I am feisty, amusing, and stubborn.
My Self-Summary
I'm 25 and live in far too conservative Northwest Indiana, about an
hour from Chicago.
I'm a motivated person and know what I want from life.
My husband
Lord_Syruss and I are have been
together 8 years, married for four, and are
polyamorous, meaning we believe that
you can love more than one person. We have always dated other
people in some form. Sometimes we date the same people, sometimes
we don't.
What I’m doing with my life
My main role is as a mom, as well as a small business owner. I'm a
bit of a workaholic, but am a person who figures out their dreams
and goals and makes it happen. I've gone from babysitting one or
two kids to opening a childcare facility in its own building in
less than 3 years. I also go to school taking online classes to get
my degree in Early Childhood. I have one biological daughter who is
four, and am in the process of adopting 5 other children ages 6 to
14.
I don't have much of that thing called free time. I am a bulletin
board addict, and love to read as well. Currently my fascinations
are with decluttering and
simplifying my life, and with
homeschooling, particularly the
unschooling
philosophy. I'm also looking into the Sudbury/democratic type
schools and dream of starting one one day.
I run a daycare which keeps me incredibly busy.
I’m really good at
Telling stories and making people laugh. Everyone at my old job
thought I was nuts, but I kept the crew happily entertained.
I'm good at getting the job done. I know what I want out of life
and work hard to get it.
I'm good at getting my way.
The first things people usually notice about me
Sometimes I bite new people.
One of my daycare parents said that she thought my husband and I
were hippie flower children when she came to interview here. She
still put her kids in, so I suppose that was a good thing.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
LOTR- any of them, Serendipity, Titanic, Armageddon, Serenity, Love
Actually, Crash.
I like romantic comedies best but mostly get dragged into geeky
scifi movies, shit like that, which are cool too.
TV-wise I love ER, Private Practice, and Grey's Anatomy. I used to
watch a lot of other things, but we got rid of our cable (and
dont't have an antennae) over a year ago so we're on a TV hiatus
for now. The L Word, Weeds, Big Love, and Queer as Folk I watch on
DVD.
Oh yes, and I love Friends... I have up through like season 7
burned on cd, and a bunch of the others on my computer. Also went
thru an Xmen loving phase and have a bunch of episodes of that on
cd as well. Hmm, what else, i love Will and Grace, Everybody Love
Raymond.... the good sitcoms, not the cheesy shit.... I do miss TV
sometimes.
I love reading but with school I haven't read much that's not a
textbook recently. When I do, it's usually things relating to
adoption, raising children, or daycare with some fiction mixed in
when I can.
The six things I could never do without
1. My immediate family- My husband Brett is so good to me when I'm
such a pain in the neck,and my daughter is my life. I've been a
foster parent for over 2 years and have had 23 children come
through my home. It is both the hardest and the most rewarding
thing I've ever done.
2. My independence- I can't stand being told what to do...I never
want to be in a situation where someone is in charge of me (except
maybe sexually) again
3. My friends and extended family...as I said I talk way too much,
and I'm very unhappy if there's noone to talk to.
4. The internet and my Blackberry. I'm far too attached to
it.
5. Sleep. I'm not one of those people that can get 2 hours sleep
and function.... I need 7-9 hours. my job is too stressful for
less.
6. Books. I have to have something to read.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I wonder if there are other people like me in the world.. I'm
starting to believe there aren't really. I'm bisexual and
polyamorous, but I run a daycare and have a lifeplan that includes
adopting a passel of kids and starting a school. It's like there
are two separate sides of my life that I wish could collide.
I want to simplify my life, to live better for our family and the
environment.
I want to live in community with other people. The way we all live
our separate lives in suburbia just doesn't make sense to me.
I recently joined a Unitarian Universalist church and am working on
discovering what my religious beliefs actually are. I've felt more
accepted there than I have most other places I've been in my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually my husband and I switch off on who gets to go out. More
often I go out Saturdays and he gets Friday nights because of work
schedules. So on a Friday night you'd probably find me on World of
Warcraft. Saturday nights I go to Rocky some of the time, or out
with friends, varies from week to week. I'm just as happy having a
movie night at a friend's house as I would be out at a bar, I don't
mind drinking, but never got into the bar scene much.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
I fall too hard, too fast when it comes to love.
You should message me if
I am looking primarily for another woman for friendship or
hopefully more with one or both of us. I'm also interested in
meeting another M/F or F/F couple with whom my SO and I are both
compatible with for friendship at least, possibly more.
I'm preferably looking for a longterm relationship. People who
aren't afraid of the family thing and like the idea of living
together in
community with other likeminded
people. People who aren't afraid of the fact that I have a very big
family.
If you're new to the
poly thing, please don't try it out on my
husband and I. Figure out if it is what you really want, figure out
your rules and boundaries. But know that polyamory is not a way to
fix a bad relationship, so don't use us for your poly experiment.
I'm also rather leery of just dating one person who is already part
of a couple, that hasn't worked out well in the past. The other
person always seems to get jealous.