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31 Waterford, CT Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–35
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 1:43am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Fluently), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i've changed this many times because it's hard getting these things right. the problem is that i'm too self-aware to pretend to offer an honest description of myself--so i might as well start by admitting this, that i find self-summaries nearly impossible to write. on the other hand, i don't want to come across as overly cynical--because i'm here, obviously hoping to meet someone. but dating scares me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
originally from connecticut, i spent some time in ithaca, new york for school, before moving to chicago for grad school (politics). last year i took a break from my studies and returned to ct for an indefinite amount of time. i recently started working part-time as a substitute teacher. the experience so far has provided a great change of pace.

when not writing or 'doing research', i enjoy spending time with my family and taking care of my dogs (a pointer and a yorkshire terrier).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
following the news (all levels... local, state, national and global), discussing politics, debating social issues & philosophical points, both large and small... challenging the assumptions behind certain arguments, exposing contradictions and paradoxes, then getting caught in my own hypocrisy, exhausting myself and burning out.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
it's not healthy for me to think/worry about this stuff. people don't usually notice anything strange (on the outside), i don't think... ;)

honest but not naive, i treat everyone with respect and courtesy (whether they deserve it or not). most of the time it's reciprocated.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
i can't enjoy bourgeois culture without suffering certain guilt. i appreciate cultural work that's socially conscious and/or politically interesting/insightful on some level. but when that's not available (which is normally) i'll settle easily for whatever is on tv or netflix.

i like to think i've got decent taste in movies, music, foods, etc., but listing my favorites in these areas isn't the way i like to define or express myself ...i like remaining open to new things, to change.

for the sake of providing potential conversation starters, i'll mention i've recently watched/currently watched true detective, peep show, and comedy bang bang.

currently listening to sleater-kinney's "No Cities to Love"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Yellow mustard
2. Spicy brown mustard
3. Honey mustard
4. Dijon mustard
... ummm ok joking

-- taco and bo (-rrito), my loyal canine companions
-- full beard (which i've had ever since i could grow one)
-- library access (being able to recall books that are checked out)
-- utopian fantasies (class war, punishing oligarchic elites, etc.)
-- venezuela's hugo chavez (R.I.P!) (topic of endless research)

that's enough for now...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-- how i might go about repairing my favorite, old pair of boots, by replacing the worn out soles with rubber cut from a car tire.

-- the prospect of revolution in the U.S. during my lifetime.

-- how to reinforce fence to prevent dogs from escaping

these profiles have a way of making everyone seem self-obsessed and narcissistic, so i think it's important to say that i feel concern for and care a lot about people, humanity. that said, i'm not exactly a 'people person'. i like to be alone, it's probably true that i care more about humanity in the abstract, than concrete individuals around me (which is not to say i don't treat everyone with respect and courtesy, usually regardless of whether they actually deserve it)!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not out on a date--isn't that what you want to know? i'm usually working, sometimes i'll see friends. occasionally i'll be sleeping.

recently ive been spending quite a few hours of my free time on a project that everyone in my life has said, repeatedly, is a waste of time. i am trying to repair my ten year old Blundstone boots, the soles of which are disintegrating with every step. a youtube video shows a man -- a professional shoe-maker/repairman, i am sure -- cut up an old used car tire and use the rubber to resole his boots! i have followed these steps and am at the part where i am attempting to cut out the shoe pattern i traced out!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i know more about psychoanalysis than i care to let on (old interest).

i'd probably feel a lot more confident if i were in better shape. this is something i need to make a higher priority, among other things
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you can be persistent and bold enough to pull me out of my current non-dating state. sorry, it's the only way this is going to happen.

also, be aware that the more perfect you are, and the better you write, the more time it'll take for me to write back to you. if you know a way around this problem, please inform me immediately.