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47 F Los Angeles, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:59pm
Asian, Pacific Islander, Other
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Grew up moving around the US. Educated in New England (institutionally that is). I have extended family and treasured roots in Hawaii, but Los Angeles has been my home since the 90s. I love it - nooks, crannies and wide open spaces, shiny and grimy, bring it on!

optimistic: cautiously optimistic, or maybe even reasonably pessimistic, but hopeful. In this space between informed caution and hope...I'm surfing some sustained happiness.

introverted: often my natural leaning toward geniality combined with the curiosity (below) can make the introversion hard to detect. I appreciate and savor quiet time. I like being with bunches of people too, but usually need some kind of restorative time in between.

creative: I've always loved and felt comfortable making things, felt close to and cultivated my imaginative life, and been happiest being around people who are imagining and making things together.

What I’m doing with my life
Helping artists and arts organizations to be healthy and sustainable. Savoring accidental conversations. Going to see as much live performance as I can muster. Keeping plants alive. Coaching my mom on how to use google hang out so we can do a little breathing and stretching together. Tending to friendships. Neighborhood yoga. Long distance commuting, but also walking, biking and public transit, whenever possible. Sometimes being a pedestrian takes the form of improbably long urban hikes - and often, running.
I’m really good at
Finding patterns in chaotic situations. Paying attention. Empathetic listening. Giving calm advice. Creative problem-solving.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm short and cheerful, not in a manic way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like a book-filled room and a book-filled mind. Big fan of libraries of different sorts (and librarians!). Just picked up Chang Rae Lee's On Such a Full Sea - super fast and compelling - though novels are pretty few and far between for me these days. Longform journalism makes me happy. Thanks, Also fond of noir and scandanavian mysteries (but avoid Stieg Larsson in all forms). Several years ago the amazon algorithm told me that if: I like Mark Knopfler + Raymond Chandler, then: I like Henning Mankell, I gratefully accepted the advice.

Went to see the Agnes Varda exhibit at LACMA and remembered how much I loved The Gleaners and I. Without many expectations, I saw Gravity (glad I did, so many questions about how it got made) which somehow moved me to watch Into the Wild again - and notice that Zach Gallifinakis scene for the first time. I seek and see documentaries. If you've seen The Act of Killing, I'd be interested to hear your thoughts.

Lots of podcasts: Radiolab (the episode on the origins of unconfirmed nondenial - lovely!) and This American Life, Hardcore History, WTF (comedy eps mostly, so NOT into MM's fanboy interviews with musicians), The Bugle, Planet Money, On the Media, Phil Hendrie, Comedy Bang Bang, Love + Radio and recently Cashing in with TJ Miller, ha!

Shows, hm. these days all the consumption is online. Totally Biased was kind of amazing when it was on (maybe there will be more eps of the Field Negro Guide to Arts and Culture now?), Daily Show & Colbert Report, South Park, Frontline, sometimes sports (I don't really follow a team closely, but the spectacle of televised sports is interesting to me, and sometimes I just find the sound of crowd noise and announcer patter soothing) and some stuff masterpiece mystery throws at me.

Oh wait, this is meant to include all of the theater, dance and other kinds of performance I go to. I do. There's a big heaping amount, it tends to be new and sometimes weird.

Music music! Total Spotify addict though I do worry about how musicians are making a living (so I go to concerts and buy merch when I can). Partial listening history from the past month:
Tallest Man on Earth, Frightened Rabbit, Phosphorescent, Perfume Genius, The National, Califone, Careful, Seabear, Calexico, Kanye W, Bleeding Heart Narrative, Christian Kiefer, Leonard Kwan, Richard Buckner, Arcade Fire, Woods, G.P. Telemann, Arthur Russell, Billy Bragg, Replacements, Rural Alberta Advantage, Geographer, Sufjan Stevens, Pixies, The Low Anthem, Fred Astaire, Pascal Pinon, Glenn Gould, Ozzie Kotani, Metronomy, The Antlers, Shugo Tokumaru, J.S. Bach, Monolithic Cloud Parade, Mutual Benefit, Blood Orange, Explosions in the Sky, Neutral Milk Hotel, Father John Misty, Of Monsters and Men, Beirut, Hank Williams, Share, Nat King Cole, Grizzly Bear, Leonard Cohen, Prince, Sin Fang Bous, Baxter Drury ... There's a band in Glasgow called the Secondhand Marching Band that has so impossibly many people in it, they'll never tour outside of Scotland, I'm pretty sure of it. I'd love to hear them live.
The six things I could never do without
water, especially in the form of the ocean, bath, sento, or outdoor shower
quiet time
something new
family love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
privilege. who has it and who doesn't. what to do about that. sharing economies.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Michael Cera is my celebrity crush. Yup, owning it.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're looking for a gig buddy or down for an outing to some kind of live event with uncertain outcomes.