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37 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 9:59pm
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Masters program
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Has a kid
Has dogs
English, German

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My self-summary
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I'm married and I'm happy- but life is very short and the world is full of amazing people. My partner and I are trying to live with fewer boundaries and hearts more open to discovering what the world has to offer. My partner's name is mollwalk and she is here on OKC, so give her a look.

I live in an intentional community in the Little Village neighborhood of Chicago. mollwalk and I began experimenting with polyamory four years ago. Now we are exploring our boundaries and trying to welcome as much love and affection into our lives as comes our way.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Not math, that's for sure.

Looking for someone to play with at Gd2.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking too much.

Reading people. Making rum cake. Putting my foot in my mouth. Making people feel like they are the only one in the room. Falling inappropriately in love with the wrong people. Wearing my emotions on my sleeve. Appreciating theater - especially when in involves my talented and lovely wife.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I can be a little awkward at first but as I warm up I become the life of the party. I'm also a pretty big guy with a soft voice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Does anyone read this section? Seriously? **EDIT - Several of you have written to inform me that I'm an idiot. Yes, apparently, people do read this. Fine. **

I read voraciously. My Kindle is my best friend. I'm indiscriminate and insatiably curious, which makes it hard to pick favorites. Don't make me pick among my children! Here are the books I've read in the last thirty days:

The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference, Predictive Analytics: The Power to Predict Who Will Click, Buy, Lie, or Die, Rework, Warbreaker, Thank You for Smoking, The Four Hour Body.

Even more recently: Screw the Roses, Send Thorns. I also recently read Snow Crash. Also, these days, anything Dr. Seuss gets a lot of play in my house.

Also, even if you aren't poly or open, everyone should read Sex Before Dawn and the Ethical Slut.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
"Unhappiness or negativity is a disease on our planet. What pollution is on the outer level is negativity on the inner. It is everywhere, not just in places where people on’t have enough but even more so where they have more than enough. Is that surprising? No, The affluent world is even more deeply identified with form, more lost in content, more trapped in ego." (Eckhart Tolle)

I'm trying to need less these days.

Pen and my journal
Stimulating conversation
The wind on my face and a winding country road
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex. Politics. Access to healthcare. Economic justice. Love. How to be a better person/leader/friend/lover. How to get the revolution rolling. Eating the rich. First kisses. Good beer and cheap whisky. Life, death and the mysteries of the world.

But mostly Battle Star Galactica and what it would be like to sex a cylon.

Also, you are not laid back, so stop typing it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out. Or in. I'm flexible!

Watching history porn - The Borgias (both productions), The Tudors, Deadwood, Rome, Battlestar Galactica...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've got a fetlife account. And an account. And a head full of wicked thoughts.
You should message me if
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You enjoy being afternoon drunk.

You want to visit a dungeon.

You want to make out.