EDIT 22/01/2014: I'm not looking for anyone new right now, my time and energy are pretty spread out between work, my social life, and the people I'm seeing. BUT I'm very interested in munches, boardgames, rock/goth events and poly events! :) (and sometimes fetish events too)
Here's one I made earlier:
Hello! I'm married to my wonderful husband RobWL, we're in an open poly relationship. We do have separate relationships, but if sexualities and attractions line up, they do overlap, and we tend to spend time together with other partners/metamours. I have two girlfriends and a boyfriend, sadly all long-distance. I also have a select few awesome playmates/lovers/friends here in Amsterdam, yaaay! :D
GUYS: I'm sorry, even if you are a really nice guy... I'm not interested. I am not attracted to most guys. I meet enough men irl that I don't need to do it online. And gender roles and machismo and delicate male egos are a massive turn-off for me. As is clueless desperation. I'm only into a very specific subset of men. You probably aren't one of them. If you match with me ridiculously highly, like 89% plus, and you're a skinny/toned alternative and/or geeky type, then I'll definitely read your message and give it some thought; but I won't want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship (you'd have to be around for a few years before I'd bother about that), and I will not want to date you. Alpha males need not apply. At all.
LADYFOLK: I'm looking for women. To be friends, to geek out, to have fun with, and if all goes well, to be possible playmates. I'm not averse to falling in love, in fact I'm happy for that to happen - but I'm not really in the market for seriously committed relationships. Long-term relationships, yes, whether it's friends who are occasional playmates, or girlfriends etc. I don't tend to get really close to people unless I have a sexual relationship with them, and trust them too. On the surface, I'm a very open person about certain things, like my sexuality or opinions, to almost everyone; but there are certain things I am very guarded about.
LOOKING FOR: Low intensity polyamory; for me that means someone I value as a friend and connect with, but don't have commitments to, that I am sexually attracted to. I can and have fallen in love with them. These relationships/friendships usually last years for me. Ideally we'd hang out every week or two, and we'd all get on with each other's partners (not necessarily sexually, but being friends, or friendly and civil at the very least). I try to be very honest and upfront about what I want (with everybody, including your partners), and I want to find out what you want, to see if we'd be compatible. Often, we won't be compatible as anything more than friends. But I'm okay with that, I know I'm picky, and you probably are too.
I've started experimenting a little with dating - there's a lot I never learned, and I find it a bit nerve-wracking. I'm not so good at one-to-one time with about 90% of people... It just gets awkward and silent somehow. I want someone I can talk to - and who can talk to me! And someone who's okay with just chilling out... I'm an introvert and sometimes I just need you to stop talking or interacting with me. If we've been talking constantly for 2 or more hours, and it isn't a one-off where I can leave at any point, I will need you to shut up. It doesn't mean I don't like you; it means brainisoverloadingohgodwhenwillitendbraaaaaaaaaaaain....FOOM
If you like the sound of me, and I like the sound of you, maybe we can try going on a date and seeing what happens. It's all a bit of a mystery to me, but I think it's worth making an effort with it. :)
I'm not looking for booty calls or playdates - I want someone who is open to spending time with me, relatively regularly, and who is out and poly/happy to try being out and poly with me. And ideally we'd share some fun activity so it's not loads of work to schedule meeting up.
NOT-VANILLA: I am a sub. I already have a wonderful Master - RobWL, and I'm not looking for another, but if you're a (female) switch or a domme, I might be open to playing in the future. I prefer people who enjoy giving or taking a little pain :) For more serious play, I would need to be in a relationship, or at least have known you for a long time/randomly trust you for some reason. I like going to fetish events, although I don't go to so many. I'm also on Fetlife, and quite active in the forums. My username is different, but far from impossible to connect to this one.
I'm a bit of a geek. But if you mention the Mac vs PC debate I will imagine stabbing you in the face to relieve my boredom. However I will happily talk about mythology, religion, ancient history, prehistory, dinosaurs, the evolution of birds, anatomy, graphic novels, sci-fi and fantasy books or films or tv or concepts (and anime to a certain extent), and RTS computer games. (Starcraft (one and two) has a special place in my heart, but I've never won a single game against a real player.) I recently finished Lord of the Rings War in the North, and I thought it was pretty awesome. I'm always looking for more story-driven fantasy co-op RPGs / MMORPGs, so give me any recommendations you have! Feel free to start a conversation about any of those, if I'm interested in what you say, I'll reply.
I am as likely to squeal about a dinosaur or a fluffy or sparkly thing as I am to go off on a long rant about feminism, sexism, heteronormativity or religion. The long rants can be a bit overwhelming if you weren't expecting them, or if you feel they are specifically targeted at you. Neither the ranting nor the squealing at random things is a less important aspect of me, they are both facets of my personality that make up a rather unique whole. It's not my problem if you can't cope with that. I am also as likely to be vivacious and talkative as I am to be extremely shy and awkward - it just depends on the situation and on my mood.
I am silly, geeky, and awkward.