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31 M Hilversum, Netherlands

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 3:54pm
6′ 3″ (1.90m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Working on Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly), Other (Okay)

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My self-summary
It is a sad thing that sarcasm goes over so badly in the written word, especially without sufficient context. You, gentle reader, will be denied the pleasure of blazing irony and circumstantial wit, since for now, we lack any sort of context.

Thus, cue the dry-as-fuck sales pitch. Yay!

I like honesty and logic. I have ridiculously high standards for my own actions and behaviour. This also means I have a very low tolerance for irrationality. The only way I manage to not go insane is by also being accepting of human foibles, including my own. Having high standards is great; unfortunately, people are not perfect. We are also imperfect in predictable ways: we have common (as in: we have them in common) biases which we need to overcome, which we often cannot do without proper experience or training. If you do not accept that you have flaws, you can never learn. The more flaws you are open to recognizing in yourself, the better you are able to improve and approach those high standards.
All of this is just a poncey way of saying that I am picky and difficult.

All in all, my life is pretty good.

I will not surprise you unpleasantly in the usual ways. My net worth is positive, I have no substance abuse issues, I look the way I do in my pictures, I have no illegal* sexual preferences, I'm not in bad physical shape, I have not been diagnosed with mental disorders**, I am extremely even-tempered, I pay taxes, I have finished a Master's degree at a real university, I have no offspring, and I am mobile.

That said, there are a few non-standard things about me that could turn into unpleasant surprises if not fully disclosed. There are some quirks; I am a clear and obvious sufferer of parenthesitis, aside from the obvious and overriding preference for rationality I have documented weak spots for nose piercings, weirdos, dreadlocks, power games, women of Eastern European descent and moody music.

Less superficially, I am also romantically liberal (open to what some call polyamory, though recent adverse experiences have caused me to temper my enthusiasm somewhat; 'open' is the name of the game nowadays): I do not believe in monogamy by default. That is not to say I want to sleep around; if anything, I am pickier than most. I simply believe that being intimate with multiple people at the same time is possible, both emotionally and physically (which does not necessarily mean that it is possible for me under all circumstances, apparently). Sure, there will be some jealousy, some wrangling, some jockeying for position. None of this needs to be problematic if you can discuss it, support one another and be frank about your boundaries and limitations. The jealousy, wrangling and jockeying will be so much worse if it all has to happen beneath the surface, causing resentment, lack of communication, distrust and ultimately the breakdown of the system. How is that love?

* Just immoral, in some circles.
** But please, do not take this as a guarantee of normalcy, just one of stability and function.
What I’m doing with my life
Throwing it away. Just like you.

Seriously, though: computational neuroscience at the faculty of philosophy.
I’m really good at
Verifiably? The game SET.

It has also been said that my back rubs are pretty good.
The first things people usually notice about me
Sure, sure. First impressions are important. They are also subjective as all fuck, resulting in this gem of circular logic: if I am your type, you will find me attractive. If not, not so much.

Also, I have long hair. Circular it is not, but all the more obvious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books, fiction: Levin, Orwell, Greene, Hemingway, Tolkien, Ruiz Zafón, Gibson, Golding, Dahl, Patrick O'Brian (I have no shame), Gaiman, Murakami, G. R. R. Martin, Lev Grossman, Charles Stross (he writes what I would aspire to writing -- he does it really well, so I do not need to), Dennis Lehane (better a good thriller than bad literature), W. G. Sebald, Roberto Bolaño (if in moderation) and last but not least Slauerhoff (not in moderation).

Books, poetry: Bloem, Bukowski, Marsman, Slauerhoff again.

Movies: The Matrix, American Beauty, Solaris, Donnie Darko, Million Dollar Hotel, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, No Way Out, Control, Fight Club, Gattaca, Festen, Syriana, Sunshine, Black Swan.

Oh, don't get me started.
In particular order: the Cure, Nine Inch Nails, Oceansize, Tool, Deftones, Katatonia, Killing Joke, Marillion (with Fish), ISIS (the Los Angeles post-metal one), Curve, Underworld, Soundgarden, Faith No More, Piano Magic, Depeche Mode, Massive Attack, Type O Negative, PJ Harvey and quite a few more.
I love music. I consider it the shortcut to my heart.
Current fads: Drone and doom-jazz. Think Kilimanjaro Darkjazz Ensemble and their drone-incarnation Mount Fuji Doomjazz Corporation, Sunn O))), Bohren & der Club of Gore. Perhaps ISIS also counts.

TV shows: Californication, Game of Thones (the books are cool, and the TV series is an awesome rendition), Firefly, Deadwood, and House. Recently discovered The Wire and loved it.

Food: Hmmm, food. Let me cook for you! I have references.

I limit the amount of meat I eat, and probably should (yet too rarely do) limit myself to 'biologically raised' animal flesh. Still, militant dietism of any kind makes me sad.
Insisting on lots of meat makes you environmentally and morally short-sighted.
Being strict in the tenets of some kind of vegetarianism makes you dogmatic. Where do you draw the line? Why is it OK to keep cows in slavery for their milk but not for their flesh, and why do you avoid eating cows but not nematodes?
Finally, in my culinary experience, vegans make for unpleasant culinary contortions if one wants to eat a varied, healthy, supplement-less, tasty diet. Which I do.
The six things I could never do without
Garlic and games (power-, board-, strategy-, - of Thrones, and - Theory).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Models of complex adaptive systems. My delightful girlfriend AngeDePerdition (well, she used to be on here; it's how we met, and it works excellently).
On a typical Friday night I am
Knackered from a week of working, and doing something comparatively mindless.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
You've got a 95+% Match and ~80+% Friend. We'll get along just fine.