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25 F Toronto, Ontario, CA

My Details

Last Online
Mar 16
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
At the risk of making this profile even more stupidly long, here are some things you should probably know to start with:


I don't need to love someone to sleep with them but we really should at least like and respect each other. That means we've had at least one actual conversation. If all you have to say to me is "wanna fuck?" then you obviously have no interest in me as a person, I'm just something to touch your genitals with. It wouldn't be sexy or attractive in real life, it's not better on the internet.

Also, yes I have a spiritual side. I'm wiccan/neopagan in a kind of lazy half-assed way. I'm happy to discuss or explain it, if you want. I'm not interested in defending, justifying or excusing it. I'm pretty rational and practical in my daily life, and I make an effort to be a positive influence, hopefully that's more important to you than whether I maintain a few comforting and harmless delusions.

We good? Good. Now on to the fun stuff.

I talk too much, laugh too loud, eat too much, drink too much when I can afford it, and occasionally I even get enough sleep. I get really enthusiastic about things and can be aggressive, but in a friendly way, like a big dog. My favourite people tend to be (but aren't always) the ones who can either hang back and laugh at it or agress back.

I spend a lot of time thinking, either about practical issues or weird-ass ideas like how cool it would be if our species had prehensile tails. I love discussing ideas, coming up with theories and stories, and building structures of logic with other people or in my own head. I read a LOT, especially science fiction and fantasy.

I also sing a lot, almost compulsively. Combined with a longstanding talent with words, I am attempting to turn this into a livelihood. Progress is....progressing, if not as steadily as I'd like. There is a capacity for creating empathy in songwriting and performance that I've never found anywhere else. It may seem like a stupid way to change the world but I really do think I'm onto something here.

I am fiercely devoted to those who earn my trust. I will also call them out, without hesitation, when they're being stupid, cowardly, or cruel, a courtesy I ask them to return. That way we can all help each other be better people. 80 percent of the time I will gladly grant any reasonable request (90 percent for people I like) so long as you're honest with me. Anyone who does try to manipulate me through lies or fear will find out pretty quickly how stubborn I can be.

I'm poetic and pragmatic, emotional and analytical, impatient and methodical, cynical and optimistic. I can't see any objective reason to be good, but I feel the need to do it anyway. I haven't got faith so much as a vague hope that something out there gives a shit. I'm probably not entirely sane, but I think I function quite well.
What I’m doing with my life
Slowly but surely becoming the Unstoppable Force. When I meet the Immovable Object we will either become fast friends or obliterate each other instantly, possibly taking the universe with us.

But on a less metaphorical note, I'm a singer and songwriter, and I've got a bunch of projects going right now which is all kinds of badass. I'm in two bands, and another one called I Brake for Waffles which just re-started after six months of waiting for the drummer to finish school. I am so excited about that, you don't even know. I'm preparing a full night's worth of covers with the guitarist from SMD, soon playing at a bar near you! I also have a youtube channel where I will upload a song a week usually for a month or two before something else distracts me or I hit a writer's block, and it's getting warmer so I can go busking, which I do at every opportunity.

I technically have a job with a marketing company right now but they haven't given me any actual shifts to work. I suspect they are full of shit so I'm still job hunting.

I'm also hoping to be a student by this time next year. While I don't miss homework or tuition fees, if all goes as planned I will eventually be a qualified French translator (and possibly Spanish if I have time).

Or, you know, maybe I'll become rich and famous as a musician and not need a day job.
I’m really good at
Singing, dancing, reading really fast, talking even faster, making animal noises, getting distracted, focusing really intently, getting to the point, being a hard-ass when needed, going from the point into outer frigging space, swearing at unfortunate moments, listening, cuddling, knowing when something's wrong, injuring myself and then having no idea how I did it.
The first things people usually notice about me
That my username is easy to misread.

Honestly, I have no idea. Possibly my height (er, lack of), or the fact that I'm singing, out loud, possibly while rocking out, as I walk down the street. Also, I have an assortment of awesome hats. Or it might be my shaggy Ukrainian eyebrows.

I have been told I'm intimidating. I'm not sure whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.

I've also been told I have a great ass. However, since it's generally not the first thing said I don't know if it's the first thing people notice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything written by Lois McMaster Bujold or Terry Pratchett, Kage Baker, Kate Griffin, Douglas Adams, Spider Robinson and the Strangers in Paradise graphic novels/comics/whatever. I read a lot of science fiction and fantasy from the library, chosen on the basis of "this looks cool."

I'm not that into movies but I like watching them with people. I love what I've seen of Deepa Mehta's movies, and on the opposite end of the spectrum anything by Mel Brooks. Across the Universe, Fifth Element (pretty much entirely for the opera scene) and the Mummy movies, except the last one where they tried to cram in way too much material (incidentally, totally aware of the almost painful orientalism and general race iffyness of those movies. However, it's a sensory delight and Oded Fehr and Rachel Weisz are dreamy and pretty respectively which manages to shut down critical thinking for the requisite two hours.) Cowboy Bebop is easily my favourite Anime movie, and I loved the series too, also Death Note (which I still haven't finished watching), Soul Eater, Escaflowne and D Gray Man. I also re-watched Daria recently and realized how good it was. In non-animated TV I adore Dr. Who, Red Dwarf, the IT Crowd, Blackadder, Slings & Arrows and Babylon 5 . Oh and even though I've grown up (sort of) I still love The Muppet Show.

If you're thinking "wow this woman has TERRIBLE taste" you may be right. I regret nothing! Except that one thing. I kind of regret that....

I like a lot of music, but here's the short list. Sarah Slean (want to be her so badly), Janelle Monae, Amanda Palmer, Melissa Kaplan (currently doing the "Universal Hall Pass" project, in case you want to look her up, previously of a band called Splashdown), The Pink Spiders, the Danger Bees, Prozzac, Imogen Heap, Brody Dalle (both in The Distillers and Spinnerette), Die Mannequin, the Yeah Yeah Yeahs, the Barenaked Ladies, La Roux, the Offspring, Deirdre Flint, Metric, Bif Naked, and pretty much any drinking song. I also love musicals, my favourite being Cabaret.

Just realized I missed my internet music favourites: Jonathan Coulton, Paul and Storm and Sweetafton23 (aka Molly Lewis). The best kind of comedy, slightly dirty, slightly depressing and/or slightly disturbing ^^

I'm fond of Indian food, especially the Butter Chicken I used to get at this one place in Vancouver. But Pad Thai will do in a pinch.

There isn't a category for it, but I'm going to list my top games and game anyway: Prince of Persia: Sands of Time and 3D (yes, I actually liked PoP 3D, terrible taste remember?), Knights of the Old Republic (one and two), Theresia (puzzle/horror, brilliant story), Zelda (ocarina of time, then majora's mask, then oracle of ages/seasons, then link's awakening), Myst (Exile being my favourite, but I love all of them except Uru which I never played) and World of Warcraft. Oh, and Day of the Tentacle (not what it sounds like), Sam and Max and both Portal games.
The six things I could never do without
Affection, passion, words in all their many fascinating forms, music both making and enjoying it, new information and experiences....and about a bajillion other things. Oh, and my computer. His name is Beaker.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Songs, Rehearsals, stories, work, video games, beauty, freedom, truth and love (I also have a little monologue about these four qualities), kindness, gender, sex (the activity, not the biological category...well actually that too), social dynamics, cultural conditioning, efficient methods of organization, the purpose of pragmatism, subjectivity, job hunting, when it will warm up and stop raining so I can get out busking again, and why I get so many visitors on my profile from New York in general and Rochester in particular.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working, dancing, drinking, playing video games (right now I'm replaying Ocarina of Time) busking, hell who knows?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm really a romantic at heart, but think less Princess Bride and more Red Sonja, big and epic and passionate. Going off to fight our battles side by side, getting rascally drunk in the tavern and staggering home with our arms round each other singing embarrassing songs, that's my kinda romance.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You're not scared of me or brave enough to try even if you are. You crave new experiences and new information. You get passionate about things, but you're capable of understanding other viewpoints. You're honest and open and ask for what you want. There's something in my profile you consider worth talking about.

Note: I'll automatically be a little impressed if you're willing to step up and message me first ^^

If you're wondering how to do so: talk about something you find fascinating. Ask me about something I've said on my profile. Ask me about something I haven't said on my profile (that isn't the intimate details of my sex life). Write a sonnet about what you had for breakfast. Whatever. Just please give me something to work with, not a two-word afterthought of a message.

p.s. I'm happy to make new friends too, but that's not what I'm on okc for so if you just wanna hang out I'd still love to hear from you but I'm narrowing down the focus for the search function.