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26 Brooklyn, NY Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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i'm a femme(ish) radical ftm genderqueer transfag. (they/them or he/him/his plz). i'm really hoping to make more queer, trans, and politically like-minded friends/find community here. i'm the kind of boy who'd rather meet you at a lecture than a club.

i'm queer (pansexual if that's yr bag) and very open-minded about my potential for attraction, a point which is unfortunately irreconcilable with okcupid's limited gender/sexual preference options.
(listing as a bi male doesn't do it justice but oh fuckin' well)

i'm interested in seeking varied types of connection/intimacy with multiple people which is a fancy way of saying i'm non-monogamous. it is not a fancy way of saying i'm flaky or unaccountable. as a note, i have a partner who i spend a good amount of my free time with, so most of my interests are on the casual/low time-commitment end of the spectrum right now.

straight cisgender dudes: feel free to click away now.

i'm pretty introverted and ridiculously shy. infj.
What I’m doing with my life
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grad school. studying gender&race&class, queer history, queer and feminist theory, phenomenology, affect theory, political economy, and the like.
making lattes pays the bills.
trying to do queer political work/activism type stuff wherever i can.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
growing a rattail.
and (increasingly less!) awkward facial hair.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
just good beer and running/working out. my oddly paradoxical stress relievers.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
gender. feminism. (anti)racism. (anti)capitalism. sex (positivity). critical trans politics. how much i hate mainstream assimilationist gay/trans politics. the prison industrial complex/prison abolition.

lately: queer rage, the 70's and the late 80's/early 90's and radical nostalgia, desire and plasticity
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
You should message me if
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if you want to hang out in person. if you're sassy. if you're cute.
if you're queer; especially queer punx. if you're any kind of genderfuck.
if you're also both queer&trans/gnc (transmen, transwomen, transfolx of all kinds) ... i think transfolks getting together is like one of the most beautiful things in the world and i'm super into it.
if you're a power bottom. (definitely not a requirement, but it's something i tend to like)
if you have radical politics... but like actually radical politics none of that neoliberal bullshit.
if you're feminist, anti-racist, anti-capitalist, and generally anti-oppression (a list of these things will never be exhaustive which is frustrating in itself, but i feel compelled to explicitly mention anti-ableism, anti-fatphobia) //don't tolerate racist, (trans)misogynist, and classist behaviors//are open to working together on being better about these things
if you think we'd make rad friends.

also, in the effort of full-disclosure:
i'm really bad about messaging people back; plz don't take it personally it usually is just a matter of how busy i am and how little emotional/physical energy i have for okcupid-ing. i try to communicate meaningfully when i can.