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34 Arlington, VA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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Native American, White
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from law school
Has a kid, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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If you think I'm cute, don't read, just assume I'm nice and send a hello. I do this only so you have something to talk about, if you like doing that kind of thing.

That said, you might find things worth knowing if you look ahead. This is long and it rambles a bit, but it's because I want to start on the right foot and I am hoping for dates that have the potential to lead to a real connection.

Random facts (scatter plot):

I moved here from Florida in early 2014 and to Arlington specifically in October. If you know the best hole in the wall restaurants please be my friend.

I take a lighthearted view of this process, but not of relationships, when they occur.

I am pretty busy at the moment. It may take time to answer a message even if you seem rather interesting.

I make an effort to never be boring, but I have grown enough to usually know the difference between excitement and agitation.

I am a liberal who believes that conservatives have a few good ideas, and that most political positions are better in theory than in practice. That said, I probably don't hold every political position you hold even if you could describe yourself in the same way, and I think it is important that you don't run political litmus tests on people. I don't enjoy first dates that turn into a discussion of gun rights or the patriarchy - because these don't tend to be discussions, but lectures, or worse, sermons.

I'm an Atheist/Agnostic, but some of the people I respect most have deep fundamental divine beliefs, and I respect both religion and spirituality when it bears good fruit. I read Ecclesiastes, it's good stuff.

However, people that think homosexuality is a sin likely won't get along well with me, as I don't want your bigoted opinions expressed around my friends.

Speaking of religion, I don't care much about sports, except for college football, and every four years or so, soccer. Neither of my parents cared about sports, but I was born in the South, and I'm a third generation Florida State alumni (for undergraduate), so something still got through.

I have a daughter in second grade, and I have her for the summers - until school started it was month on, month off. Nothing in my life has made me as happy as she has made me. She is a better child than I deserve. She likes watching documentaries about parasites, snakes, and the human intestine. She is a fan of Dr. Who, much more than myself. We go on bike rides, and bug hunting, and I do my pleasure reading while she makes friends at the park. She keeps trying to get the hang of the monkey bars, and I'm trying to get her to be less cautious and gain momentum. It's one of the most important things she can learn, I think, to reach out when you know you might not make it, because falling doesn't hurt that much.

I look forward to the day I can delete this account because I've fallen madly in love with someone. I'm not rushing into it, but I'm looking forward to it.
What I’m doing with my life
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Either drifting like Benjamin Braddock in The Graduate
moving even as I sleep, à la a shark.

I can't quite tell from my perspective.

I set goals, often I achieve them - I seem to be moving forward, but I'm not quite sure where forward is leading.

(Because a question asking what I'm doing with my life does not mean what am I doing with my life, but means what is my job - particularly in D.C. - the simple answer is that I am an attorney. At the moment, the kind of attorney who answers questions with things that are technically correct, but not what people are looking for - I handle document production for large scale litigation defense. Sometimes, but not always supervising. I enjoy it quite a great deal, but principally because of a good boss. That stated, if you can get me into an interview with the Department of Health, let's network. If I can avoid boring conversations about what I do for work by this paragraph, it's the one thing I'm glad you read before your flirtations.)
I’m really good at
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Downplaying my good qualities. Empathy for the devil.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love Dogwhistles, but you've probably never heard them.

That's a joke.

I tend to prefer classics or science fiction. If a book fits in both categories, things are ideal. A good example might be Margaret Atwood's A Handmaid's Tale or Philip K. Dick's A Scanner Darkly.

Anything that could be considered cinema, and a few things that could be considered crap. I am often surprised by the number of good films other people have not seen, but my father was a director / film professor, so I guess I deviate from the norm. Directors of note off the top of my head, for me personally: Whit Stillman, Wes Anderson, Zhang Yimou, Stanley Kubrick, Todd Solondz, Martin Scorsese, Takashi Miike.

I think everyone watches too much, including myself.
But when I'm watching way too much television I really enjoy Girls (on HBO). Though I like it, I would fully support it being cancelled if people would stop taking fashion cues from Hannah (this was more evident when I lived near a college campus).

Let's shorten this up by saying that if I could see anyone on tour that I haven't seen already, it would be Radiohead or My Morning Jacket or Dinosaur Jr. My favorite act that I have already seen in concert would be Mike Patton with Rahzel.

Here is a playlist to give a flavor - I hope this catches on, it's much more practical than a listing of band names. My tastes are more expansive than this, but it's a sampling:

I like it all. Balance preferred.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family and friends are important, everything else is trivial.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
trying to make the night not typical.

or working. This was a problem for the last person I dated. I work a lot, I have responsibilities, and would love to get to a place where I am escaping the effects of the economic crashes that happened at just the wrong place for me professionally. When I listen to Thomas Picketty my main thought is that the value of labor is declining, exchange it for capital while you have a chance.

I am not opposed to occasionally staying in with a book or a movie, especially if I have good company. My ideal likes balance.

People with normal working schedules are why Fridays are important. The Kennedy Center tickets are easier to get earlier in the week, and if you go to a show on U street on Sunday you will find parking everywhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll admit most things to friends, but my career requires a public persona.

I do have some health issues, including some pretty impressive scars, most notably on my abdomen where they opened me up - from a car wreck and the subsequent surgeries, among other things. My aunt, who is a nurse and used to work in the emergency room, assumed I would die on two occasions - the car wreck and the post-surgical infection. I've had some trauma in my recent years (from other things as well) and it colors my perspective on a lot of things, but generally in a positive manner where I worry less about the small things and more emphatically embrace the beautiful.
You should message me if
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You're intelligent and kind. You build up, instead of tearing down.

You are not terribly afraid of a long term relationship. I don't believe in jumping in to them, but I prefer them over anything else, and some people just don't have the capacity for them.

I am also looking for friends, but if I wasn't new in town I wouldn't even consider meeting friends through here. I consider making friendships through here the equivalent of buying someone a drink at the bar and saying "I need friends, would you like to be friends?" I do have a higher than normal tolerance for social awkwardness, and I welcome the person who thinks they are cool enough to meet that challenge - especially the person who can take a situation that I think would be awkward and instead makes it natural. Dating or just flirtation that turns instead to a mutual preference for friendship - totally welcome and not strange in the slightest.

If I glanced at your profile, but didn't send a note feel free to send me something. Sometimes there's something missing, or something too much in the profile, but I think people weren't meant to attract each other by resumes of love - the play is the thing. Send a volley.