Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a college professor and writer, good with words . . . maybe
better with words than with reality. But I do all right in three
dimensions most of the time.
I am considerate, literate, and gainfully employed
Update: I'm flattered by the responses I've gotten, even the "just
want to say hi" variety that don't work geographically. (I'm a
hi-sayer from way back.) I am indeed 58 years old, not 58 in
dating-site-years, and even though I take care of myself, there's
no getting around that fact. So if you're trying to relive your
twenties, we're likely not a good match. (Oh, and if you're
actually still in your twenties . . . turn off the computer, call
your dad and talk things out.) On the other hand, if you're just
marking time, playing out the string, living vicariously through
relatives, that's likely not going to work either.
Second update: I don't mind getting IMs, but please don't be
offended if I don't respond. I tend to have multiple programs
running at once and often am not aware of an IM until hours after
the fact--especially if I'm struggling to meet a deadline.
Third update: I've noticed that many women's profiles mention a
determination to "keep it real." After giving the matter some
thought, I've concluded that I like a bit of artifice in a
Fourth update: There's nothing I like better on a Saturday night
than pouring a couple of glasses of Pinot, letting Miles set the
mood and curling up by the fire with a special lady . . . oh, who
am I kidding? I can't carry that off.
Fifth update: I used to be anti-tattoo, but my position is evolving
. . .
Sixth update: I used to think fact-checking was the new foreplay.
It turns out foreplay is the new foreplay.
Seventh update: My last physical was two weeks ago, and I regret to
report that I'm no longer 5'9"--I now check in officially at 5' 8
1/2" ... but I prefer to round up. Besides, I like to think I live
a 5'11" life.
Eighth update: I need to clarify something in my "I'm looking for"
statement. I've selected "located anywhere" and "for new friends,
long term dating." I'm looking for NEW FRIENDS anywhere, but,
realistically, when it comes to long-term dating, I'm not going to
uproot from NYC...at least until I retire. My experience with long
distance involvements has been, well, mixed (to be kind).
There's a sweet spot between realism and idealism, between maturity
and exuberance, between wisdom and possibility; I'd like to meet
you somewhere in that vicinity.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Breathing in and out, as often as necessary, and appreciating that
act, as often as possible.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My desire not to be noticed . . . which, in truth, is just a
pathetic cry for attention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: The Beatles. (No close second.)
Food: California Pizza Kitchen, various dishes. Also, a cinnamon
raisin bagel with low fat cream cheese, various locations,
especially on a Saturday morning; throw in a cup of hot tea with
lemon, and I'm yours.
Movies: Casablanca, Wuthering Heights (Feinnes, Binoche version),
Tombstone, Annie Hall, Manhattan, Crimes and Misdemeanors, The
Producers (Mostel, Wilder version), Monty Python and the Holy
Grail, O Brother Where Art Thou?, Stripes (Bill Murray's lowbrow
pinnacle) and Groundhog Day (Bill Murray's highbrow
Books: Where to begin . . . ?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
. . . had to heave Pride overboard to indulge the rest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Medieval theology. (No, honestly.) The small of a woman's back. My
next book. My diminishing skills in softball and touch football.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Inscribing medieval theology on the small of a woman's back with a
felt tipped pen. Thinking about my diminishing handwriting skills.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I spend WAY too much time procrastinating by browsing OKC profiles.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
It's difficult to answer this question without sounding like a
sappy greeting card. On the other hand, we're probably NOT a good
1) You don't recognize that there are intelligent, well-meaning
people on both sides of the political spectrum.
2) You think that people who are religious are weak-minded, or that
people who aren't religious are damned to hell.
3) You've posted a photo of yourself at a crowded bar, holding a
beer, with your tongue sticking out like one of those "Waaaasuuuup"
guys. There's nothing wrong with it, but I wouldn't fit in with the
4) You've posted a photo of yourself flipping the finger to the
camera. (Hard to understand the charm in that, but maybe I'm just
out of the loop with respect to dating etiquette.)
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