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35 • Seattle, WA • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 30–42
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Online now!
- 5′ 4″ (1.63m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
- Graduated from masters program
- Science / Engineering
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English, French (Okay)
If you're in to the Myers-Briggs, I'm always an N and a P, but the E/I and F/T change regularly.
If you're in a hurry, skip down to the "You should message me if" section.
I have a career that lets me be equally technical and business-oriented. I'm also spending a lot of time in the pool, and am working through an injury to get back to weight lifting.
Previously I was doing international development volunteer work, and tech entrepreneurship, and building up my relationships with my chosen-family folks. I've also lived in a number of foreign countries, including the Midwest.
I've moved to and from Seattle several times, and my latest attempt has verified that yes, the Seattle Freeze is a thing. It's very easy to make quick friends at an event, but very difficult to generate ongoing social activities. Massive bonus points to you if you have a giant social circle and/or a ton of social activities available at a whim. I will unashamedly use you for your networking talents.
I'm really good at analyzing ideas and making them better.
And willpower. I have a lot of it.
And thrift through procrastination.
And forgetting. It's my special talent. Seriously, I will have no idea when our anniversary is. You know that scene at the beginning of Mr. and Mrs. Smith, when Brad Pitt is saying, "We've been together for five years.. six.. five or six years," and Angelina Jolie says, "Seven!"? I'm Brad Pitt.
Then it's probably that I smile most of the time, without noticing that I'm smiling. (I discovered that about myself while living in Ukraine, where smiling at strangers is rude. Sorry, Kyiv.)
Online it's probably the profile name, which I've been asked about: my two childhood heroes were and have always been Indiana Jones and Pollyanna. Smoosh them together and that's pretty much me.
I'm a bibliovore, but the last few years have been solidly on the side of nonfiction. Science, economics, general history, technology, etc. Because I spend so much time reading nonfiction stuff for work and proto-work, my fiction tends toward mind candy. Robert Galbraith (aka Non-Harry-Potter JK Rowling) actually writes fantastic modern detective novels.
I'm currently in the middle of "Horns," "The Founder's Dilemmas," and "Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say Fuck."
Food, yes. I eat food, although not often American food. Humans eat bread, animals, plants, and alcohol. I eat very little that was invented post refrigeration. I've tried vegetarianism twice (and gave it full, concerted effort) but it made me horribly ill and unhealthy. I'm probably somewhere between French and paleo, by cuisine preference rather than by ideology.
Everyone has favorite foods of course but that doesn't seem like a thing one ought to judge a potential suitor on. (Movie preferences, of course, are fair game. You can totally judge me for my staunch unwillingness to ever watch Requiem For a Dream again.)
But I really like having the internet. It's where I keep my stuff.
Also, most of my Seattle friends have moved away or acquired toddlers, so I'm really hoping to find some actual Cap Hill Friday Night action.
But I'll use this space to counter a common set of assumptions about me: I look soft and girly and basically like somebody left Christina Hendricks in the dryer too long. But I've lived out of a backpack, worked in dangerous areas of the developing world, and (when un-injured) could deadlift most of my female friends. I'm proud of all these things, and amused that they're stealth attributes.
Okay, one thing requires an admission: I hate nature. Not as in "oil spills, fuck yeah!" but as in camping or hiking. I'm a city person. If you find me in the woods, the zombie apocalypse has occurred.
However! Does not apply to the ocean; I love being on, in, or under water. I own a wetsuit and kayaking gloves, and am a certified scuba diver. I'm training for a 12 mile open water swim. Still, this is Seattle so being anti-camping might be the closest thing we have to blasphemy.
Also, I work in the tech industry but I am not a geek. Yes, I've seen Firefly, Star Trek, and Battlestar Galactica, and I liked them well enough, but conversing about them bores me to tears. The world I like to think about and spend time in is the real one. I enjoy science and intellectual conversation, but I have no idea what comic book character belongs in which universe. The saddest comment I've ever overheard was, "In the amount of time you've spent pretending to be a ninja, you could have become a ninja."
you do martial arts/Tough Mudder/GoRuck/weight lifting/rowing/[fill-in-the-blank physical activity.] For myself I like weight lifting, dance, and swimming. Almost everyone I've ever been attracted to or successfully dated is some flavor of athlete and/or martial artist.
you know what Byrnie Utz is and/or have developed an appreciation for bespoke suits. Bonus points if you own a pair of cufflinks and fewer than two black t-shirts.
OKQ believes we are approaching the second standard deviation of compatibility.
you have a passion that involves doing something or creating something, and you aren't satisfied unless other people can experience and appreciate what you've made or done.
you're willing to write a message that doesn't comment on my appearance. I know I look good, and if you're messaging me I assume you think so too. "Hi, you're cute" just does not give me a lot to work with conversation-wise. There's lots of other stuff here. You're doing lots of interesting stuff. You're witty and literate and have opinions on the way the world works. Message me about that.
You should NOT message me if:
-you're a couple. No really.
-being a "nerd" or a "geek" is an important part of your identity.
-you're old enough to be my parent. This is creepy, happens a LOT, and will never result in a message response. Don't do it, dude. Back away from the keyboard.
-you're married or already in a primary relationship that doesn't have room for me having equal time and importance
-OKQ doesn't think we make a good match
-you play video games as a full time activity. This is a weird stipulation, but let's just say it has to do with ethics in journalism.
-you wear costumes at times other than Halloween or for some kind of performance art. (Burning Man qualifies as performance art.)
-there is an actual ocean between your residence and mine. People of Pakistan! Hi. Um. This is awkward, but why are you messaging me so much?
-you prefer write in acronyms (lol) and/or single letters (how r u). You must be at least this literate to ride this ride.
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