I am aBBW and identify as part of the leather and BDSM community, so I'm interested in finding one or more local play partners. You must be into BDSM and particularly into D/s; you must find larger women attractive; and you must be within or close to Silicon Valley if you want to message me. I am not into cyber or cams. I am not just seeking a booty call situation. I am seeking one or more long term secondary relationships.

IMPORTANT: I'm married and tell my husband everything. My profile here is NOT about finding a discreet relationship - I am not into deceiving my partner or supporting anyone who deceives theirs. The connections I seek are to add to the richness of my life and feed that richness into nurturing our primary relationships. If you are looking for "the one" I am probably not it.

I am a self-identified pagan and a friend of Bill W. My recovery from food addiction is extremely important to me, as is honesty and healthy sexuality. Some things I like include: dancing, especially ecstatic dancing, Renaissance Faire, reading, watching movies, and getting massage. I love hanging out and chatting with friends and drinking herbal tea and hot cocoa too. One of my passions has been resistance stretching. I tried hot yoga for a while and liked it. I love going to Cafe Gratitude and seeing live theatrical performances.

NOTE: Please do not send me a message if you don't know what BDSM is. Take the time to use Google and do your research.

I just finished a master's program in counseling psychology with a holistic studies focus. I am joyously in a new career and love that my life is going in a whole new holistic direction. My current counseling focus includes at-risk youth, grief and loss, and sexuality. I work with kids, families, couples, and individual adults. I LOVE MY WORK!

Dancing. Communicating. Hugs. Creating safe, joyful space. Making things look pretty. Active listening. Healthy detachment. Erotic power exchange. Sex education. Listening.

My playfulness. My sense of calm and/or enthusiastic joy. My big brown eyes. My smile. That I am a BBW.

a) The Secret Garden, anything by Margaret Atwood, anything by Gregory Maguire, anything by Philip Roth, Illusions by Richard Bach, The Prophet, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stranger in a Strange Land, Spider Robinson's Calahan series, Piers Anthony books (especially the immortals series), The Kite Runner, good erotic power exchange literature (Owned and Owner is the BEST BDSM porn I've read!)...

b) Wizard of Oz, Beaches, Welcome to the Dollhouse, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Cecil B. Demented, Secretary, Amelie, Life is Beautiful, Memento, It's a Wonderful Life, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Shadowlands, Angels in America, Singin' in the Rain, Kill Bill ( all of them), Pulp Fiction, The Producers, Flashdance, Jumpin' Jack Flash, any Shirley Temple movie, Finding Nemo, Little Miss Sunshine, The Quiet Man, Taming of the Shrew (Taylor/Burton ROCKS), Night Porter, Frida, Bells are Ringing, Most any old MGM musical...

c) Anything I can dance to or sing along to, anything that calms and quiets my mind

d) summer fruit, sashimi, asparagus, beets, oatmeal, winter squash, chocolate ice cream, grilled cheese sandwiches, lobster, fillet mignon, pho, warm bread with butter, artichokes...

1) Warm hugs, 2) sleep, 3) dance, 4) gratitude, 5) opportunities to serve others, 6) erotic fantasies, 7) water to drink and bathe in (yeah that's seven - feh)

Way too much.

With my family, chilling out at home or at a movie or visiting with friends or out on a date...

I like to bottom and thrill to a D/s dynamic.

You are into BBWs, D/s, and are open and honest in your relationships.