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31 Brooklyn, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27-34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:54am
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Keeping my chin up, my nose to the grindstone, and my ear to ground.

In addition to contortion, you can find me enjoying live music, paying as I wish in museums, exploring the city with my bike gang or "bang," creating portmanteaus, toying with my ukulele, playing the drums, singing along, dancing, cooking pseudo-vegetarianly, climbing fences, failing to cultivate plants, discovering new passions, and rising up singing.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to help myself and other people stay human. I don't mean that in a "We're all going to turn into werewolves!!!" way. I mean that in a "We're all uncompleted beings, conscious of our incompletion, and our attempt to be more fully human" way.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making mistakes, learning, asking for help, noticing beauty, laughing, getting lost, getting found, communicating, being patient, giving massages, remembering people's names, telling stories, keeping the beat
The first things people usually notice about me
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Curly hair? Eyes you could get lost in forever? Unbridled sense of optimism? Stuff in teeth?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
music: I'll take it all as long as it has meaningfully organized sound and silence. I know that's granular, but I can get down to The Meters and Steve Reich, Destiny's Child and Thelonius Monk, Santogold and Tori Amos, The Roots (oh The Roots) and Frank Zappa, The Postal Service and the Modern Jazz Quartet (oh Milt Jackson!), Stevie Wonder and Fiona Apple, Dead Prez and Ben Folds, Stravinsky and Jill Scott, Ani Difranco and Common, Regina Spektor and John Cage. This list doesn't really scratch the surface, particularly with respect to classical and jazz. I have an unusually close relationship with Gustav Mahler.

movies: I'm not a huge movie person but my interests mostly fall into the so-bad-they're-good and actually good categories. See if you can sort them out: Monty Python and the Holy Grail, The Savages, Up, Bring It On, The Graduate, Amelie, Pulp Fiction (Tarantino in general), The Usual Suspects, Spaceballs (Mel Brooks in general), The Princess Bride, Mean Girls, Legally Blonde, Volver.

books: I've been trying to make myself read more fiction for a couple of years now and keep getting drawn back into a non-fiction whirlpool. Old friends are Vladimir Nabokov, Ralph Ellison, Walt Whitman, Elizabeth Bishop, Paulo Freire, Daniel Pinkwater, bell hooks (even though she came hard at Beyonce's neck), Howard Zinn, Virginia Woolf, Teddy Adorno, Lawrence Ferlinghetti.

food: anything made with love from good ingredients and shared with good people, but especially quinoa, avocado, pineapple, greens, Thai, empanadas, Mexican, sandwiches.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I could do without pretty much every thing

I returned from a two-week trip to Mexico with just the small backpack I had brought with me and the customs officer almost didn't believe I had been gone for as long as I had with such a small amount of stuff. He was also impressed I went by myself. "You are a very brave woman." (This is my goal, to impress customs officers with my daring packing strategies.)

So material possessions aside, I need:
1. some time and space to be alone
2. loving relationships with my friends and family
3. chances to learn by doing and making mistakes
4. meaningful work aimed at people thinking and acting together toward change

That's four. Reaching a little:
5. periodic retreats from urban life to be in nature
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
dialectics, dialects, tics, liberation, teaching, education, history, the future
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not really all straight. Are you? Straightness takes up such little little space in the gender/sexuality continuum.
You should message me if
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You are a gentle man, a thoughtful and optimistic adventurer, and/or you know about...
--how to not kill plants as much.
--how to facilitate participatory democratic processes
--the great outdoors.
--enthusiastic verbal consent.
--kind, open, direct communication.

Also, if you'd like to ride bikes to a place neither of us has ever been.