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31 Sunnyvale, CA Man


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  • Ages 18–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:27pm
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish, C++

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Call me Frank.

The quick of it is that I am a nerdy, kinky, martial artsy, polyamorous computer geek.

A wise man once told me, "If you are bored, you are boring." Not wanting to be considered boring, I've taken those words to heart.

I have a girlfriend I met through this site, femgen, and I'm pretty crazy about her. We're both polyamorous, and we'd love to meet other poly people, too.

I am geeky, inquisitive, and intent.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
During the morning, I'm working out. During the day, I'm working. During the nights and weekends, I'm working it.

To elaborate:

I train in CrossFit, several days a week. Keeping my body in a decent shape is very important to me, important enough that I took the time to get a training certification and start coaching CrossFit myself. In addition to my own regular training, I run a CrossFit class, two mornings a week, at my local CrossFit gym.

I pay the bills with my mad programming skills. I work during the day in software engineering, and I like what I do.

I'm also a member of my area's BDSM community. I'm currently the leader of the South Bay TNG, an organization for youth who are looking to learn more about kink, sex-positive thinking, and the kink/leather/BDSM community. I regularly organize meetups and social events for this area's kinky youth, and I love doing it.

I fill my free time with tons of productive activities, fun things, and enriching experiences, from reading and relaxing to going out to BDSM clubs or events. I'm pretty flexible, though; if it's not in the above, I could be doing anything! A short sample of things I could be doing include poker, video gaming, solving puzzles, going for walks (or runs, or climbs), cooking something I've never made before (I spent my birthday learning to make Thai yellow curry), or learning about music. I have a tiny amount of aptitude with the guitar and piano, but I prefer to play bass in my spare time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I don't sweat the small stuff. For the most part, it's all small stuff.

I'm good at the things appropriate of a geek in my position, such as fixing computers, fighting, making crying people smile from time to time, learning (that's a big one; I'm really good at learning), climbing things, solving puzzles, lending an ear or a shoulder to a friend (but not my kidneys, because I need them), or fighting off zombies. I can also cook a healthy and tasty meal.

Though I haven't done it in a while, I'm a decent poker player.

I'm good at getting what I want. It's easy to do when a) there isn't much that you do want, and b) you figure out how to get it. Buddhists believe that the desire of things we cannot obtain is the root of all suffering. While I'm not quite enlightened enough to escape suffering, I do my best to live with humble means and humble desires.
The first things people usually notice about me
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A recent survey of the people in this room tell me that, as far as initial impressions, people tend to think I'm cute. They also notice the self-confidence I have.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* My family.

Blood family is important, but I also value my chosen family just as much. Friends are the family you choose; they mean the world to me, and I would do just about anything for the people who would do the same for me.

* The internet.

I'm a geek, without a doubt. I imagine that, one day, I could be a nomad, wandering around whatever country I'm in, doing consulting work (or prizefighting in underground, illegal boxing rings or fighting cages for the money to gas my ride to the next city). I could have all my worldly possessions in whatever vehicle I would be owning at the time. One of those possessions would be a laptop, so I could stay in touch with the people who matter to me and keep my computer skils up to date.

* Physical affection.

I'm close with my friends. I hug as a greeting and as a farewell. Even dudes. I could consider it a wonderful time to be under a tree with nothing around but the star-filled sky... if I were cuddled up against someone I love whilst doing so. I love touching, I love hugging, cuddling, kissing, nibbling, biting... etc, so on, and so forth.

If I could choose the order I'd lose the five senses, touch would be the last to go. I love touching and being touched.

Ok, enough of that.

* Non-vanilla proclivities.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me. I love ropes. I love floggers. I love doing new, crazy things in bed with my lover. Life without bondage or S&M would be far less fun.

* Martial arts.

I kind of touched on this earlier, but I'm a physically active person, and I love the continuing self-improvement process which comes as part of the whole package.

Oh, yeah. And I love fighting, too.

* Games/fun.

Let's face it. There's plenty in this life that wants to take away our time. I value my time very much, and I value the time I have having fun. Whether it's video games, Magic the Gathering, ultimate frisbee, Munchkin, role playing, wrestling, submission fighting, or anything else physically or mentally stimulating, I couldn't do without my fun. Learning to dance is the current bit of fun I'm learning to pick up.

* Music

(Yes, it's seven, I don't care.) I've been making up for lost time by learning the bass and the piano (and I'll probably pick up the guitar when I have more time and money). I want to learn everything I can about music and the making of it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Solving problems. Whether P equals NP or not. How many people I could beat in a fight without weapons/with weapons/with guns. Solving other people's problems. If I'm ultimately destined to be alone. If we really die alone. Why I'm polyamorous and not monogamous like everyone else. How to keep out extra string noise when I play lots of notes. Could I ever have a way of paying the bills that doesn't involve being in an office eight hours a day?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Is there such a thing as a typical Friday night? Friday nights have included for me (in no particular order) role playing, martial arts training, bass practice, robbing people of their money in online poker rooms, movies, dinners with friends, grocery shopping, reading, working out in a gym, playing video games on my own, moonlight walks through the forest... I don't wait to do something just cause it's Friday. If I feel like having fun, I call whoever's around, and then I go do it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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What, I haven't already told you enough private things? I'd think I already had. Here's a few more:

MacGyver is my personal hero. (Ok, so that's not really private, but I didn't know where else to put this.)

I have beaten Nethack once (I ascended a Monk who never hit with a wielded weapon). (Ok, that's not really private, either, but I think it's pretty cool.)

I'm polyamorous, or poly if you prefer. Some people understand that we don't ever just love one person; I don't see why we can't love more than one person at a time.

I'm not vanilla, but I do love vanilla ice cream. Yum.

I'll admit to pretty much anything I've done, thought, or believed, if I know you well enough.

I'm not shy in person at all... but, for some reason, I'm a bit shy when it comes to this online thing.
You should message me if
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Message me if you want to show me cool things in the Bay area, or if you want to find trouble with me.

Message me if you want to talk nerdy to me.

Message me if you're looking for a good friend.

Message me if you're looking for a novice bassist.

I put a lot of myself into this profile, including some pretty personal details. Message me if what I said didn't scare you off.

Or, message me if anything I said did scare you, but you want to know more anyway.

In any case, whatever you decide to do, feel free to use IM me (doctorhallstrom on Yahoo IM, drhallstrom on AIM).