Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i'm a femme, radical, ftm genderqueer transfag. (they/them plz).
i'm really hoping to make more queer, trans, and politically
like-minded friends/find community here. i'm the kind of boy who'd
rather meet you at a lecture than a club.
i'm queer as fuck and into the whole spectrum of gender
i'm interested in seeking varied types of connection/intimacy with
more than one person which is a fancy way of saying i'm
non-monogamous. it is not a fancy way of saying i'm flaky or
unaccountable. i'm trying to learn to cultivate more permeable
bounds between my friendships and romantic relationships; we'll see
how it goes.
i'm pretty introverted and ridiculously shy. infj.
What I’m doing with my life
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currently taking a break from academia; trying to figure out what i
want to do next.
in the meanwhile, i'm a top-knotch latte slinger, i'm starting a
shitty punk band with my friends, i'm doing some creative
non-fiction type writing, and i'm looking for more queer activist
work to do
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
cooking you breakfast.
being big spoon.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
running/working out, books i can hold in my hands
well that's two...
i don't think there's a lot i really couldn't do without though
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
gender. feminism. (anti)racism. (anti)capitalism. sex (positivity).
critical trans politics. how much i hate mainstream assimilationist
gay/trans politics. the prison industrial complex/prison abolition.
queer forms of spirituality.
lately: rage, nostalgia, desire and plasticity
You should message me if
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if you want to hang out in person. if you're sassy. if you're
if you're queer; especially queer punx. if you're any kind of
if you're also both queer&trans/gnc (trans men, trans women,
trans folx of all kinds) ... i think trans folks getting together
is like one of the most beautiful things in the world and i'm super
if you're a power bottom. (definitely not a requirement, but it's
something i tend to like)
if you're a hard femme. hard femmes make me swoon.
if you have radical politics... but like actually radical politics
none of that neoliberal bullshit.
if you're feminist, anti-racist, anti-capitalist, and generally
anti-oppression (a list of these things will never be exhaustive
which is frustrating in itself, but i feel compelled to explicitly
mention anti-ableism, anti-fatphobia) //don't tolerate racist,
(trans)misogynist, and classist behaviors//are open to working
together on being better about these things
if you think we'd make rad friends.
also, in the effort of full-disclosure:
i'm really bad about messaging people back; plz don't take it
personally it usually is just a matter of how busy i am and how
little emotional/physical energy i have for okcupid-ing. i try to
communicate meaningfully when i can.
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