate, friendly, and reliable. And according to BMinor, I'm doing okay.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work for AOL in Ashburn (yeah, that AOL, it's still around) and quite like it, surprisingly. I lived in the Midwest all my life before moving to NoVA, and it's a bit...different. There's so many people in such a small space! Hardly any of you are corn. It's been five years, and I still feel overwhelmed by the traffic and the number of people.

Not really sure where I want my career to go. Maybe try my luck with a web startup when I have enough savings? For a long time I was convinced I wanted a career in the games industry, but I'm having a great time living on its fringes, instead. I've gotten to do a lot of cool stuff with Rock Band, as a player and developer, and I may still try to make an indie game at some point. Motivation is hard.

Unsurprisingly, I'm into video games, on both PC and console. I've been having my first proper MMO endgame experience with Final Fantasy XIV, it's a good time! I do a lot of reading. BMinor and I are both into board games. Domesticated animals are fuzzy and adorable (or scaly and adorable, or whatever) and I want to touch them. All of them. Touch all the animals.

I've been trying to branch out into more hobbies, like marksmanship, maybe? Tell me your cool hobbies and why I should do them, and we can go do them together!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Music games (Rock Band, DDR, etc.)

Problem solving

Seeing the best in people, and general naïveté

Trying too hard

Not trying hard enough

Making lists
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My size. I'm tall (6'4") and overweight. I am an ogre.

I could put something thought-provoking here, but no, I'm 6'4". Anything else you notice is probably going to take a back seat.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Terry Pratchett's Discworld series; the His Dark Materials series; Stranger in a Strange Land; the Song of Ice and Fire series; Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance; Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman!; Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality; The Dresden Files; lots of random sci-fi and fantasy; even more completely random entries from other genres; Terry Pratchett, Robert Anton Wilson, Neil Gaiman, Brandon Sanderson

Movies: Wayne's World, Mean Girls, Interstella 5555, Good Will Hunting, Ocean's Eleven, Inception, Little Miss Sunshine, Wristcutters: A Love Story, Trainspotting, Anchorman, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Pulp Fiction, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Groundhog Day, Love Actually, Mulan, The Emperor's New Groove, most other Disney movies, all Pixar movies, a whole bunch more I can't remember

TV/etc.: Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, Rick and Morty, Bob's Burgers, Archer, Parks and Recreation, 30 Rock, Broad City, The IT Crowd, New Girl, The Mindy Project, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Avatar: The Last Airbender, The Legend of Korra, Adventure Time, Regular Show, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Orange is the New Black, The United States of Tara, and some more I also don't remember

Music: Daft Punk, "Weird Al" Yankovic, Queen, They Might Be Giants, Jonathan Coulton, Cake, Styx, Thin Lizzy, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Rush, Coheed and Cambria, Metric, Modest Mouse, Boston, Electric Six, Lady Gaga, The Faint, Bang Camaro, Mother Mother, Them Crooked Vultures, Ben Folds, Jukebox the Ghost, Brand New, OK Go, Panic at the Disco, Phoenix, Pixies, Spoon, The Dead Weather, The Raconteurs, Two Door Cinema Club, most popular music from the 90s

Food: I won't insult other users of OKC by trying to list foods I like here. I have the palate of a 7-year-old, much to BMinor's chagrin. Put it this way: I really, really like Panda Express.

Let's do "favorite games":

Games: Rock Band, Guitar Hero, Dance Central, DDR (Dance Dance Revolution), Legend of Zelda series, Metroid series, Final Fantasy series, Katamari Damacy, Cave Story, I Wanna Be the Guy, Earthbound, Half-Life series, Portal, Psychonauts, Dominion, Citadels, Puerto Rico, other board/card games. I will play any game you set in front of me, electronic or otherwise.

And hell, how about webcomics, too:

Webcomics: Gunnerkrigg Court, Stand Still Stay Silent, Ava's Demon, Questionable Content, Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal, Girly, Templar, Arizona, Gunshow, xkcd, Kid Radd
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) The ability to change and adapt

2) Games (video, card, board, tabletop, etc.)

3) The company of intelligent, genuine, and funny people

4) The Internet

5) BMinor

6) Music

7) The ability to question everything
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I don't know, but wish I did.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
About 50/50 odds of:

1) Being lame at our apartment, probably playing video games or reading or generally doing introvert stuff because the idea of going out is intimidating.

2) Hanging out with cool people JUST LIKE YOU! Possibly still at our apartment, but maybe you've coerced me to go to a show or something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My contact information, for one. I'm not always on OKC, but feel free to ping me on:
AIM - pksage88
Google Talk - pk.sage ^at^

Otherwise, I'm not a private person, and don't have many secrets. Biggest non-obvious thing: Mild gender dysphoria. I'm comfortable with being male, but would feel more natural as a woman.
You should message me if
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You want to be friends and/or you want to hook up with the two of us. Living in the DC area is a plus, but never a requirement.