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57 • New York, NY • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 46–63
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Today – 12:44am
- 5′ 9″ (1.75m)
- Body type
- Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from Ph.D program
I am considerate, literate, and gainfully employed
Update: I'm flattered by the responses I've gotten, even the "just want to say hi" variety that don't work geographically. (I'm a hi-sayer from way back.) I am indeed 57 years old, not 57 in dating-site-years, and even though I take care of myself, there's no getting around that fact. So if you're trying to relive your twenties, we're likely not a good match. (Oh, and if you're actually still in your twenties . . . turn off the computer, call your dad and talk things out.) On the other hand, if you're just marking time, playing out the string, living vicariously through relatives, that's likely not going to work either.
Second update: I don't mind getting IMs, but please don't be offended if I don't respond. I tend to have multiple programs running at once and often am not aware of an IM until hours after the fact--especially if I'm struggling to meet a deadline.
Third update: I've noticed that many women's profiles mention a determination to "keep it real." After giving the idea some thought, I've concluded that I like a bit of artifice in a woman.
Fourth update: There's nothing I like better on a Saturday night than pouring a couple of glasses of Pinot, letting Miles set the mood and curling up by the fire with a special lady . . . oh, who am I kidding? I can't carry that off.
Fifth update: I used to be anti-tattoo, but my position is evolving . . .
Sixth update: I used to think fact-checking was the new foreplay. It turns out foreplay is the new foreplay.
Seventh update: My last physical was two weeks ago, and I regret to report that I'm no longer 5'9"--I now check in officially at 5' 8 1/2" ... but I prefer to round up. Besides, I like to think I live a 5'11" life.
Eighth update: I need to clarify something in my "I'm looking for" statement. I've selected "located anywhere" and "for new friends, long term dating." I'm looking for NEW FRIENDS anywhere, but, realistically, when it comes to long-term dating, I'm not going to uproot from NYC...at least until I retire. My experience with long distance involvements has been, well, mixed (to be kind).
There's a sweet spot between realism and idealism, between maturity and exuberance, between wisdom and possibility; I'd like to meet you somewhere in that vicinity.
Food: California Pizza Kitchen, various dishes. Also, a cinnamon raisin bagel with low fat cream cheese, various locations, especially on a Saturday morning; throw in a cup of hot tea with lemon, and I'm yours.
Movies: Casablanca, Wuthering Heights (Feinnes, Binoche version), Tombstone, Annie Hall, Manhattan, Crimes and Misdemeanors, The Producers (Mostel, Wilder version), Monty Python and the Holy Grail, O Brother Where Art Thou?, Stripes (Bill Murray's lowbrow pinnacle) and Groundhog Day (Bill Murray's highbrow pinnacle).
Books: Where to begin . . . ?
. . . had to heave Pride overboard to indulge the rest.
1) You don't recognize that there are intelligent, well-meaning people on both sides of the political spectrum.
2) You think that people who are religious are weak-minded, or that people who aren't religious are damned to hell.
3) You've posted a photo of yourself at a crowded bar, holding a beer, with your tongue sticking out like one of those "Waaaasuuuup" guys. There's nothing wrong with it, but I wouldn't fit in with the fun.
4) You've posted a photo of yourself flipping the finger to the camera. (Hard to understand the charm in that, but maybe I'm just out of the loop with respect to dating etiquette.)
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