Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm an enthusiastic lover of life and people. I LOVE to laugh! I'm
an idealist. My passions are relationships, helping others,
animals, the outdoors, music, learning, and exploring new things. I
am polyamorous; polyamory "is the practice, desire, or acceptance
of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the
knowledge and consent of everyone involved." This means that I do
not cheat, and I will not help you cheat, either. I am married and
have other relationships currently. I also have way more pets than
you can imagine. I'm queer (attracted to men, women, transgender
people, and gender-diverse people), and genderqueer (don't fall
into the typical characteristics of being female). I identify as
part of the LGBTQ community, kink community, and poly community. I
love cuddling and making out, and I love sex.
What I’m doing with my life
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Currently, I'm working with plants. I've always been an underpaid,
overworked social worker. I love the challenges and the
relationship-building and communication skills that I utilize in
that work, but I'm kind of happy to be taking a break- it can be
intense. I also enjoy volunteering with dog and cat rescues, and
hope to find some nearby in my new town to work with.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communication, caring about others.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm friendly, like to listen, and like to smile and laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I have a hard time choosing favorites, because I love so many kinds
of things! I do love desserts, and chocolate cake with chocolate
icing alongside a scoop of vanilla ice cream is one of my
I like science fiction, but I haven't watched/read a lot of the
classics. I loved Firefly, The Fifth Element... but again, I like
all kinds of movies and books, so it's hard to choose.
I enjoy a lot of types of music, including some alternative, rock,
pop, and country- mostly current-ish stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Pets, dessert!, music, human touch, laughter, the ability to help
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The world and the bad things people do to each other; the world and
the good things people do for each other; friendships, family, and
other relationships; how I can better myself; what I'm going to do
when I grow up; and how to keep the cats and dog and rabbit
entertained so that they don't eat each other or me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Maybe hanging out with friends and chatting and laughing, sometimes
out and about for dinner or drinks, or just walking the dog and
then listening to music while browsing Facebook. I don't drink a
ton, but I enjoy a couple drinks here and there. I'm not too into
loud, smoky, dark bars and such.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm more often attracted to women than men, so I've had less
experience with male-bodied people. I'm certainly willing to
receive messages from men, but I'll likely want to get to know you
and build trust before I’ll do much physical/sexual. I really need
men that I’m involved with to be VERY good with boundaries and will
talk to you a lot about expectations and comfort, probably before
we even meet in person. It takes a very specific set of physical
and personality characteristics for me to become involved with men,
so please don’t take it personally if I just don’t feel it- even I
am not always sure what it is that causes me to feel comfortable
and attracted (although being well-versed in consent and
boundaries, respectful, and patient are definites!).
You should message me if
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you like to talk and laugh; you enjoy grabbing coffee or lunch and
getting to know someone; you are poly or into ethical non-monogamy;
you are aware that I am not particularly looking for a conventional
relationship progression (dating, love, moving in, marriage, kids)
and want things to progress organically...
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