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34 Seattle, WA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–41
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Okay), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Curious, nomadic, analytical, impulsive, affectionate, polyamorous, verbose, technical, sweet, ethical, and many other machine-indexable adjectives.

If you're in to the Myers-Briggs, I'm always an N and a P, but the E/I and F/T change regularly.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a career that lets me be equally tech-nerdy and business-strategy...y. I'm also spending a lot of time in the pool, and am working through an injury to get back to weight lifting.

Previously I was doing international development volunteer work, and tech entrepreneurship, and building up my relationships with my chosen-family folks. I've also lived in a number of foreign countries, including the Midwest.

I've moved to and from Seattle several times, and my latest attempt has verified that yes, the Seattle Freeze is a thing. It's very easy to make quick friends at an event, but very difficult to generate ongoing social activities. Massive bonus points to you if you have a giant social circle and/or a ton of social activities available at a whim. I will unashamedly use you for your networking talents.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Answering questions on the internet, apparently. Unless conciseness is required for being considered "really good at" that.

I'm really good at analyzing ideas and making them better.

And willpower. I have a lot of it.

And learning.

And forgetting. It's my special talent. Seriously, I will have no idea when our anniversary is.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My guess is either, "Redhead," or, "Nice boots," depending on the direction your eyes travel.

Then it's probably that I smile most of the time, without noticing that I'm smiling. (I discovered that about myself while living in Ukraine, where smiling at strangers is rude. Sorry, Kyiv.)

Online it's probably the profile name, which I've been asked about: my two childhood heroes were and have always been Indiana Jones and Pollyanna. Smoosh them together and that's pretty much me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Just assume, for purposes of media consumption, that I am a dude. I have complete suspension of disbelief for almost all forms of media, which means that I have truly unfortunate taste in film and that I LOVE it. Seriously, I actually saw The Expendables in the theater on purpose. I'm also a SIFF member and will see and enjoy the rarer stuff, like Stolen or The Story of Film. Anna Karenina suffered from a chronic lack of explosions.

I'm a bibliovore, but the last few years have been solidly on the side of nonfiction. Science, economics, general history, technology, etc. Because I spend so much time reading nonfiction stuff for work and proto-work, my fiction tends toward mind candy. Robert Galbraith (aka Non-Harry-Potter JK Rowling) actually writes fantastic modern detective novels.

Food, yes. I like food, although not often American food. Humans eat bread, animals, plants, and alcohol. I eat very little that was invented post refrigeration. Cooking can be fun, but you can also consider me a dude in that respect: I make things that involve meat and fire. I cannot hard boil an egg to save my life (seriously, not even with one of those microwave boiler contraptions) but I've been told that my Drunken French Toast is the best thing to ever happen on the morning after a GoRuck. As an emphatic non-participant but enthusiastic bystander, I will bow to their judgement on that.

Everyone has favorite cuisines of course but that doesn't seem like a thing one ought to judge a potential suitor on. (Movie preferences, of course, are fair game. You can totally judge me for my staunch unwillingness to ever watch Requiem For a Dream again.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can do without pretty much everything, at least until I die of asphyxiation/thirst/exposure/hunger.

But I really like having the internet. It's where I keep my stuff.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I just spend a lot of time thinking, period. No particular subject, or maybe all subjects. I daydream and analyze, learn and teach, create and disassemble.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sadly I am probably home on the computer. I've been involved in a few time-consuming chores that require a lot of research and have taken up my free time.

Also, most of my Seattle friends have moved away or acquired toddlers, so I'm really hoping to find some actual Cap Hill Friday Night action.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm willing to admit many private things in person. Not so much on the interwebs.

But I'll use this space to counter a common set of assumptions about me: I look soft and girly and basically like somebody left Christina Hendricks in the dryer too long. But I've lived out of a backpack, worked in dangerous areas of the developing world, and (when un-injured) could deadlift most of my female friends. I'm proud of all these things, and amused that they're stealth attributes.

Okay, one thing requires an admission: I hate nature. Not as in "oil spills, fuck yeah!" but as in camping or hiking. I'm a city person. If you find me in the woods, the zombie apocalypse has occurred.

However! Does not apply to the ocean; I love being on, in, or under water. I own a wetsuit and kayaking gloves, and am a certified scuba diver. I'm training for a 12 mile open water swim. Still, this is Seattle so being anti-camping might be the closest thing we have to blasphemy.

Also, I work in the tech industry but I am not a geek. The world I like to think about and spend time in is the real one. I enjoy science and intellectual conversation, but I have no idea what comic book character belongs in which universe. The saddest comment I've ever overheard was, "In the amount of time you've spent pretending to be a ninja, you could have become a ninja."

But I am okay with you pretending to be a ninja during your breaks from becoming a ninja.
You should message me if
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you strongly prefer to make the first move. I do enough of that at work; in private life I'm a bit more of the 1950s. Or Maggie Gyllenhaal circa 2002. If you have to google, we might not be compatible.

you do martial arts/Tough Mudder/GoRuck/weight lifting/rowing/[fill-in-the-blank physical activity.] For myself I like weight lifting, dance, and swimming, but not as joint activities; it simply happens that almost everyone I've ever been attracted to or successfully dated is some flavor of athlete and/or martial artist.

you know what Byrnie Utz is, and why Nordstrom > Amazon.

OKQ believes we are approaching the second standard deviation of compatibility.

you have a current passport.

you have a passion that involves doing something or creating something, and you aren't satisfied unless other people can experience and appreciate what you've made or done.

You should NOT message me if:
-you're a couple. No really.
-you're old enough to be my parent. This is creepy, happens a LOT, and is a significant factor in my selective reply rate.
-you're married or already in a primary relationship that doesn't have room for me having equal time and importance
-OKQ doesn't think we make a good match
-you play video games as a full time activity. This is a weird stipulation, but let's just say it has to do with ethics in journalism.
-you wear costumes at times other than Halloween or for some kind of performance art. (Burning Man qualifies as performance art.)
-you define "nerd" or "geek" according to types of media consumed, rather than according to intellectual curiosity.