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quadrofilmia

41 Brooklyn, NY Man

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  • Ages 18–99
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My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:01pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Status
Single
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm from deep in the heart of Amish country, but I'm not Amish. OK, I'm a little Amish, a few generations back. But they'd have shunned me years ago. After leaving Lancaster, PA, I did most of my growing up in Northern VA (with stints in New Jersey and Arizona along the way as well), and when I found myself driving on the beltway at rush hour for the first time, I swore if I ever moved to DC after college, I'd live in the city, because life's too short to spend it in your fucking car in traffic. I kept that promise to myself, and DC was my home for 17 years. Then I really went back on that promise in a big way by moving to Baltimore for a year while still commuting to DC. But I only ever did that because I knew it was to be temporary. The destination was always New York, and as of last August, here I am, after ditching my boring government job for the greener pastures of film and television.

I get around by bike (and train), but I own no spandex, nor do I have a fixie. Purely utilitarian biker here. I do love me some bike lanes, though.

I once wrote that I don't go to church, I go to the movies instead. My religious fascination with the movies is pretty severe: I've done Saturday quintuple features without my ass getting numb once. Movies are photography, music, sound design, fashion, writing, interior design, and intense levels of coordinated craftsmanship all rolled into one. It's the art that combines all other arts, and I love it for that. And also, sometimes, it's a mindless way to entertain yourself. And that's fine too. If you think the movies are only good at being one or the other of these, and that there's something wrong with the other, then we're probably not going to get along.

I've driven across America.

I've been on nationally syndicated television, local public television and Russian TV.

I played cello in a post-punk band that featured a singer with a penchant for hanging Pinocchio in effigy from the mic stand.

I once spent half an hour helping Stevie Wonder pick out music.

I've run the NYC Marathon. Three times.

I've saved a wayward duckling.

I write. I'm a writer. It took a long time for me to feel comfortable saying that about myself. It still feels good.
What I’m doing with my life
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Too much, generally. It used to be that by day I was a boring office drone, and by night a film critic, in the enviable position of getting paid to see and write about movies.

But as of August, I quit the boring day job and stopped looking at movies and TV from the outside in, and stepped into the belly of the beast. Now I still do office work, but adjacent to soundstages, making sure the people who make the movies get paid. Writing is still on the side, but just for me at the moment rather than for publication.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Procrastinating. Not going to bed at a reasonable hour. These two things are hopelessly intertwined. I'm also pretty good on a snowboard, but don't get to apply that talent nearly as often as I'd like.
The first things people usually notice about me
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These days, probably my grey hair and how much I have for someone my age. (Though I'm not sure how much longer I'm allowed to continue calling it premature.) Gay men at the theater I used to work at would often try to pick me up by claiming I looked like Anderson Cooper.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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According to my last.fm profile, my top 20 most played artists are REM, Elliott Smith, Vampire Weekend, The Pogues, The Beatles, Fugazi, Tom Waits, The Decemberists, Neko Case, The Pains of Being Pure at Heart, The White Stripes, Surfer Blood, Weezer, Girl Talk, The Clash, Billy Bragg, Cut Copy, The Smiths, Nirvana, and Modest Mouse. Which doesn't really look like that diverse a list, now that I look at it. Fuck. So much for that all important OKC eclecticism. Lately I can't get enough of Chvrches and Sky Ferreira.

As you might imagine for someone who does what I do, favorite movies are tough to summarize. I'm a big fan of Cassavetes and Lynch, Godard and Truffaut, Werner Herzog, Edgar Wright, the Coens, PT Anderson, the Dardennes, Wes Anderson, Preston Sturges, Nicholas Ray, Ti West. I don't really have favorite genres. I like high art and low trash, experimental and conventional, comedy and drama, horror and romance. Anything if it's done well. Or done poorly with flair.

I like to eat and I like to cook, but I have some weird texture issues that make me seem a little picky at times. But I love just about any Asian cuisine, Ethiopian, Italian, Mexican, and I'm a sucker for good fish and chips. I make really great tacos (from scratch) and even better jambalaya.

Books: The Loneliness of the Long Distance Runner (and what a great movie they made out of that). The Time Traveler's Wife (and what a shitty movie they made out of that). Lynda Barry's Cruddy (what a great movie could be, but never will be, made out of that, as I don't think anyone would ever be brave enough to do it). What We Talk About When We Talk About Love. Richard Brody's biography of Jean-Luc Godard. The Little Prince. Where the Wild Things Are. Ferdinand the Bull. The Weetzie Bat books. Hobbit & Lord of the Rings. The Watchmen. Our Band Could Be Your Life. And finally, my cat (who was with me for 15 years, but is now in kitty rest home) is named after Holden Caulfield's little sister, so...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My life has been all about a bunch of pretty big transitions lately, and I'm smack dab I'm in the midst of them. So I think a lot about what's coming next, what I want to come next, and how I'm going to get there.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Unwinding after a long week. What that means can vary, and it can mean being out or in, but it's generally going to be low key in either case. Things can get crazier later in the weekend after I've recharged.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I got engaged in 2013. Also disengaged in 2013.

ALSO: a general plea to the good citizens of OKC: I appreciate that you don't want to give private, personal information on a public forum. So you read the heading of this section, and you think, NO WAY! But they're not looking for your SSN here, or the circumstances under which you lost your virginity. Just look at your private information as a continuum, from Least Private (and c'mon, the fact that you're on this site is not Least Private, it's Not Private At All) to Most Private. Find some random fact that you're comfortable revealing, and run with it. And if you're still sketched out? Make up something funny! This is your chance to be funny and creative and make someone reading laugh, and all you're going to say is something like, "I certainly wouldn't admit anything private here," or "If I said it, it wouldn't be private."? Have some fun with it.
You should message me if
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You like movies, British television, and the unknown.

You think there is probably no better use of music in a film than the pool-cue zombie-beating scene in the Winchester set to Queen's "Don't Stop Me Now" in Shaun of the Dead.

You're capable of metaphorical/figurative thinking and understand sarcasm & irony. There are an awful lot of literalists out there, and honestly, communicating with you people is much like this Patton Oswalt bit about trying to tell jokes to Germans:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wuo8WK5U_YU