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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:37am
Straight, Sapiosexual
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
A little extra
Not at all
Atheism and it’s important
Has cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Better to describe me as solo poly at the moment.

Let's get out and bike, and turn over car culture and sprawl. I am an atheist, proud and simple. Not a nun-hating religious trauma case, but a simple atheist. I'm also liberal and vote (D) consistently. I need more book readers in my life, and desire to be a book reader in theirs.

I'm a feminist, and I love feminist women.

--an expansion on that theme: social justice--

I am an intersectional feminist. Feminism is the central plank of my social justice beliefs, and I believe it is a useful model that can be expanded to fit most social justice concerns. I am also informed by preference utilitarianism, as well Rawls beliefs about justice.

I am anti-racist, support gay rights, as well as stronger recognition and support for asexual and non-monogamous persons.

Oh, and I am on the as autism spectrum, found out at age 38.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Pivoting from atheist activism to autistic self-advocacy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Bending simple code to my aims. Leveraging tedium. Obsessing over parmesan ice cream.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!

I can be into ideas. A lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I tend to avoid having favorites, but I'll do what I can. Usually my feelings about things sufficiently interesting to engage me are too multidimensional for single-axis rankings.

_Distress_, Greg Egan
_Blindsight_, Peter Watts
Alastair Reynolds is really firing at the top of his game these days.
Nick Harkaway wrote The Gone-Away World which is a must
The short works of Fritz Leiber are also really good, as I've been rediscovering of late. Space-Time for Springers!! All hail the sacrifice of Gummitch.
R. Scott Bakker, Karl Schroeder, Daryl Gregory, Ted Chiang and many more...

Henry Fool, Hal Hartley
Aliens, James Cameron (There's no art there, only one of the best-crafted action movies, along with Predator.)
Children of Men, Alfonso Cuaron -- I saw this in a free preview and really enjoyed it a lot. Enough that I could stand to see it again.
Saga of the Lime: A Scurvy-free Viking Saga as told to Chad Vader

Talking Heads, Fiona Apple, Tom Petty, classic rock, Le Tigre, Annie, film score, Bear McCreary, Jerry Goldsmith, Garbage, KMFDM, Keren Ann, Regina Spektor, Cake, Collide, Metric, Jakalope, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, The Knife, The Blow, Alice in Videoland, The Dresden Dolls, You Say Party, We Say Die!, KUDU, Emilie Simon, Santogold, Electracult, My First Earthquake, Lovers

I saw Fiona Apple when she was in town at Lincoln Hall... it rocked.

Yellow curry chicken people. Oh yeah.


Battlestar Galactica, Veronica Mars, Deadwood, The Office, The Wire, Rome, Blake's 7, Game of Thrones, Community, Doctor Who, Inspector Spacetime
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My computer. My cat. Some subset of humanity that's non-evil. Books. Liberals. Poultry.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics and ethics dominate.

Why is Squirt so much more lemon-limey than other lemon-lime beverages? (Update, because it is grapefruit, silly!)

Why people choose to queue in everyday situations in the ways they do.

How do we decide how committed we are to the letter of the law?

Please, where can I find Zagnut bars in the wild?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably out with friends, maybe getting an outing together. I could be catching up with Netflix if nothing else is up.

Sometimes, however, my cat sends me on secret missions. I can't tell you about them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I default to assuming all relationships start from polyamorous settings. Negotiations regarding specifics start from this frame. Broadly, I am sympathetic to concerns that exclusivity assumptions are unfortunately propertarian.

Feel free to ask me any questions you might have.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want me to take you to a museum. You want to take me to a museum. You want to read books together, or shop for books together.

You want to chillax with my cat and I.