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28 Oakland, CA Woman, Trans Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–45
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 7:02am
Lesbian, Queer
White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.81m)
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Other, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
hardfemmebutch trans dyke. into radical politics, transfeminism, body-positivity, anti-oppression, prison abolition, and intersectional feminism.

i've been non-monogamous for 7 years and i still love it despite all its complexities.

i desire open communication, flirtatiousness, intense passion, intelligent and caring conversations over coffee or drinks.

i am very much a caregiver and see myself as a community builder.

i'm also can be a bratty, smug, toppy bitch and am learning to celebrate and explore that within a consensual D/s dynamic.

recently trying to connect to my ethnic jewish roots while continuing anti-zionist work. i'm not connected to anything religious, but am trying to open myself up spiritually.

i've found self-care and harm reduction to be really important in my life.

after having tried different relationships, i feel ready and open to finding a partner who i can connect to on a deep level and develop something (hopefully) long-lasting. that being said, i'm definitely into being open, respecting my and a potential partner's space, and figuring out intricacies of queer relationships.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
i work at a clinic serving sex workers and LGBTQ folk.

i moved from chicago to oakland almost 2 years ago. i thrive on connecting with others, having fun with my housemates, going out when i can, making new friends, and soaking in the bay area in all it's loveliness. i also really am into some alone time when i need it.

finding spaces to have intentional conversations, read tarot, and drinking iced coffee. despite how new agey that may sound, i'm a pretty down to earth punk girl who dabbles in astrology and loves comfy spots to hang out.

also, lesbian-processing. always.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
flipping my tounge, making weird faces, making coffee, whistling jazz tunes, being compassionate, marxist / post-colonial critiques.

i pour a lot of emotional and mental work into my job, then i try to relax the rest of the day.
The first things people usually notice about me
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my eyes. they change from green to blue sometimes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
wretched of the earth by frantz fanon, existentialism and humanism by jean-paul sartre, whipping girl by juila serano, nevada by imogen binnie, on contradiction by mao zedong, hammer and hoe by robin d. g. kelley

8 1/2, faster pussycat kill! kill!, female trouble, switchblade sisters, masculin feminin, tout va bien, videodrome, anything with lydia lunch

adventure time, daria, the adventures of pete & pete, upright citizens brigade, rocko's modern life, broad city

sonic youth, beach house, björk, sleater-kinney, t. rex, flying lotus, brian eno, the velvet underground, iggy, the jesus and mary chain, boards of canada, john coltrane, alice coltrane, sun ra. recently into savages, ex hex, and slutever

thai, burritos, pizza, lagunitas beer
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
music, cuddles, sex, water (it's important!), yummy food, and my comfy bed.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to communicate intentionally and honestly.

writing, art projects, creating a sex-positive queer utopia, how to generate critical consciousness in communities.

violence and oppression in the world. it's real.

being trans and a woman and having to be conscious of my trans-ness every single fucking day.

whether i want to present butchy or femme or somewhere in between on any certain day.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
depends! some nights i like to spend in comfort with a book, other nights i want to go out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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i'm not that private of a person. just ask! :)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- you're queer, lesbian (inclusive of trans girls), bi, femme, andro, and/or "no label" woman/female-identified (trans or cis) person.
- you hold anti-oppressive values close to your heart as well.
- the idea of watching john waters movies then talking about gender afterward sounds exciting to you.
- you are actively against stigma and oppression against sex workers.
- you're not a dude (trans boys: sorry, I'm not interested).
- you think I'm a babe.
- you're into the idea of being topped hard by someone who will give you a fucking amazing time.
- you're into femme4femme worship and/or lez BDSM.

**no burners, techies, white people with dreads, or men**