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29 F Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Jul 24
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I'm frequently the person my friends come to when they want advice, but give the best advice about pragmatic stuff (work, relationships, house stuff. Esoteric questions about the nature of life aren't my speciality). I work out regularly, but am in no way a gym rat (and never want to become one).

This is the first time in my life that I have had more female friends than male ones. I really love the people I have chosen to surround myself with, but I could stand to have more male friends. For balance.

I like talking about good books, good movies, good music and good food, but am not too sharp or interested in philosophical/theoretical conversations. I'm pretty left leaning, so if you're looking for someone that will sip gin and tonics and guffaw over the latest liberal antics with you, please, keep looking.

I'm an ESFP on the Myers-Briggs typology test.

Summarizing myself feels far too narcissistic for my own good.

I am currently in a polyamorous relationship. For those of you unaware of what that means, I have a boyfriend, and we sometimes have other partners. Sometimes, we date the same people.

I'm always looking for more friends. I'm online a lot and would love people to have real conversations with, but please, if you have nothing to contribute... don't waste time. Mine or yours. (For example: if your profile contains two word answers to every question, I'm probably not interested).

Important: If you think that, because I happen to mention sexuality or alternative lifestyle stuff in my profile, I'll be interested in sleeping with you, no questions asked? You're an idiot. I mention those things because I'd rather not make friends who shock easily and who I don't have to hide things from. As my boyfriend says, "I probably won't have any interest in what's in your pants. Unless there's money in there."

Caveat: I tried to submit a *real* picture without my face but the okcupid gods frowned upon it. I know these pictures are kind of lame. If you get in touch and we talk for awhile, I'll send you one. I'm not ashamed of my lifestyle, but that doesn't mean I need random people stumbling upon this profile and putting two and two together.
What I’m doing with my life
Crossing my t's and dotting my i's. Finally having a good time in the best city I've ever lived in (although the competition isn't too fierce). Working in the corporate world and selling out, but trying to keep my morals and fight the machine from the inside. Being creative on the side via numerous projects. Staying active in local kink and alternative lifestylecommunities.
I’m really good at
Making mix cds for friends, obsessively following major league baseball, falling asleep under any circumstances, drinking, decorating, creating awkward situations, making people feel comfortable in said awkward situations. Refining all of the above.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've never asked, but I'd venture to guess: my hair (it's bright), my height (I'm short), or my voice (it's deep).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
So many of all of these things. I consume. A smattering:

Books: The Watchmen, A Prayer for Owen Meany, any David Sedaris (I know I'm a cliche, but the man is beyond hilarious), Play It As It Lays, The Country Girls, Dr. Faustus, Lolita.

Movies: Pulp Fiction, Goodfellas, The Royal Tenenbaums, Major League, Kill Bill 1&2, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Departed, Dawn of the Dead (both of 'em)

Music: The Rolling Stones, Led Zeppelin, The White Stripes, Liz Phair, Poe, Flogging Molly, Ben Folds, Cake, Kanye West, Jurassic 5, Tom Waits, Johnny Cash

Food: American comfort food (but I'm learning to cut back) like mac and cheese, mashed potatoes, fried chicken, etc. Sushi, in moderation. Mexican like it's my job.
The six things I could never do without
humor, a good book, the internet, my glasses/contacts, friends, diet coke.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I wouldn't say "thinking about," but there is always a song in my head. I have perfect pitch which is a blessing and a curse, and allows me to perfectly replicate most songs in my brain. Sometimes... I'd like quiet.

What I actually THINK about: What I want for dinner. How to fix things. Where I'd like to travel. Gender roles and sexuality. Organic food, sustainable living and the environment. Art.

When I said I couldn't live without laughter, I meant it. Having a sense of humor is the main reason I've gotten through some tough times, and I love nothing more than laughing heartily. If you can make me laugh, we'll be friends-- it's almost a guarantee.
On a typical Friday night I am
drinking by myself on the floor in my closet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
everything you've heard about redheads is true.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you even made it this far down the page and think we might get along.

Please note: one word, obviously generic emails don't really interest me. Best of luck in your searches, robot people! Hope you find romantic robot partners.

I like people who are smarter than I am, but are comfortable knowing that. People who recommend books that they've actually read and want to discuss it with someone (and think I might be a good candidate). People who are eclectic of mind. Who don't mind sentence fragments... obviously.