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31 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 28–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:36pm
4′ 11″ (1.50m)
Body type
Mostly vegan
Atheism, and laughing about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Originally from New York, but consistently drawn westward. I have a rabid love for Oakland, with its glittering ruby insides and dry chicken bones. Let's get visceral.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a job, which is work, not my life. What I'm really trying to do is be outside more.

I consider myself privileged to live a full, satisfying life. California is beautiful, Oakland is wild. I spend time with interesting people, eat delicious food, stay physically and mentally active and involved in my community. I'd love to meet someone who helps me live these traits even harder.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Knowing what that thing is. Knowing what that word means. Knowing how to ask when I don't know, which is a lot.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
1. I'm short; 2. I have an unusual name; 3. I have freckles.

If you can get past those three things maybe we can have a conversation where you notice some actually interesting things about me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Food: I'm vegetarian but I don't proselytize, nor will I judge you for what's on your plate.

Music: Mostly the melodic electronic kind with barely intelligible words. I dig the "witchy thug gurrl" playlist on Songza.

Movies and shows: I watch some on my own time, but I don't want to date you to sit around and watch a screen.

Books: I'm not ignoring you, I just really want to finish this chapter. Also, after many years of diligent practice, I'm decent at not dropping books in the bathtub.

Internets: I'm all over it like cats.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Seltzer
2. My own living space to come home to
3. Reading material (I'm going to include reddit here)
4. Sauce, salad, soup, salt & pepper
5. Being outdoors
6. Keyboard shortcuts

(I can actually live without any of these, but they sure do make life more pleasant).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Words, plants, food.

How the American healthcare-industrial complex monetizes death and prolongs suffering.

And myself, which sounds petty but it's truthful.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably lurking somewhere in Oakland.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I recently signed on to OKC to discover that I had an astonishing 29 new messages! "Damn", I thought, "Go me". Then I realized my dad had used my computer while he was staying at my house, and that he hadn't signed out of his account. TL;DR my dad is way more an OKC baller than I am.

I'll bury this here: I didn't realize that folks used "casual sex" as a search parameter until a friend told me I'd get fewer creepers if I unchecked that option on my profile. After I unchecked it, my number of daily visitors and messages plummeted; fewer creepers, definitely. But I should add, in all honesty, that casual sex is not off the table.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
N.B. I don't want to take any part of your polyamorous lifestyle; please don't message me about it.

This seems like a good place to prioritize my expectations for a relationship. In the long-term, I'm looking for a person who wants me to be a part of their life in whatever way makes sense; someone with whom there would be an honest conversation about what that means. I want someone I can 1) do meaningful activities with; 2) be challenged by so I/we can grow; and 3) be a source of emotional support for one another.
In the short-term, you could be a booty call.

You should message me if you're down for what's written above AND:
You actively communicate and avoid drama. You want to drink tasty beer and explore secret spots. You have more precise words to describe yourself than "adventurous" or "fun". You are not trying to have my babies any time soon, nor are you looking for me to stand in for your mom. You know that evolution and climate change are real. You eat vegetables. You are creative, somehow. You can drive a stick shift car.