Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Singer. Composer. Pianist. Occasional nerd.
I'm a questioning, playful, logical, emotional, intelligent, doofy,
sensitive, oblivious person. I strive to be as honest as I can,
with other people, and with myself. Sometimes I fail spectacularly,
but most of the time I do pretty well. Hmm. Throw in “I’m looking
for a partner in crime”, and “to have adventures with,” and I guess
I’ve described everyone here.
I've been in New York most of my life. I've thought about moving to
LA, where people actually make eye contact, and believe in personal
space, but it’s never quite felt right. I wish I could keep the
people here, the look and feel of the city, and the constant
promise of discovery, but make it so that people could acknowledge
each other without going crazy.
I think love and sex are grownup versions of Calvinball: you make
up the rules together as you go along. The best relationships are
built on the trust that you’ll not only follow your rules, but that
you’ll really play. With all the grown-ass intelligence
and feeling and power that you’ve got. Playing is everything.
People seem to forget this as they grow older.
My friends would say I’m friendly, thoughtful, and a bit of a
smartass. I love learning, but I’m kind of anti-academic. My mind
is always open, but sometimes my heart takes a minute to catch up.
I travel a decent amount for gigs, but I’d like to do more with
that “partner in crime” I mentioned.
I have exactly one tattoo.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Convincing people I’m good at things I don’t know how to do.
Getting past what people are saying to what they actually
Despite my complete lack of flashy moves, I'm consistently told
that I'm good at the piano, singing, and dancing. I've thought
about it a bit, and I think it's the intersection of three skills:
listening, timing, and managing intensity.
I have a knack for making people comfortable, and for turning my
apartment from neat to messy incredibly quickly. I also discovered
a few years ago that I'm freakishly good at that game where you
catch stacks of quarters off your elbow.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair. People assume I'm Jewish (I'm not.) People ask if they can
touch it. (If they're not creepy.) People act like I've betrayed
them when I cut it. (I haven't.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Anna Karenina, Gödel Escher Bach, Stephen
King’s On Writing, Jitterbug Perfume, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle,
the Sandman series.
TV: I have a proposal for turning children into
thoughtful, responsible, and compassionate adults: raise them on a
steady diet of Star Trek: The Next Generation. They'll get
And to help them remember how to laugh, love, and play when they
start to grow up? Regular viewings of the first few seasons of the
That said, Arrested Development. And the Wire is clearly the best
TV show ever made. (I have a theory about The Wire's relationship
to Fraggle Rock that I won't go into here.)
Music: The Beatles, D'Angelo, Prince, Michael
Jackson, Kurt Elling, Jeff Buckley, Steely Dan, Bill Evans, Stevie
Wonder, Joni Mitchell, Radiohead, Bon Iver, Emily King.
Food: I could eat Thai food every meal of every
day. I think it’s the coconut milk.
I had the best drink of my life a few months ago at a bar in
Seattle. The Marrakech Express: made with cardamom bitters,
pomegranate molasses, and sparkling wine. It was like drinking a
library, filled with undelivered love poems.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Peace and quiet. Living by myself was the best decision I've ever
made. There's nothing more conducive to creativity than a place
Music. My iTunes Top Rated playlist is the best drug I've ever
Dancing. If I don't go out dancing at least once every 2 weeks, I
catch myself doing shoulder isolations on the subway.
My laptop. Flirting. My friends, the ones who really make me feel
comfortable, and vice versa.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes I'm out til 4, sometimes I stay home. Sometimes that's
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm very open if you ask the right questions. But that's not one of
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're playful as hell. Wild eyes, wild hair, wild smile. You
broadcast your love of life in every loose gesture and clever
You're a writer, artist, or anyone who sees things, and turns
feelings, places, and people over in your mind.
You love to dance. Like me, you hear the music and can't stop
yourself. You need to move like you need to breathe. If you get mad
when they start playing Michael Jackson near the end of the night,
because now there's no way you can leave, we'll probably get along
I also have weaknesses for big hoop earrings, tank tops, tomboys,
and fellow mixed babies. And nerds. Seriously, please be some kind
You're alive and ready for adventure. You know who you are.
Who are you looking for?
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