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My self-summary
I find these imposible to write in any way that feels remotely true, but it's necessary, so here is what I think right now:

I'm a queer transman, artist, educator, activist, occasional rabble-rouser, initially-shy-but-otherwise-not flirt. My mind is open, my heart is too. I will trust you until you prove untrustworthy; I want to be treated the same.

I care deeply about the world, about the people in my life, and about making art. I also care for people who care for such things, though not exclusively.

I'm in a polyamorous relationship because I want to be open to the various kinds of connections that present themselves, and I want that for the people in my life. Connections come in all forms, and I'm equally excited about the friend forms, the just sex forms, the new date forms, the deeply-intimate everyone thinks we're sleeping together but we're not forms, the instant-connection family forms, and all the other ones I've not been lucky enough to stumble upon yet.

I work most of the time because it's what I love most and what makes me the happiest. Other things that make me happy: my amazing dog, cooking for people, going to the movies, unexpected connections, making out, wheat-free and dairy free desserts, dessert in general, a good pair of shoes, the weather when it's warm enough to wear pants and a tank top and cool enough to put on a hoodie if you want.
What I’m doing with my life
Just left academia after six years of being a professor. Figuring out how to be a "working artist", when the kind of work I make is more on the save the world side of the spectrum and less on the building a savings account side.

Learning to own my shit with grace; learning to let other people own their shit.
I’m really good at
avoiding saying things I'm good at. LOOK at that sparkly thing over there (points to something in the corner).
The first things people usually notice about me
you'd know better than me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Autobiography of Red, The Fact of a Doorframe, The North China Lover, Disidentifications, Appropriating Blackness, Documenting the Documentary, Experimental Ethnography. The list could go on forever

Movies: In the Mood For Love, Happy Together, The Sacrifice, The Mirror, I'm Not There, Chronicle of a Summer, Fig Trees, Songs From the Second Floor, Tongues Untied, Looking For Langston, Hunger, Take Shelter, Winters Bone.

Music: Frightened Rabbit, Mumford and Sons, Ottis Redding, The Temptations, Sam Cook, The National, Magnetic Fields, Band of Horses, Neko Case, Lucinda Williams, Bon Iver, Bruce Springstein, Daniel Johnston, The Decemberists, Jeff Buckley, Mates of State, The Streets, Tupac, KOS, Slum Village.

Food: Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, Peruvian, Mexican.
The six things I could never do without
Rice, computer, camera, my dog, my favorite hoodie, Frightened Rabbit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The things I could have done better. How it is the world seems to get more racist and more mysoginist by the day; how, where, and when to appropriately and effectively intervene.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably watching a movie and trying to relax after working a 60-hour week. Occasionally, you'll catch me on the dance floor.
You should message me if
You think we could be friends, or family, or lovers, or dates, or other fun things. You want to show me cool things in Houston (I just moved here).

You are a social-justice-oriented, possibly artistic, queer of any gender. Genders I find most exciting are those that people would self-describe as 'complicated' in some way.

You enjoy talking, but not to the exclusion of listening to others.

Please DO NOT message me if you are "intrigued by my lifestyle" or "want to learn more about transgender people or polyamory." Your interests are valid, but I just can't invest in relationships that are about teaching other people about myself.