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polarisandorion

40 Arlington, MA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 24–41
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:27pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Diet
Vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm musing over the two over sized bars in my personality tab - 1) MORE ARROGANT - I hope to understand this a bit more. Your observations will be helpful. 2) LESS EXPERIENCED IN LOVE of the intimate relationship type. This I understand. A reciprocal/reciprocated love will shorten this bar.
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Thanks for being here at this moment. There are two ways (among many others) to spend a string of 15 minutes - 1) To read the following "self-summary" or 2) accept a mutual invitation to buy each other a beverage and talk for 15 (hopefully more) minutes. The choice is yours.....
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I often wonder about social conditioning. May be you can share your thoughts further beyond the fork.....

.....there was a fork in the road, and thereby you came upon this summary. Welcome!

Why-am-I-here motto - The thought of a good date a week for years with the person you love and adore as the sheer ecstasy of being alive. Moreover, I and you, alone in our ways cannot cover the beauty and the reality of all that goes on beyond the limited awareness of our individual senses.

My highest goals in life - 1) To be the undisputed king of silliness, champion of goofiness, and be at the pinnacle of quirkiness (it's a tough one), 2) To consistently love the work I do, 3) To cherish the ones whom I have known (even fleetingly) over the years.

A Friendly Note - The summary is long - and your suggested edits will be highly appreciated.

Note 2 : I'm looking to befriend (as in good honest friendship that provides intellectual companionship which we would cherish for years) single women AND if I come across that sweet-heart who will make me log-out forever from dating websites than that will be wonderful.

Which book am I reading now? - 1) The Wilderness World Of John Muir. 2) Flash Boys by Michael Lewis.

Around my watercooler - These are thoughts and trivia stuff going on in my life posted under the "Journal" tab. OKC has decided to take this tab out of publication.

Chronology - present going into past. I am a scientist by profession. I have lived more than 40 % of my life in the United States Of America. I completed graduate school in USA. Before that I lived in India, the country of my birth. I studied undergrad in India. People and cultures always fascinated me. When I was a kid, I often had dreams of being on an airplane and visiting distant countries. Whether I like it or not, growing up in India in a vastly different socio-economic environment will make me seem come across as unconventional (this is true for almost anyone who moves away from HOME after their formative years). Being unconventional (often a plus, but not always) is a product of experiences bygone.

You And Me What is it that will inspire a communication between me and you - two complete and random strangers?

Beautiful moments are to be shared. Doing things is great, but having somebody special to do with makes it magical. The presence of the other person imparts meaning to the memories to cherish for our entire lives.

It's not easy meeting people outside of organized activity such as work/classes/places of worship (church, temple, etc). I've personally realized that it takes openness of mind, heart and a leap of faith. In the last few years, I've consciously tried to seek out opportunities to strike a conversation with people (I feel better if that person is a woman around my age) around me when I am traveling, grocery shopping, bookstore, coffee store. This exercise has somehow inexplicably made me a better human being (I hope I am correct in my self-assessment). These occasional interactions have sometimes rewarded me with a window into the other person's life and vice-versa. In turn, it has opened up my mind to the limitations of my unique individual experiences, my strengths, and my shortcomings.

Fun And Relaxation Books - mostly non-fiction and some fiction, travel, music - the big savior in sticky times, to be in touch with people, Netflix - foreign language and subtitles are good too, wandering about the town, occasional concert, museums - add to fun and introspection, neighborhood bookstores, pandora.com, the thought of another visit to Lollapalooza, National Parks. National Parks have provided me the sharpest, most beautiful, the most powerful and moving moments in my life.

Thoughts I admire and find strength in the philosophy of Dalai Lama, Gandhi, Emerson, John Muir, Buffett (you cannot find a more genuine/honest capitalist than Buffett). Their writings have also provided multiple ways to appreciate and understand a very complex world and thereby stay away from dogma.

Food And Drinks I love food from almost all ethnic origins. I am a vegetarian. This should not limit our chances to meet up.

Animals are awesome and honest. I love them. They do not talk, but they convey in their silence and animal-speak. If you have a dog, than it will be a bonus for me.

Sports I'll be happy to share and be a part of your enthusiasm for your favorite sport.

Synchronicity is a fascinating thing. It's an abstract idea but then comes a moment when we can distinctly sense/feel it. It somehow connects one random experience with another random experience to provide an aha! moment. It's almost a conduit to provide meaning to our perceptions of randomness.

Friendship is an amazing bond and as significant as a family. Like most good things, it is hard to find and needs nurturing and a good balance.

Religion - I strongly believe that virtue and reverence for life blooms from compassion and mindfulness. It seems to me that the construct of organized religion leads to dogma which subjugates the highest qualities of being human. It is likely that every individual's unique life experience colors their idea/belief of religion and acceptance or skepticism.

Gratitude, respect, love, and duty toward life around us are powerful thoughts. I believe that our joys, gifts, the wonderful life around us, and "our own" presence is because of forces far more magical than we can even begin to comprehend.

This summary is not complete yet. In the meantime, you take care, and I would love to hear from you. Your friend.

Things I care for Friends, Music, Books, Cultures, Movies, Travel, Family.
What I’m doing with my life
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This sounds like a simple question "What I'm doing with my life". But, as I scratch below the surface, and take a deeper look than the simplicity of this question disappears. I am a scientist - my research is related to medicines and health-care. Beyond this, I am learning to keep an open mind to understand the subtle things that happen in my life and in life around me. I am trying to discover life as it unfolds. To fill my moments with the best that life has to offer - nature, people, books, music, art, science - is the hope. I want to be better tomorrow than I am today.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and Talking to strangers.
Planning vacation trips.
Having a good laugh.
Watching movies.
Being curious.
Remembering important dates.
Having a good shower.
Giving a super massage - though I may be losing practice.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The obvious and NOT so obvious -

The obvious - My accent and I'm short. How tall I am has not changed in the last many years, but the trending opinion is that the same cannot said for my accent. The extent of Indian in it is inversely proportional to the length of time you have known me.

The NOT so obvious - Each one of you will notice something which may be unique or may be not, and it depends on your frame of mind. There is no statistical average of the multiple perceptions of multiple people. But if you look closely than you may notice an openness of mind, ability to conjure moments of clear unconcealed healthy humor, curiosity, skepticism, love for life, thankfulness, independence, love for people/animals and a skepticism of organized religion.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books - Travels with Charley - In Search of America John Steinbeck, Stumbling on Happiness, A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, The Prophet, Three Cups Of Tea, Shantaram, Merle's Door, Life Of Pi, Tuesdays With Morrie, The Boy In The Striped Pajamas, Into The Wild, A Man Without A Country (Kurt Vonnegut), Jonathan Livingston Seagull, The Curious Incident Of The Dog In The Night Time, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Henry David Thoreau, John Muir, and many many more.

Favorite movies - 12 Angry Men, Shawshank Redemption, Gone With The Wind, Cast Away, The Truman Show, Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind, Casablanca, Amélie, The Pianist, Alfred Hitchcock, When Harry Met Sally, Life Is Beautiful, The Wild Parrots Of Telegraph Hill The Way Home, The World's Fastest Indian, The Curious Case Of Benjamin Button, Pale Male, The Simple Life Of Noah Dearborn, Groundhog Day, The Chorus, Madagascar - II, Kung Fu Panda, Forrest Gump, Mr. Smith Goes To Washington, It Happened One Night, Yes Man, Karol:A Man Who Became Pope, The Tunnel, Dan In Real Life,Duma, Horatio's Drive, Finding Forrester, White Fang, Pixar movies, Happy Accidents, Blue, Rain Man, Fly Away Home, Cactus Flower, The Illusionist, An Education, Hachi: A Dog's Tale, and more.

Favorite Music - Arcade Fire, Au Revoir Simone, Band Of Horses, Beach Boys, Beatles, Ben Folds, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, Bob Seger, Branford Marsalis, Bryan Adams, Coldplay, Decemberists, Depeche Mode, Dire Straits, Django Reinhardt, Don Henley, Eddie Vedder, Green Day, Instrumental, Jack Johnson, Jan Hammer, Joe Satriani, John Coltrane, Johnny Cash, Ladytron, Marcus Miller, Mark Knopfler, Mars Lasar, Metallica, Muse, Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Pet Shop Boys, Poets Of The Fall, REM, Robert Miles, Savage Garden, Simple Minds, Snow Patrol, Soundtracks, Sting, The National, U2, White Lies, World Music,Symphonies, Classical.

Food - Vegetarian - South Indian, Thai, Mediterranean, Mexican, Pizza, Soups, anything healthy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family and A (Few) Good Friends
Books and Music
Exercise
Hope and Imagination
Learning
Conversation & Intimacy (These two are a corollary to Family & Friends)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1) Life is a great gift, a blessing and how to treat life better.
2) How to return the favors that have come my way.
3) Music
4) Friends/Family
5) Cricket
6) National Parks
7) Next Concert
8) Women
9) Occasionally, I wonder about how many honest, intelligent, and warm messages were sent AND replied to by the OKC community. The trends and surprises therein.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Any of the following - at an independent coffee-tea shop/reading a book/ listening to music/ may be a movie/ may be meeting up a friend or two.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am no Cary Grant. With the right woman, I may just be better than him!

On a realistic note, I'll be happy to share on this if you give us a chance to meet in person.
You should message me if
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Message me "if" is very limiting. Whereas, your curiosity, and your-wish-to-message has no limits, therefore write away and your message will be the additional inspiration of my day. Who doesn't like a well written thoughtful message!

PS: Mutual chemistry is a nebulous feeling. One solid way is to create it, dig for it, and discover it for our own surprise.