Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i'm a femme, radical, ftm genderqueer transfag. (they/them plz).
i'm really hoping to make more queer, trans, and politically
like-minded friends/find community here. i'm the kind of boy who'd
rather meet you at a lecture than a club. punk shows are a happy
i'm queer as fuck and into the whole spectrum of gender
i'm interested in seeking varying forms of connection/intimacy with
more than one person which is a fancy way of saying i'm
non-monogamous. it is not a fancy way of saying i'm flaky or
unaccountable. i'm trying to learn to cultivate more permeable
bounds between my friendships and romantic relationships; we'll see
how it goes.
i'm pretty introverted and ridiculously shy. v. tender. infj.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
currently taking a break from academia; trying to figure out what i
want to do next.
in the meanwhile, i'm a top-knotch latte slinger, i'm starting a
shitty punk band with my friends, i'm doing some creative
non-fiction type writing, and i'm looking for more queer activist
work to do
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
cooking you breakfast.
being big spoon.
cooking you dinner.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
running/working out, books i can hold in my hands, my bike
well that's three...
i don't think there's a lot i really couldn't do without though
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
gender. feminism. (anti)racism. (anti)capitalism. sex (positivity).
critical trans politics. how much i hate mainstream assimilationist
gay/trans politics. prison abolition (as lived daily practice, as
utopian future). queer spirituality. femme identity.
lately: how to meaningfully reject success narratives while still
navigating(/surviving) neoliberal capitalism (if i had a slogan for
this it would be something along the lines of "how to be as punk as
my politics"), the costs of inclusion and visibility, radicalism
and loneliness, anxiety and identity formation
You should message me if
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if you want to hang out in person. if you're sassy. if you're
if you're queer; especially queer punks. if you're any kind of
if you're also both queer&trans/gnc (trans men, trans women,
trans folx of all kinds) ... i think trans folks getting together
is like one of the most beautiful things in the world and i'm super
if you're a power bottom. (definitely not a requirement, but it's
something i tend to like)
if you're a hard femme. hard femmes make me swoon.
if you have radical politics... but like actually radical politics
none of that neoliberal bullshit.
if you're feminist, anti-racist, anti-capitalist, and generally
anti-oppression (a list of these things will never be exhaustive
which is frustrating in itself, but i feel compelled to explicitly
mention anti-ableism, anti-fatphobia) //don't tolerate racist,
(trans)misogynist, and classist behaviors//are open to working
together on being better about these things
if you think we'd make rad friends.
also, in the effort of full-disclosure:
i'm really bad about messaging people back; plz don't take it
personally it usually is just a matter of how busy i am and how
little emotional/physical energy i have for okcupid-ing. i try to
communicate meaningfully when i can.
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