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29 New York, NY Gender Nonconforming

Gender Nonconforming

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18-100
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 3:59pm
Queer, Pansexual
Relationship Type
Special Diet
Working on Space camp
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Sign Language (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I do a lot of walking around and staring at architecture, daydreaming about adventures, balancing them with the practical and pragmatic, managing the omniscience complex, biting my thumb at the oppression of gerunds, and fantasizing about spatial construction.

Will fill this out later (guess I've been saying that for a while; will eventually make another more specific and less "mysterious" profile, for now just having fun catching misplaced commas on this one, and receiving too many cake & opera requests).

Gender Shmender. (We have new options now here though)

Friendship is the best kind of ship.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
A lot of work, a little play, constant state of daydreaming.

Kicking arse and taking vitamins.

Nesting Nomad. Learning. Evolving.

Attempting to master the art of diminishing my possessions so as to fit them all into a walnut shell.

Helping others discover open communication and strengthen their relationships with themselves and each other.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
doing dishes.

Holding space and bearing witness.

Words, at times.

Holding people.

Loving the song of the beautiful bird.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!

Supposed oxymorons ("You have hippie qualities, are super serious about cleanliness, and don't smoke pot? You're eccentric yet diplomatic? You don't identify as a gender, yet often present within the binary? You love children and are an excellent caretaker but won't have any yourself? Etc." Hurray for smashing assumptions!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oh don't get me started. Or do. One of those.

I wouldn't know where to start or finish, so for now "Please accept from me this unpretentious bouquet of very early-blooming parentheses: (((())))." And perhaps an excerpt/quotation of the day, a relevant beautiful song, and a cup of tea.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sleep, water, cleanliness, sitting-with, compersion, vegan nutrients, tea, animals, art in all forms (music, literature, poetry, painting, crafting, performance, on and on and on,) good souls (friends,) and the "6th" can be some amalgamation of everything else I supposedly can't do without.
["There are three types of people in this world: those who can count, and those who can't."]
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Coincidences/serendipity/synchronicity/agency; daydreaming about "saving" the world; becoming a nomad or nesting; books; academia in theory and practice; things I am trying to get up and do instead of just think about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Rooting for the underdog.
Catching up on lost sleep.
"No such thing as typicality" etc etc etc.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a bad habit of giving myself hideous haircuts.

To clarify the Gender Shmender part up there:
Like most social networking sites, forms, things with checkboxes, and so forth, this website fails to provide proper options and really everything needs a write-in. There are many ways in which I am traditional, and many ways in which I am not. So replace that "F" for "Female" up there with Gender-Neutral, the "Bisexual" with Indiscriminate, and the Relationship Status answer with "Not Applicable." If you have questions about all this, please feel free to ask—even, if not especially, if these are new concepts to you. I just ask that you please don't pigeon hole me or others into stereotypes/assumptions/etc about what kind of person identifies as such.
You should message me if
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You've actually read this profile and have some comprehension of it.
You're genuinely interested in friendship.
You understand that my proclivity for Ethical Non-Monogamy does not translate to "hey I want to cheat on my girlfriend with you/use you in disrespectful ways to deal with my fragile whatevernormativity" etc.

The rest are just fun ideas.
- You're, for example, an eighty year old gay man who would like to accompany me to the opera.
- You care to partake in some vegan cake. (You don't have to be vegan, I don't proselytize, I just bake.)
- You're rich with no where to throw your money and thus want to fund my exchange for...chocolate cake and poems/obnoxiously academic jargon-filled essays. That's all I got. But I promise once I get an education, I will be able to make an informed contribution to social justice, health-related, and resource-distribution movements! At the very least, I can contribute by scrubbing toilets at shelters and safe houses, and I'd say that's a pretty darn important contribution, with or without a fancy degree.
- You want to be in on various community organizing that I am part of (events for fun, for charity, for whatever.)
- You have a band I can sing badly in.
- You are familiar with the concept of solopoly.
- You are a couple/triad/pod/individual with a baby. I love babies.
- You want to do creative/artsy fartsy/expressive things together.
- You want to go on fake dates.
- You feel like it. (But that doesn't give permission for tomfoolery!)

p.s. : (don't forget to read the scroll-over text)