I've had experiences on here that I really shouldn't complain about, but what I'm really looking for is dating someone who is seriously interested in a relationship that will develop into a long term relationship and eventually, possibly, marriage. I am simultaneously not comprising on any of my needs in a partner - intelligence, communication, attraction, and simultaneously being romantic and wistful, yet honest about desires and needs. I am a giving person and expect the same from a partner. I think these things can be hard to find in life, but I think they may be even harder to find here.
That may be a down note to start on, but if you feel the same, maybe we can connect.
At this point, if you think I'm cute, don't read anymore, just assume I'm nice and send a hello. The rest is so you have something to talk about, if you like doing that kind of thing.
That said, you might find things worth knowing if you look ahead. This is long and it rambles a bit, but it's because I want to start on the right foot and I am hoping for dates that have the potential to lead to a real connection.
Skip to the end if you wish and come back - the section regarding who should message me better reflects what I value, not what I am on the surface, and may be more important. This profile need not be linear and certainly wasn't created that way.
Random facts (scatter plot):
I moved to the metro area from Florida in early 2014 to Arlington in October and to the Takoma area in June 2015. If you know the best hole in the wall restaurants please be my friend.
I take a lighthearted view of this process, but not of relationships, when they occur.
I am pretty busy at the moment. It may take time to answer a message even if you seem rather interesting. I sometimes will look at a message and a profile a day or so before I write. I would actually like to get to know you somewhat before the first date as well, because as much as you don't know if there is chemistry until you first meet, I also like to have some knowledge if there is a potential for chemistry prior. It's a fine balance, but I respect your time and hope you respect mine.
I make an effort to never be boring, but I have grown enough to usually know the difference between excitement and agitation.
I am a liberal who believes that conservatives have a few good ideas, and that most political positions are better in theory than in practice. That said, I probably don't hold every political position you hold even if you could describe yourself in the same way, and I think it is important that you don't run political litmus tests on people. I don't enjoy first dates that turn into a discussion of gun rights or the patriarchy - because these don't tend to be discussions, but lectures, or worse, sermons. Relationships that are the same are even worse. I want someone who understands that reasonable people can differ.
I'm an Atheist/Agnostic, but some of the people I respect most have deep fundamental divine beliefs, and I respect both religion and spirituality when it bears good fruit. I read Ecclesiastes, it's good stuff.
However, people that think homosexuality is a sin likely won't get along well with me, as I don't want your bigoted opinions expressed around my friends.
Speaking of religion, I don't care much about sports, except for college football, and every four years or so, soccer. Neither of my parents cared about sports, but I was born in the South, and I'm a third generation Florida State alumni (for undergraduate), so something still got through.
I have a daughter starting third grade soon, and I have her for the summers - until school started it was month on, month off. Nothing in my life has made me as happy as she has made me. She is a better child than I deserve. She likes watching documentaries about parasites, snakes, and the human intestine. She is a fan of Dr. Who, much more than myself. We go on bike rides, and bug hunting, and I do my pleasure reading while she makes friends at the park. She keeps trying to get the hang of the monkey bars, the bicycle, and I'm trying to get her to be less cautious and gain momentum. It's one of the most important things she can learn, I think, to reach out, to move forward, when you know you might not make it, because falling doesn't hurt that much.
I look forward to the day I can delete this account because I've fallen madly in love with someone. Even more so, I look forward to a relationship that has so much love, understanding and respect that we want to be together for the rest of our lives. I'm not rushing into it, but I'm looking forward to it.