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30 • Oakland, CA • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 28–38
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last Online
- Today – 12:12pm
- 4′ 11″ (1.50m)
- Body Type
- Mostly vegan
- Atheism, and laughing about it
- Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Rather not say
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes dogs and dislikes cats
- English (Fluently), French (Fluently)
I consider myself privileged to live a full, satisfying life. California is beautiful, Oakland is wild. I spend time with interesting people, eat delicious food, stay physically and mentally active and involved in my community. I'd love to meet someone who helps me live these traits even harder.
If you can get past those three things maybe we can have a conversation where you notice some actually interesting things about me.
Music: Mostly the melodic electronic kind with barely intelligible words. The Songza app describes my tastes as "witchy thug gurrl", which is perfect.
Movies and shows: I watch some on my own time. I don't want to date you to sit around and watch a screen.
Books: I'm not ignoring you, I just really want to finish this chapter. Also, after many years of diligent practice, I'm decent at not dropping books in the bathtub.
Internets: I'm all over it like cats.
2. My own living space to come home to
3. Reading material of some sort (I'm going to include reddit here)
4. Sauce, salad, soup, salt & pepper
5. Being outdoors
6. Keyboard shortcuts
(I can actually live without any of these, but they sure do make life more pleasant).
How the American healthcare-industrial complex monetizes death and prolongs suffering.
And myself, which sounds petty but it's truthful.
I learned about empathy relatively late in life. It's something I'm still working on and trying to be better at.
I'll bury this here: I didn't realize that folks used "casual sex" as a search parameter until a friend told me I'd get fewer creepers if I unchecked that option on my profile. After I unchecked it, my number of daily visitors and messages plummeted; fewer creepers, definitely. But I should add, in all honesty, that casual sex is not off the table.
This seems like a good place to prioritize my expectations for a relationship. In the long-term, I'm looking for a person who wants me to be a part of their life in whatever way makes sense; someone with whom there would be an honest conversation about what that means. I want someone I can 1) do meaningful activities with; 2) be challenged by so I/we can grow; and 3) be a source of emotional support for one another.
In the short-term, you could be a booty call.
You should message me if you're down for what's written above AND:
You actively communicate and avoid drama. You want to drink tasty beer and explore secret spots. You have more accurate ways to describe yourself than "adventurous" or "fun". You are not trying to have my babies any time soon, nor are you looking for me to stand in for your mom. You know that evolution and climate change are real. You eat vegetables. You are creative, somehow. You can drive a stick shift car.
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