People talk to me. And then they say, Why am I telling you all this?

I have a girlish voice and am unusually open and I'm a worldly native who has copies of the New York Review of Books and The New Yorker stacked up around my house. Claudia Dreyfus-Louis (she was the woman on Seinfeld) would play me in the movie.

I asked a friend to write something about me (she's a very persuasive person):

"Every time I'm with you, I feel more alive; my world opens up with new possibilities. You like to laugh and it's contagious. You're up for almost anything. You are non-judgmental, courageous, intuitive, supportive, very kind, very intelligent, capable of self-reflection and unafraid to change. Also, you have a way of being outspoken without being inappropriate and insensitive. It's rare that you find all those characteristics in a single person."

She is a sweet friend.

I am a freelance journalist, Ivy grad, who does yoga most days. I run a poetry group, and stay close to my Dad who is in love again at 83! I like dancing and dance and theater performances, and am always looking for ways to be outdoors.

My longest relationship lasted ten years and we were extraordinarily close until he died. Since then, serial monogamy. I value intimacy of all kinds. My family of dear friends is essential to me. Although I have no children, I would be happy if you do, and have a fantasy of being a stepgrandma. I have mentored teenagers and loved it.

storytelling cooking interpreting poetry gourmet food for limited diets, conversation, seeing both sides, asking questions, metaphors, massage, decorating, dancing charming strangers.

My openness and intelligence. And that they're telling me alot about themselves.

Suite Francais, Mrs. Dalloway, Felicia's Journey, Le Divorce, Huckleberry Finn, Lolita...Kay Ryan's poetry, Indian and Asian fusion food, Big Love, The Wire, Being John Malkovich,The Night of the Hunter, Rashomon, Sam Cooke, Otis Redding, Paul Simon, Cole Porter, Bonnie Rait, Bob Marley, "Crying," Beethoven, Rufus Wainwright (lucky Rufus next to Beethoven)

I hate having to eat only one cuisine for more than a few weeks

water, as in sailing, swimming, walking alongside it, lying on a beach listening to it, carrying it around in a bottle or cup

colors I like green especially (these little green boxes with the crayon in them on this site are sweet)

Hope of some otherworldly kind. I liked talking to the chaplins when my mother was dying and I like dancing at shul. I see religion as metaphors.

what I'm reading, what's going well, how to live happily and well, how my friends are doing.

at synagogue, or seeing a friend.

I once wrote a love letter to William James. He is the mentor in my head, both on philosophy and psychology. Please write me if that means something to you.

see above.
Any/OR... (these are not requirements)

Also, though this list may seem long, all of this is true of me

You like to waltz or contra dance or other kinds of dance (or would learn).

You are a basically upbeat, kind companion and intellectually-minded conversationalist who wants to do new things together--even after the first six months.

You like outdoor activities: xcountry in winter, beach in summer.

Add engaging philosophical discussion and I would be over the moon.

You are financially responsible and ethical.

You can apologize if need be, and don't need to be "right."

You can make requests and state complaints in a useful way.

You have time for another person.

You are open to love.

No longer true of me:

If you are or have been an academic or if you've adopted a child from another country...though these are not requirements.

I'm open to the suburbs and possibly long distance (especially if where you live is beautiful or an academic town) if you'll come to New York within a month or two.

Note to lesbians who have been burned by bisexuals: I don't cheat and I wouldn't leave any reasonably happy relationship because I thought I'd met someone male/better. I don't think that way.

Note to men: I've noticed that men I've spent time with have had older sisters they loved and admired and/ or single mothers. On my end, I have an older brother and my parents were happily married for fifty years.

I weed out kid-in-candy-store men fast.