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38 Seattle, WA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–46
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 5
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Okay), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Curious, nomadic, analytical, impulsive, affectionate, polyamorous, verbose, technical, sweet, ethical, and many other machine-indexable adjectives.
What I’m doing with my life
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***PLEASE NOTE: Due to a family medical emergency I'm going to be offline and not very social for some number of months. Please don't take any lack of reply personally; I appreciate thoughtful messages, just won't be responding until things have settled down.***

I have a Career. (As a friend noted recently, "Wow, so you were actually 'touring the facility'.") I get to be equal parts geek and suit, which is tremendous fun because it lets me be as fully ADD as I'd like to be, while still getting to analyze complex systems.

Previously I was doing international development volunteer work, and tech entrepreneurship, and building up my relationships with my chosen-family folks. I've also lived in a handful of foreign countries, including the Midwest.
I’m really good at
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Answering questions on the internet, apparently. Unless conciseness is required for being considered "really good at" that.

I'm really good at analyzing ideas and making them better.

And willpower. I have a lot of it.

And learning.

And forgetting. It's my special talent.
The first things people usually notice about me
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It depends on how we meet.

At work it's probably something like, "Wow, she really does not shut up." (And also probably, "How did she wrangle a couch when the rest of us are all stuck in cubicles?" Answer: go drinking with the office manager. This is also how I managed to get a stealth username of GLaDOS on our corporate email.)

In company of my roommate it might be, "Wow, she's really quiet," because I actually can shut up for long periods when in the presence of a chatterbox.

On the street, my guess is either, "Redhead," or, "Nice boots," depending on the direction your eyes travel.

Online it's probably the profile name, which I've been asked about: my two childhood heroes were and have always been Indiana Jones and Pollyanna. Smoosh them together and that's pretty much me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Just assume, for purposes of media consumption, that I am a dude. I have complete suspension of disbelief for almost all forms of media, which means that I have truly unfortunate taste in film and that I LOVE it. Seriously, I actually saw The Expendables in the theater on purpose. I'm also a SIFF member and will see and enjoy the rarer stuff, like Stolen or The Imposter or Coffee and Cigarettes or The Story of Film. Worm was amazing. Anna Karenina suffered from a chronic lack of explosions.

Recently I directed a short film as part of SIFF's Crash Cinema program. There will definitely be more filmmaking in my future.

I'm a bibliovore, but the last few years have been solidly on the side of nonfiction. Science, economics, general history, technology, etc. Because I spend so much time reading nonfiction stuff for work and proto-work, my fiction tends toward mind candy. John Scalzi is my hero.

Don't bother trying to give me a music education; it's hopeless. I can't hear song lyrics and have only the most tenuous of grasps on the difference between broad genres. I experience music kinesthetically and judge it solely on the basis of its capacity for making my butt wiggle or hairs on the back of my neck stand up. However, I realize that I live in the middle of one of the world's great music cities, so I'm making a conscious effort to experience more of it. I don't know what it is that C89.5 does to Saturday nights, but it is the awesomest thing ever.

Food, yes. I like food, although not often American food. Humans eat bread, animals, plants, and alcohol. I eat very little that was invented post refrigeration. Cooking can be fun, but you can also consider me a dude in that respect: I make things that involve meat and fire. I cannot hard boil an egg to save my life (seriously, not even with one of those microwave boiler contraptions) but I've been told that my Drunken French Toast is the best thing to ever happen on the morning after a GoRuck. As an emphatic non-participant but enthusiastic bystander, I will bow to their judgement on that.

Everyone has favorite cuisines of course but that doesn't seem like a thing one ought to judge a potential suitor on. (Movie preferences, of course, are fair game. You can totally judge me for my staunch unwillingness to ever watch Requiem For a Dream again.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can do without pretty much everything, at least until I die of asphyxiation/thirst/exposure/hunger.

But I really like having the internet.

And pillows. Truly I own so many that I had to ask a fellow writer what the collective noun for pillows is. (A "fort.")

People are not things, but of course I can't do without them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I just spend a lot of time thinking, period. No particular subject, or maybe all subjects. I daydream and analyze, learn and teach, create and disassemble.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sadly I am probably home on the computer. I've been buying an investment property, moving into a new apartment, and generally involved in a few time-consuming chores that require a lot of research and have taken up my free time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm willing to admit many private things in person. Not so much on the interwebs.

But I'll use this space to counter a common set of assumptions about me: I look soft and girly and have been compared to Christina Hendricks by multiple people on account of both my figure and my wardrobe. But I've lived out of a backpack, worked in dangerous areas of the developing world, and could deadlift most of my female friends. I'm proud of all these things, and amused that they're stealth attributes.

Okay, one thing that requires an admission: I hate nature. Not as in "oil spills, fuck yeah!" but as in camping or hiking. I'm a city person. Being in the woods or out in the middle of the wilderness is the least fun activity I can think of, excluding dentistry.

Does not apply to the ocean; I love being on, in, or under water. I own a wetsuit and kayaking gloves, and am a certified scuba diver. Still, this is Seattle so the above paragraph might be the closest thing we have to blasphemy.
You should message me if
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you've just learned something new and had to share it with someone.

you know what Byrnie Utz and Blackbird are without googling.

OKQ believes we are approaching the second standard deviation of compatibility.

you have a current passport.

you have a passion that involves doing something or creating something, and you aren't satisfied unless other people can experience and appreciate what you've made or done.

you do martial arts/Tough Mudder/GoRuck/weight lifting/rowing/[fill-in-the-blank physical activity.] For myself I like weight lifting, dance, and swimming, but not as joint activities; it simply happens that almost everyone I've ever been attracted to or successfully dated is some flavor of athlete and/or martial artist.

You should NOT message me if:
-you're a couple
-you're married or already in a primary relationship that doesn't have room for me having equal time and importance
-OKQ doesn't think we make a good match
-you make or play video games as a full time activity. This is a weird stipulation, but if you're in that field and have followed anything to do with gender politics in the last year, you'll understand. Also I used to be in the industry and it feels like that point in a PhD program in which someone wanting to socially discuss or debate one's topic of research is grounds for justifiable homicide.
-you wear costumes at times other than Halloween or for some kind of performance art. I don't mind if people do, I just don't find it hot. (Except the performance art bit. That's hot.) But for some reason the Almighty Algorithm seems to think I'm really into the cosplayers. o.O

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