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50 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–57
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 6
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), French (Okay), Turkish (Okay), Sign Language (Okay)

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My self-summary
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What makes me happy....

I enjoy people in my life -- emotional connection to friends and community.

I enjoy introspection -- quiet time, reflection, journaling.

I enjoy making a contribution to the world -- I'm a college professor; I train teachers to work with linguistically/culturally diverse students.

I enjoy a balance of stability and growth -- I love feeling rooted and established, but also enjoy new experiences and adventures.

I'm HIV-neg and top/vers. All my stats are accurate and my profile pics are recent.
What I’m doing with my life
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Enjoying life and growing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a "complex person" without being a "complicated person." There's a lot to me -- but I'm pretty grounded, straightforward, and sincere.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Warm smile and intense gaze.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I got an MA in German Literature (not for career, just for fun), but I read mostly non-fiction now.
And a funny tidbit: When I want to learn a new language, I read "The Hobbit" and "Lord of the Rings" in that language to learn vocabulary and grammar.

Kate Bush, Zero 7, Morcheeba, Air, Jose Gonzalez, Saint Etienne, Bonobo, Sia Furler, Hooverphonic, Goldfrapp, Hayley Westenra, Bebel Gilberto, New Order, Kruder & Dorfmeister, Frederico Aubele, Ulrich Schnauss, Beth Orton, Royksopp, Jamiroquai, B-52s, Nouvelle Vague, Massive Attack, Charlotte Gainbourg, Ursula 1000, Robbie Williams, Emma Shaplin, Tosca, Cyndi Lauper, Kylie Minogue, Thievery classical music, especially early music and late 19th century/early 20th century music.

Moon, Run Lola Run, Pieces of April, Sense and Sensibility, Undertow, City of Lost Children, Lathe of Heaven, Before Sunset, Garden State, What's Up Doc?, Up, Pee-wee's Big Adventure, Despicable Me, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Shortbus, Monty Python's Life of Brian, Raising Arizona, Basquiat, Transamerica, Goodbye Lenin, Bride and Prejudice, Under the Tuscan Sun, Best in Show, The Dark Crystal, Helvetica, Four Weddings and a Funeral, The Fountain, It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World, Bear Cub, 500 Days of Summer, The Wedding Banquet, The Secret Garden, Contact, Love Actually, the LOTHR movies, the Alien movies, Women on the Verge, Mindwalk, Broken Embraces, The Sea Inside, Airplane, Children of Men, Bridget Jones's Diary, Clueless, Curse of the Golden Flower, Ran.

I'm an avid reader of online news (The Economist, Huffington Post, BBC News, NY Times, etc.)

I love everything!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. People
2. My values (spent years pondering what's important in life)
3. Documentaries/books/museums (things I can learn from)
4. My journal (written almost daily for 26 years.)
5. Travel
6. House projects (I'm very handy with tools.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life, society, culture
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having friends over for dinner and conversation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Size matters to me. :-)
I typically date guys who are somewhat "above average."
You should message me if
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You are smart, warmhearted, and passionate...

Please have recent profile pics and honest stats (age, etc.).