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puzzlerman

41 M Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

  • Men who like men
  • Ages 21–45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:04pm
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
$70,000–$80,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Having tried everything to meet dates, including Love Potion Number 9, Powdermilk Biscuits, and brushing up my Shakespeare, a friend recommended OKCupid. That was a few years ago. I looked at the profile questions, and became paralyzed with perfectionistic anxiety. In my usual resilient way, I decided to tackle it again. Here's the result of that endeavor.

I'm usually too modest to talk about myself, but friends would likely apply the usual array of adjectives to me: smart, witty, kind, sensitive, caring, open-minded, trustworthy, honest, and loyal. Sometimes any or all of these to a fault.

I hate putting myself into boxes to describe myself, so I won't do the same to you. I have obvious preferences (don't we all?) but I assiduously try to avoid categorizing people by "type" because it's very limiting and people are much more complex and interesting. So I don't really have a type per se, but if you were holding a gun to my head I'd probably answer the closest I have to one, which is "nerdy boy next door."

With that in mind, I am much more interested in your intelligence, personality, and kindness (you should have them) and heart (it should beat). Physical chemistry does matter initially, but it's never a make-or-break characteristic and certainly shouldn't be the sole criterion for anything as important as friendship (or anything beyond). I initially was going to write that I look at the whole package, but I realize the potential for misinterpretation makes it not the most elegant turn of phrase.

I'm also somewhat shy and reserved in social situations, but I usually can overcome that to make the first move and try to break the ice, but I'm usually more comfortable and relaxed (and usually flattered) when someone takes the initiative if they're so inclined. Once I feel comfortable with someone, I can break through the barrier of introversion fairly quickly. So come on in, the water's fine. (And if you look good in a bathing suit, it's not a prerequisite, but it certainly doesn't hurt.)

Nevertheless, I soldier on looking to meet that special someone, although I'm perfectly happy to meet some good platonic friends along that journey. If you're interested in either, read on. I hope to hear from you!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
By day, I work as a medical editor. I also work as a freelance editor specializing in constructing and editing puzzles and games, currently working on a number of projects including editing a magazine.

When I'm not working, I enjoy word games of all stripes, making and solving puzzles, reading, photography, travel, film, aquatic sports, scouring the Internet for new ways to fritter away my scarce free time, and I'm sure other things that I've forgotten because I haven't done them in so long.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a caring friend and a good listener; getting along with (most) people, especially children (and eventually, your parents); making people laugh; performing basic math in my head; spelling and grammar (extra points if you understand the proper use of the semicolon); puzzles and games, especially involving words and trivia; swimming technique, if not necessarily for speed (except the butterfly); making matzoh brie.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My intelligence and overall nerdy demeanor, my sense of humor, my smile, my blue eyes (and my glasses). If I'm on the subway, I might get a comment about how fast I'm solving the crossword puzzle. Anecdotally, I've been told I have a nice butt, but I've never been able to turn my head far enough to verify that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Not an exhaustive list:

Books--Spanish Word Games For Dummies, The Language Instinct, Words and Rules, Word Freak, The Joy of Lex, Making the Alphabet Dance, Language on Vacation, The Dictionary of Wordplay, British English A to Zed, Crime and Punishment, Bringing Down the House, Brainiac, Ken Jennings's Trivia Almanac, 15,003 Answers, The Encyclopedia of TV Game Shows, Crime and Punishment, Bringing Down the House, Catch-22, Lolita, American Nerd, The Signal and the Noise, Call Me By Your Name.

Movies--Wordplay, Word Wars, Spellbound, Casablanca, The Godfather (I and II), Sunset Boulevard, Hairspray (original), Network, American Beauty, Hannah and Her Sisters, Crimes and Misdemeanors, Annie Hall, Bananas, Love and Death, The Purple Rose of Cairo, Rear Window, Vertigo, Some Like It Hot, Horse Feathers, Duck Soup, Big Eden, Watercolors, Latter Days, A Single Man, Swimming Upstream, Groundhog Day, Avalon, Juno, Slumdog Millionaire, Tales of the City, Young Frankenstein, High Anxiety, Murder by Death, The Last of Sheila, Forrest Gump, Ratatouille.

Shows--Game shows, M*A*S*H, The Simpsons, The West Wing, The Sopranos, St. Elsewhere, The Bob Newhart Show, The Mary Tyler Moore Show, Are You Being Served?, Countdown With Keith Olbermann, Degrassi (guilty pleasure).

Music--The Beatles, John Lennon, Paul McCartney, Ringo Starr, George Harrison, The Four Tops, The Temptations, Marvin Gaye, Stevie Wonder, Sam Cooke, Nat King Cole, Frank Sinatra, Billy Joel, Elton John, Queen, Steely Dan, The Police, Sting, Simon and Garfunkel, Carole King, James Taylor, Duke Ellington, Chet Baker, Frank Wess.

Food--Like almost any foreign cuisine, and very adventurous about trying new ones, but am partial to Chinese, Italian, and Mexican. Have a bad sweet tooth, especially for chocolate, tiramisu, and flan.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My family, but especially my adorable niece and nephew; my friends; good health; my laptop (is that cheating, since it combines things like Netflix, Facebook, and everything else on the Internet into one?); puzzles; chocolate.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Organizing my Netflix queue, deciding which book on my nightstand to read next, ideas for novel games and novel ideas for older games, making lists of things I need to make lists about, motivating myself to get back to the gym, where to take my next vacation, new ways to procrastinate (but I'll come back to that one later).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Ideally, on a wonderful date with you! More often than not, though, I'm tired at the end of a long week and relax at home with a Netflix movie, but I certainly enjoy a quiet evening with friends over a nice meal and/or drinks.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Part of the fun and excitement of getting to know someone is the discovery. I could tell you this stuff right now, but that would eliminate some of the mystery, wouldn't it? (Although I did mention before that "Degrassi" was a guilty pleasure, so maybe I can say that here too.)
You should message me if
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You have any similar interests and/or values, and you're looking to cultivate a friendship with the ultimate goal of something long-term.