Almost always: Thoughtful. Quiet. Contemplative.
Artistic. Stable. Kind. Agreeable. Independent in my thinking.
Intelligent. A lover of deep connections (intellectual and
emotional). A mellowed idealist. Spontaneous. Traditional.
Counter-cultural (in a quiet way). Generous. Open-minded.
Sentimental. Surprising. Extremely independent in my daily life.
Accustomed to being alone, and usually quite content in solitude. A
secret poet. An occasional painter (of paintings, not houses). A
compiler of images. An artist. A Jew. A brother, son and uncle.
Honest. Quick witted. Compassionate. Reverent. Intuitive.
Dangerously optimistic (I sometimes think the glass as 2/3 full).
Unconventional. Funny in person, not so funny in prose. An easy
laugher. A lover of imaginative, elegant theories. A possessor of
easily pulled heartstrings. Polite. Presentable. Even formal, when
necessary. Questing. Researching. Strong willed. Helpful. Easily
distracted. Self-aware (or so it seems to me). Believer in God, but
occasionally doubting. A risk-averse, unconventional entrepreneur.
Not a workaholic. Solid. Supportive. Candid. Warm. INFP. Curious.
Awe-struck by the beauty of trees growing and trees dying. Happy.
Cautious. Faithful. Still learning.
From time to time: Self-centered. Stuck in my
ways. Inadvertently offensive. Compassionate to a fault. Distant
(when I need to refuel). Lonely. Awkward. Charismatic.
Absent-minded. Irreverent. Sad. Angry. Gregarious.
What I’m doing with my life
I own a small company that designs, produces and sells
architectural home furnishings. The things I design are sold in
showrooms throughout the country. I employ mostly young artists in
my studio/workshop, and run the business with a familial
I live in a house I designed with an architect friend. Still a work
in progress, it's on a quiet city street and is buffered from the
world by a semi-wild garden. I paint occasionally, take photographs
occasionally, and am working on a books of images that brings
together many of my artistic musings.
I’m really good at
I'm generally calm in my manner, so I'm a good guy to have around
when things get tense. A friend with a background in counseling
once used the term "unanxious presence" to describe me — a person
whose calmness can help the anxious people nearby relax. Not that
this is a role I relish — I'd much prefer to be around people who
were calm and enjoying the day before I showed up!
The first things people usually notice about me
I smile easily and I really try to pay attention to the people I'm
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In no particular order...
John Steinbeck: Grapes of Wrath, Cannery Row, To a God
Cormac McCarthy: The Crossing, All the Pretty Horses.
Richard Wilbur: The Field, Marginalia.
Jorge Luis Borges: Inventory.
William Wordsworth: Ode.
Yehuda Amichai: My Father.
Zelda: Each Man Has a Name.
Princess Daihaku: Autumn Mountain.
Christopher Alexander: The Nature of Order, The Timeless Way of
Harold Rosenberg: Barnett Newman.
Rilke: Letters to a Young Poet
Neil Young. Johnny Cash. Bob Dylan. Phosphorescent. The Low Anthem.
Waylon Jennings. Jessi Colter. Leonard Cohen. Sandy Denny. A.A.
Bondy. Devendra Banhart. Vetiver. The Beatles. Emmylou Harris. Gram
Parsons. John Prine. Bonnie Raitt. Kris Kristofferson. Erik
Alexi Murdoch. Yim Yames.
The Station Agent. My Life as a Dog. Following Sean. The Misfits.
Old Joy. You Can Count on Me. June Bug. A River Runs Through
Barnett Newman. Mark Rothko. Caspar David Friedrich. Blinky
Palermo. Amedeo Modigliani. Henri Matisse. Agnes Martin. Quilters
of Gee's Bend. Richard Tuttle. Andre Kertesz. Philip Perkis. Arthur
Wesley Dow. My grandmother and a few friends.
Christopher Alexander. William Wurster. Bernard Maybeck. Nomads,
farmers and hippies.
Friday Night Lights. Parks and Recreation. Freaks and Geeks.
My house and garden, The Alhambra, old art museums, the gallery
designed by Tadao Ando at the Art Instutite, clear creeks, my
studio, the homes of good friends.
The six things I could never do without
I'm sentimentally attached to many, many things, but other than
shelter, food, the companionship of family and friends and a good
measure of solitude, I don't think there's any thing I could not do
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The welfare of my employees, friends and family.
The quality of daily life.
The role of art in daily life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Having a quiet, relaxed evening.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Singing around a campfire with good friends is one of my greatest
pleasures, although one I don't have the opportunity to enjoy
nearly as often as I'd like.
You should message me if
You are... Independent. Calm. Quiet. Loving. Intelligent.
Imaginative. Kindhearted. Thoughtful about why people are the way
they are. Good at conversing, and equally good at sharing silence.
A bit mysterious. Awed by life. Often serene. Helpful. Hopeful.
If you're someone who is always on the move, going from one
activity to another, well, the world needs people like you, but
we're probably not a match. On the other hand, if you lead a
relatively quiet, peaceful life, that bodes well.