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31 Toronto, Ontario, CA Cis Woman, Genderqueer

Cis Woman, Genderqueer

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28-50
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 18
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
at this critical moment, words fail me.

good thing, there are people smarter than me, with good words:

"I want you to tell me about every person you’ve ever been in love with. Tell me why you loved them, then tell me why they loved you... See, I wanna know more than what you do for a living. I wanna know how much of your life you spend just giving. And if you love yourself enough to also receive sometimes."

To know me is to know the people that I love. My community, my friends are my tether, my fencing post, my floating device, my fucking rocket launcher.

if you are not a feminist, if you don't practice active consent, don't bother.

if you are kinky, i'm interested.

i am NOT bisexual, but i AM queer. and femme, and fucking fierce.

i'm attracted to a lot of different bodies and genders. femme, crip, butch, trans*, to name a few. more than anything your anti-racist, anti-oppressive politic, and queer as fuck personality is what will draw me to you.

i'm poly. i have some dates. i don't have partnership. i'm not sure i want partnership. but i do want intimacy and care.

my life is this strange combination of really slow and quiet, on the heels of being really loud and fast for the last few years. so
sometimes the loud and fast creeps in, but mostly, i'm settling into a new way of being in the world, which is exciting, scary, and feels really great.

real interaction is better than this ego essay. message me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
plotting and conspiring on radical politics and organizing in toronto on issues that include (but are not limited to) indigenous sovereignty, migrant justice, queer rights, disability justice, anarchy, anti-capitalist, anti-racism, sex worker advocacy, feminism, environmental justice, and anti-poverty.

i spend a lot of time thinking about transformative justice, community accountability, access intimacy, intersectionality, masculine privilege and femme responsibility.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
facilitation of groups of people trying to make decisions, being a loving aunt, friend, sister and daughter, loving unconditionally, cooking, and making people laugh once they get to know me
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i think that's changing. i used to talk a lot. i'm quieter now. i think now, mostly, people tend to think they already know me, when they have never met me. oh, and in the winter, people really like my coat. they always notice my coat.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(this will grow and evolve as i have more time)

Books: (toooo many)
everything Jeannette Winterson
blood, bones, and butter
the lorax
rules for radicals
stuart little
hundred years of solitude

Movies: (i keep thinking there have to be better ones than this list i've made)
itty bitty titty committee
The Wind that Shakes the Barley
tank girl
my big fat greek wedding
finding nemo
better than chocolate

Music:(i'm extreme, and like most things in small quantities)
-i'm a folk festival lover
-punk! not fucked up racist misogynist punk!
-i can rock out to rhianna at times, when i'm wearing sparkles
-i love danny teneglia, john digweed
-portishead is the soundtrack to my life
-i LOVE spoken word poetry - listening to it, going to it.

Food:(everyone i know, spends a LOT of time thinking, talking and being around food. food is love)
food i like to eat is food that i'm eating with people that i love
but generally, i love raw vegetables and fruit
i love whole grains
sushi makes me happy
curry warms my belly
Ethiopian makes my fingers tingle
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
i've recently been learning i can do without pretty much anything other than food and shelter. but, that's not a first date kind of topic. so, this is... well just a silly dating site thing

(other than love of family and friends)
my dog
lavender oil
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
revolution, politics, how we treat each other in our communities, communication, recipes, my garden, my to do list
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
having friends over for dinner in my garden with food i've cooked from the garden, bread i've baked that morning, and some strange dessert i've been wanting to try to make for ages.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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i have no sense of direction. it means i get lost a lot, to the point where i'm really quite annoying. i'm also not good at reading maps. it's a stellar combination that means i either get somewhere really early, because i didn't get lost, or really late, because i did.
You should message me if
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you want to meet. i don't like okc messages, and i do like hanging out with cool people!