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28 Marina del Rey, CA Cis Woman

Cis Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:44pm
Pansexual, Queer, Sapiosexual
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body type
Not at all
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Working on Ph.D program
Sales / Marketing
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm fairly poly-saturated at this point in my life, with two incredible relationships: gomode and grrrlofyourdream. I'm always interested in connecting with people, especially if we're a high match, and because I have very little free time, it might be a while. Life is full and magical!

Constantly cultivating an attitude of gratitude!


Warning: my profile is long. I'm really good at adding, not so much at throwing away :)

Born in the USSR, grew up in Maryland, moved to Oregon for a while and now it's on to California. I want to meet many shiny happy people to show me around, and to re-create the amazing community and tribe I had in Portland of burners, performers, flow artists, cuddle buddies (I love cuddle puddles!), poly people, vegans, lovers, entrepreneurs, gods and goddesses. If this sounds like you, let's connect!

A glimpse into my world:

Current articles I have open to remind me to read (I always have far too many tabs):
--Staying Present on the Way to Our Dreams
--Meditate A Woman
--What Everyone Needs to Know About Their Chakras
--Are You Empowered By Being Here?
--Revolutionary Love and Spiritual Partnership
--We Were Made For These Times
--Making a Medicine Wheel Garden
--Sun has 'flipped upside down' as new magnetic cycle begins
--Find What You Love and Let it Kill You
--Alter Your Genes and Cure Any Disease
--9 Strategies for Non-Oppressive Polyamory
--How to Have Sex on Purpose
--Is the Universe A Hologram?
--Why Sex Should Be Treated As a Spiritual Practice
--Moving From Attachment to Detachment with Love
--Why You Need to Date Someone Who Scares You
--No One Completes Anyone and I Cannot Be Your Everything

Currently reading:
--"Money: A Love Story" by Kate Northrup
--"The Divine Feminine Fire" by Teri Degler
--"Infinite Possibilities" by Mike Dooley
--"Teachings on Love" by Thich Nhat Hanh
--"Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown
--"Tantra: The Way of Acceptance" by Osho
--"The Final Elimination of the Source of Fear" by Saratoga and Telstar
--"The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching" by Thich Nhat Hanh
--"Nonviolence Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg
--"Earthclan" by David Brin
--"Stumbling on Happiness" by Daniel Gilbert

Favorite quotes that sum me up rather nicely:

"What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart." --Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." --Marianne Williamson

"You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw even one of your moments away.” ― C. JoyBell C.

"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place." ~Iain Thomas

"If we listened to our intellect, we'd never have a love affair. We'd never have a friendship. We'd never go into business, because we'd be too cynical. Well, that's nonsense. You've got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down." --Annie Dillard

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs are people who have come alive.” --Howard Thurman

"When health is absent, wisdom cannot reveal itself, art cannot manifest, strength cannot fight, wealth becomes useless, and intelligence cannot be applied." --Herophilus

"Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.” --Eckhart Tolle

"The doctor of the future will give no medicine, but will interest his patients in the care of the human frame, in diet, and in the cause and prevention of disease." ~Thomas Edison

"When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down "happy". They told me I didn’t understand the assignment. I told them they didn’t understand life." — John Lennon <3

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." --Mahatma Gandhi

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered, "Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, & then dies having never really lived."

"Never let anyone come to you without coming away better and happier." --Mother Teresa

"Here we are, arguably the most intellectual, clever species ever to have lived--so how is it that we can destroy the only planet we have?" --Jane Goodall

'The beef industry has contributed to more American deaths than all the wars of this century, all natural disasters, and all automobile accidents combined. If beef is your idea of “real food for real people,” you’d better live real close to a real good hospital.' —Neal D. Barnard, MD

"If all the money that is being spent on finding ways to kill people was used instead to feed them and house them, clothe them and educate them -- how beautiful that would be. We are too often afraid of the sacrifices we might have to make. But where there is true love, there is joy and peace." --Mother Teresa

"If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves." --Thomas Edison

"We're all going to die, all of us, what a circus! That alone should make us love each other but it doesn't. We are terrorized and flattened by trivialities, we are eaten up by nothing." --Charles Bukowski

‘It’s very dear to me, the issue of gay marriage. Or as I like to call it: “Marriage.” You know, because I had lunch this afternoon, not gay lunch. I parked my car; I didn’t gay park it.' --Liz Feldman

"At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." --Albert Schweitzer

For each new morning with its light,
For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food, for love and friends,
For everything Thy goodness sends.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

"All that we are is the result of what we have thought." --Buddha

"Until he extends the circle of his compassion to all living things, man will not himself find peace." —Albert Schweitzer

"The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow Roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars, and in the middle, you see the blue center-light pop, and everybody goes ahh..." --Jack Kerouac
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Building an empire of health. Care to join me on this magical journey?

I work in the travel industry - super fun with amazing perks! I love my job; I feel so blessed that I'm actually excited to go to work every day.

I'm also a Holistic Health Coach where I help people get back in balance with holistic medicine/nutrition/grounding/reiki/energy work/chakra balancing/tantra/goddess energy. Feel free to contact me professionally!

I'm passionate about holistic health and nutrition. I've been (mostly) raw vegan for about 3 years now and am always continuing to explore lifestyle and health. I would love to meet other people on this journey!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Compassion, gratitude, holding space.

Ms. Pacman.

Being affectionate/cuddling.

Making huge, amazing salads.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm short, I have really curly hair and I smile a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: All the books I'm currently reading listed above, Brave New World, 1984, Walden 2, Ecotopia, More Than Human, Angels and Demons, A Prayer for Owen Meany, The World According to Garp, anything by Orson Scott Card, LOTR, Harry Potter, The Foundation Novels, Maus, Tuesdays with Morrie, Fahrenheit 451, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, Opening Up, The Ethical Slut, Nonviolent Communication...the list is long and I'm always looking for the next good book. I will love you if you introduce me to some!

Movies: ah so many...Across the Universe, Up, Coraline, Finding Nemo, Inception, Adaptation, Se7en, Pulp Fiction, Closer, Boondock Saints, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, Sweeney Todd, Chicago, A Beautiful Mind, Memento, Sin City, High Fidelity, Donnie Darko, Silence of the Lambs, Garden State, Good Will Hunting, The Graduate, Rounders, Million Dollar Baby, Office Space, Chaos Theory, Zoolander, The Jerk, Wedding Crashers, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Stewie Griffin: The Untold Story, Sixth Sense, I Heart Huckabees, The Royal Tenenbaums, The Best of Will Ferrell, the Oceans series, V for Vendetta, and a thousand more that you can ask me about. I haven't seen many classics so that's next on the list.

TV: Shark Tank, The Big Bang Theory, Girls, Modern Family, New Girl, Scrubs, Firefly, Battlestar, Arrested Development, Farscape, The L-word, How I Met Your Mother, The New Normal, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Community, Californication, Flight of the Concords, 30 Rock, Parks and Recreation, The Office, Weeds, House, That 70's Show, Family Guy, Futurama, Invader Zim. I actually don't own a TV--who needs one when you have the internets?

Music: There's definitely a wide variety. Currently dancing to: Nahko and Medicine for the People, Kaminanda, Random Rab, Portishead, Beats Antique. I listen to pretty much everything except death metal. Beatles, AC/DC, Pink Floyd, U2, Atmosphere, Radiohead, Depeche Mode, Camera Obscura and NIN just to name a few. Gaga is my (not so) guilty pleasure.

Food: Fruit, lots and lots of fruit. I'm happiest when I'm consuming a ton of fruit and green juice. I consist on a plant-based lifestyle and eat as much raw as possible. Having said that, I still get really excited about all types of (vegan) food. I love to play in the kitchen and have tons of recipe books that I work with. I love feeding people in general, and if you come over, you will be offered everything I currently have in my fridge and pantry - you have been warned. I also really love going out to eat and am very much enjoying all of the amazing food LA has to offer. I'm always ready to explore a new spot with vegan options - let's go!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Watermelon, and pretty much every other fruit, but watermelon is the best.

- Friends/family.

- Animal love: my kitties are the best cuddlers! They're in Portland though so I'm very much animal love deprived. Can I cuddle with your furbabies?

- The sense of touch. It's my love language, I need lots of touch in my life. (Followed closely by words of affirmation and gifts. If you don't know what I'm talking about, I highly recommend looking up the 5 love languages!)

- Books/internet - just knowledge in general.

- Passion.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Man buns (I love that something I've always found so attractive is now a thing!). The Universe. Goddess energy. Tantra. Acro yoga. Human interactions. The law of attraction. Spirit science. Cuddle puddles. Holistic medicine and everything related to it. Burning Man. Festivals. Collective consciousness. The optimal foods for humans. That I get way too excited at farmer's markets/health food stores. How to live to 120 disease-free. Polyamory/ethical non-monogamy. How I'm going to start and plan my garden. Judaism. Religion/heritage/culture. Utopian/distopian/post-apocalyptic societies. Intentional communities. Nonviolent communication. Radical honesty. Energy medicine. Sexuality. How to adopt and raise a fox. When we're going to officially find aliens and become friends with them. When we're going to move to outer space. Reality. Alternate Universes. Where to travel to next. Where I want to live in a few years. How I can travel around the world and get paid for it. My grandfather and how amazing he was. How I need to invent a pair of hands that feel exactly like human hands and give incredible massages...I would make millions. Why we have to sleep so much in order to function. How McDonald's and Walmart are the fall of mankind. TED talks.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully dancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Cancer III, Aquarius rising, Scorpio moon.

I really want dreads.

I'm probably practicing handstands at 1 AM.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Yes! (this is gender-neutral):

"Take a lover that looks at you like maybe you are magic." ~ Frida Kahlo

I want to be up front that it takes me a long time before I share sexual energy with a new partner. This means I'm not interested in anything casual. I'm looking for real, soul connections, and am interested in initially meeting platonically. With that said, I'm happily accepting cuddle buddy applications! I can never have enough cuddling in my life.

You love life. You like to randomly break out in song and enjoy spontaneous dance parties in your living room in your underwear. You're a healer of some sort! You meditate/practice yoga/have a spiritual practice. You like to dance. You want to practice acro yoga. You want to watch and discuss spirit science. You want to make vision boards together. You want to make me juice (or take me to a juice bar, that's acceptable too). You want to take me to a raw food or vegan restaurant. You like festivals. You're a burner. You want to teach me how to surf. You want to teach and help me plant a garden. You want to Shark Tank marathon. You can hold an intelligent conversation. You can communicate effectively. U dOn tYpE lyk diS lol! You're entertaining. You love to travel. You don't smoke cigarettes. You care about your health and future. You are driven and passionate. You're interested in holistic health and/or nutrition. You want to teach me poi/fire dancing/pole dancing. You want to practice handstands. You want to go climbing. You can appreciate this. You're raw/vegan/vegetarian/want to get there. You're poly/non-monogamous or at least open to it. You practice tantra/want to learn. You like to cuddle. Affection is something that's very big in my life, so if you aren't affectionate we probably won't mesh.

You want to teach me how to do this

You don't mind that I'm busy and might not get back to you right away. Or that we might not actually get a chance to get together for a while.

I don't drink, which means I'm not really interested in meeting at a bar (unless it's a juice bar!). Let's have adventures together instead!

The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming
from the book The Invitation