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35 Seattle, WA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–42
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 3
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English, French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Curious, nomadic, analytical, impulsive, polyamorous, verbose, intelligent, kind, ethical, and many other adjectives.

My latest performance review states, "Exceptionally high quality of thinking. Stubbornness needs some work."

If you're in to the Myers-Briggs, I'm always an N and a P, but the E/I and F/T change regularly.

If you're in a hurry, skip down to the "You should message me if" section.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a career that lets me be equally technical and business-oriented. I'm also spending a lot of time in the pool, and have just gotten back to weight lifting after long injury.

Previously I was doing international development volunteer work, and tech entrepreneurship, and building up my relationships with my chosen-family folks. I've also lived in a number of foreign countries, including the Midwest.

I've moved to and from Seattle several times, and my latest attempt has verified that yes, the Seattle Freeze is a thing. It's very easy to make quick friends at an event, but very difficult to generate ongoing social activities. Massive bonus points to you if you have a giant social circle and/or a ton of social activities available at a whim. I will unashamedly use you for your networking talents.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Answering questions on the internet, apparently. Unless conciseness is required for being considered "really good at" that.

I'm really good at analyzing ideas and making them better.

And willpower. I have a lot of it.

And learning.

And thrift through procrastination.

And forgetting. It's my special talent. Seriously, I will have no idea when our anniversary is. You know that scene at the beginning of Mr. and Mrs. Smith, when Brad Pitt is saying, "We've been together for five years.. six.. five or six years," and Angelina Jolie says, "Seven!"? I'm Brad Pitt.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My guess is either, "Redhead," or, "Nice boots," depending on the direction your eyes travel.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Just assume, for purposes of both media and food consumption, that I am a dude who lives on the west coast.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can do without pretty much everything, at least until I die of asphyxiation/thirst/exposure/hunger.

But I really like having the internet. It's where I keep my stuff.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I just spend a lot of time thinking, period. No particular subject, or maybe all subjects. I daydream and analyze, learn and teach, create and disassemble.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Touring the facility. Picking up slack. Sitting in bridge traffic. Drinking beer. Sleeping. In that order.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm willing to admit many private things in person. Not so much on the interwebs.

But I'll use this space to counter a common set of assumptions about me: I look like somebody left Christina Hendricks in the dryer too long. But I've lived out of a backpack, worked in dangerous areas of the developing world, and (when un-injured) could deadlift most of my female friends. I'm proud of all these things, and amused that they're stealth attributes.

Okay, one thing requires an admission: I hate nature. Not as in "oil spills, fuck yeah!" but as in camping or hiking. I'm a city person. If you find me in the woods, the zombie apocalypse has occurred.

However! Does not apply to the ocean; I love being on, in, or under water. I own a wetsuit and kayaking gloves, and am a certified scuba diver. In June I competed in my first swim marathon and made it 3.5 to 5 miles depending on how you count it. (Next year's goal: 6 to 8 miles. Actual length of course: 12.5 miles.) Still, this is Seattle so being anti-camping might be the closest thing we have to blasphemy.

Also, I work in the tech industry but I am not a geek. Yes, I've seen Firefly, and it was entertaining. Let's move on.
You should message me if
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you prefer to make the first move. I do enough of that at work.

you do martial arts/Tough Mudder/GoRuck/weight lifting/rowing/[fill-in-the-blank physical activity.]

you know what Byrnie Utz is and/or have developed an appreciation for bespoke suits. Bonus points if you own a pair of cufflinks and fewer than two black t-shirts.

OKQ believes we are approaching the second standard deviation of compatibility.

you're world class at the thing you do, whatever that thing is.

you're willing to write a message that doesn't comment on my appearance. You're doing lots of interesting stuff. You're witty and literate and have opinions on the way the world works. Message me about that.

you read at least half my profile. You must be at least this literate to ride this ride.

You should NOT message me if:
-you're a couple. No really.
-you're monogamous
-being a "nerd" or a "geek" is an important part of your identity.
-you're old enough to be my parent. This is creepy, happens a LOT, and will never result in a message response. Don't do it, dude. Back away from the keyboard.
-OKQ doesn't think we make a good match
-you make or play video games as a full time activity. This is a weird stipulation, but let's just say it has to do with ethics in journalism.
-you wear costumes at times other than Halloween or for some kind of performance art.
-there is an actual ocean between your residence and mine. People of Pakistan! Hi. Um. This is awkward, but why are you messaging me so much?