47 Longmeadow, MA
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My self-summary

First the basic stats: I’m 47, divorced, no kids. I’ve got a house, one (1) dog, three (3) cats, lots of fish, and way too many sneakers.

I’m a PhD with a dream job outside academia but in my field of expertise (yes, they exist.)

I prefer quiet and relaxing activities which don’t interfere with communication. I don’t like crowds, lines, noise, traffic, or having to look for parking. I like small zoos, small museums, walks on college campuses, going for drives, exploring, or just hanging out at home. I like to drive over bridges and back again.

No, I wouldn’t call myself a party animal or adrenaline junkie.

My ideal weather is in the 50s and overcast with a slight breeze.

I’m okay with the outdoors – but just okay. I appreciate the beauty of nature and love to see wild animals, but I'm not going to give the middle finger to 5000 years of civilization. I’m perfectly comfortable in a mall. I’m up for adventures (as long as there’s parking) but down time is very important to me. I am very devoted to my pets. I’ve accomplished a lot in my life, but in recent years my life has become much more stable and routine. I’m fine with that. I don’t demand excitement.

[And this is the point where I say that I don’t like writing or talking about myself and I don’t really find them admirable qualities in a human being. I don’t want to start off with that, though, since it comes across as rather cliché or falsely modest, but it’s nonetheless true. Also true: once, for my bio in the program for a play I was in, I substituted a biography of Otto von Bismarck. I think only a few people noticed.]


I am looking for somebody who is a very strong individualist. Somebody with her own (possibly warped) view on things. Somebody who's got a very strong active intellect, a good dose of skepticism, and a commitment to reason and communication. Somebody who's basically good but in touch with her dark side. Somebody who has an outsider's/observer's perspective in addition to or instead of a participant's perspective. How you think and communicate are what's important. You don't have to do any "tricks" or thrill me with all of your skills and interests. I am willing to take the time to get to know people so you don't have to impress me right off the bat. Anybody worth knowing will have more to her than can be detected at first impression. A sense of humor is of course a necessity. Please don't take yourself too seriously.

Silliness and cynicism are both very beneficial.

And please have a brain and know how to use it. This one's difficult to qualify, because far more people think they're intelligent than actually are.

A good memory and good observational skills are also helpful.

I guess, ultimately, that I'm interested in doing boring things with an interesting person.
What I’m doing with my life
Going to the dog park. Working out. Theater, both acting and directing (though I wouldn't call myself a "theater person." It's just a hobby.)
I’m really good at
I am good at acting and directing. And writing music. But not lyrics. I am not good at parking. (I like driving, but not parking.) I am very good at getting things done. I am good at plugging in USB cables correctly the first time. I am good at taking care of mammals, and I am pretty good at making humans laugh. But I'm a complete renaissance man: mediocre at a little bit of everything.
The first things people usually notice about me
My sneakers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I entered all of my albums into an Excel file and plotted a graph by year of release. It turned out to be a bell curve peaking in 1979.

I have walked out on the following movies: Taxi zum Klo, Radio On, Party Girl.

I assure you that I read books, listen to music, eat food, watch TV, and see the occasional movie. However, I don't consider my choices in these matters to be any reflection on me, since they're all ultimately acts of consumption, not production.
The six things I could never do without
1. Parking
2. My house
3. My pets
4. Electricity
5. Heat
6. Indoor plumbing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Parking. Sugar-free cough drops. Steak. Scrabble. Horse races. Autumn. Sneakers. Cheap wine. Cheap beer. Cheap soda. Interstate highways. Also non-interstate highways, specifically controlled-access highways which are not interstates.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually gym, dinner, dog park, TV. Sometimes karaoke with friends.
You should message me if
You are interested in dating (not friendship or casual sex.)
You can demonstrate some evidence of intelligence, wit, creativity, individuality, or self-awareness. (Show, don't tell.)
You don't have children and aren't planning on having any.
You are not an NPR tote bag woman. (I'm sure you're all wonderful people, but you're just not my type.)