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35 Seattle, WA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–42
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 2:41pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Curious, nomadic, analytical, impulsive, affectionate, polyamorous, verbose, intelligent, sweet, ethical, and many other adjectives.

If you're in to the Myers-Briggs, I'm always an N and a P, but the E/I and F/T change regularly.

If you're in a hurry, skip down to the "You should message me if" section.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a career that lets me be equally technical and business-oriented. I'm also spending a lot of time in the pool, and have just gotten back to weight lifting after long injury.

Previously I was doing international development volunteer work, and tech entrepreneurship, and building up my relationships with my chosen-family folks. I've also lived in a number of foreign countries, including the Midwest.

I've moved to and from Seattle several times, and my latest attempt has verified that yes, the Seattle Freeze is a thing. It's very easy to make quick friends at an event, but very difficult to generate ongoing social activities. Massive bonus points to you if you have a giant social circle and/or a ton of social activities available at a whim. I will unashamedly use you for your networking talents.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Answering questions on the internet, apparently. Unless conciseness is required for being considered "really good at" that.

I'm really good at analyzing ideas and making them better.

And willpower. I have a lot of it.

And learning.

And thrift through procrastination.

And forgetting. It's my special talent. Seriously, I will have no idea when our anniversary is. You know that scene at the beginning of Mr. and Mrs. Smith, when Brad Pitt is saying, "We've been together for five years.. six.. five or six years," and Angelina Jolie says, "Seven!"? I'm Brad Pitt.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My guess is either, "Redhead," or, "Nice boots," depending on the direction your eyes travel.

Then it's probably that I smile most of the time, without noticing that I'm smiling. (I discovered that about myself while living in Ukraine, where smiling at strangers is rude. Sorry, Kyiv.)

Online it's probably the profile name, which I've been asked about: my two childhood heroes were and have always been Indiana Jones and Pollyanna. Smoosh them together and that's pretty much me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Just assume, for purposes of media consumption, that I am a dude. I have complete suspension of disbelief for almost all forms of media, which means that I have truly unfortunate taste in film and that I LOVE it. Seriously, I actually saw The Expendables in the theater on purpose. I'm also a SIFF member and will see and enjoy the rarer stuff, like Stolen or The Story of Film. Anna Karenina suffered from a chronic lack of explosions.

I'm a bibliovore, but the last few years have been solidly on the side of nonfiction. Science, economics, general history, technology, etc. Because I spend so much time reading nonfiction stuff for work and proto-work, my fiction tends toward mind candy. Robert Galbraith (aka Non-Harry-Potter JK Rowling) actually writes fantastic modern detective novels. The British History Podcast is pretty amazing.

Food, yes. I eat food, although not often American food. Humans eat bread, animals, plants, and alcohol. I eat very little that was invented post refrigeration. I've tried vegetarianism twice (and gave it full, concerted effort) but it made me horribly ill and unhealthy. I'm probably somewhere between French and paleo, by cuisine preference rather than by ideology.

Everyone has favorite foods of course but that doesn't seem like a thing one ought to judge a potential suitor on. (Movie preferences, of course, are fair game. You can totally judge me for my staunch unwillingness to ever watch Requiem For a Dream again.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can do without pretty much everything, at least until I die of asphyxiation/thirst/exposure/hunger.

But I really like having the internet. It's where I keep my stuff.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I just spend a lot of time thinking, period. No particular subject, or maybe all subjects. I daydream and analyze, learn and teach, create and disassemble.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sadly I am probably home on the computer. I've been involved in a few time-consuming chores that require a lot of research and have taken up my free time.

Also, most of my Seattle friends have moved away or acquired toddlers, so I'm hoping to find some actual Friday night revelry.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm willing to admit many private things in person. Not so much on the interwebs.

But I'll use this space to counter a common set of assumptions about me: I look soft and girly and basically like somebody left Christina Hendricks in the dryer too long. But I've lived out of a backpack, worked in dangerous areas of the developing world, and (when un-injured) could deadlift most of my female friends. I'm proud of all these things, and amused that they're stealth attributes.

Okay, one thing requires an admission: I hate nature. Not as in "oil spills, fuck yeah!" but as in camping or hiking. I'm a city person. If you find me in the woods, the zombie apocalypse has occurred.

However! Does not apply to the ocean; I love being on, in, or under water. I own a wetsuit and kayaking gloves, and am a certified scuba diver. In June I competed in my first swim marathon and made it 3.5 to 5 miles depending on how you count it. (Next year's goal: 6 to 8 miles. Actual length of course: 12.5 miles.) Still, this is Seattle so being anti-camping might be the closest thing we have to blasphemy.

Also, I work in the tech industry but I am not a geek. Yes, I've seen Firefly, Star Trek, and Battlestar Galactica, and I liked them well enough, but conversing about them bores me to tears. The world I like to think about and spend time in is the real one. I enjoy science and intellectual conversation, but I have no idea what comic book character belongs in which universe. The saddest comment I've ever overheard was, "In the amount of time you've spent pretending to be a ninja, you could have become a ninja."
You should message me if
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you prefer to make the first move. I do enough of that at work; in private life I'm a bit more of the 1950s. Or Maggie Gyllenhaal circa 2002. If you have to google, we are probably not compatible.

you do martial arts/Tough Mudder/GoRuck/weight lifting/rowing/[fill-in-the-blank physical activity.] For myself I like weight lifting, dance, and swimming. Almost everyone I've ever been attracted to or successfully dated is some flavor of athlete and/or martial artist.

you know what Byrnie Utz is and/or have developed an appreciation for bespoke suits. Bonus points if you own a pair of cufflinks and fewer than two black t-shirts.

OKQ believes we are approaching the second standard deviation of compatibility.

you have a passion that involves doing something or creating something, and you aren't satisfied unless other people can experience and appreciate what you've made or done.

you're willing to write a message that doesn't comment on my appearance. I know I look good, and if you're messaging me I assume you think so too. "Hi, you're cute" just does not give me a lot to work with conversation-wise. There's lots of other stuff here. You're doing lots of interesting stuff. You're witty and literate and have opinions on the way the world works. Message me about that.

You should NOT message me if:
-you're a couple. No really.
-being a "nerd" or a "geek" is an important part of your identity.
-you're old enough to be my parent. This is creepy, happens a LOT, and will never result in a message response. Don't do it, dude. Back away from the keyboard.
-you're married or already in a primary relationship that doesn't have room for me having equal time and importance
-OKQ doesn't think we make a good match
-you play video games as a full time activity. This is a weird stipulation, but let's just say it has to do with ethics in journalism.
-you wear costumes at times other than Halloween or for some kind of performance art. (Burning Man qualifies as performance art.)
-there is an actual ocean between your residence and mine. People of Pakistan! Hi. Um. This is awkward, but why are you messaging me so much?
-you prefer not to write in acronyms (lol) and/or single letters (how r u). You must be at least this literate to ride this ride.