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30 Oakland, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–32
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 21
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Mostly other
Other, but not too serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Hindi (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I've been around the world in a tea daze.

I'm bigger on the inside than the outside.

I've lived at least 3 lives and expect that number to grow.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Coding by day, jiu jitsu by night, hangin' with folks on the weekends. Fairly standard stuff for now. In a past life I was a traveling programmer, and in the future I hope among other things to be a NOLS instructor ( At the moment my feet are pretty firmly planted and I'm enjoying just having a good groove, trying to grow into the highest expression of myself.
I’m really good at
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thinking, moving, music making, feeling, writing...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like rebel comics and outlaw musicians, heretical thinkers and dangerous ideas.

I'd love to revel in the exquisite rapture of sounds well composed (by others or ourselves), or digest and discuss ideas from visual or textual media.

I won't go into a list of all my favorite media (after all we have to leave something to talk about)... suffice to say I am a music junkie, a book fiend, and a total foodie. If you have good taste I'm sure we'll overlap on something.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Depends... highly varied. Generally whatever I'm thinking about I'm thinking about very intensely. This week I learned how to use a new machine learning technique. Next week maybe I'll be thinking about Karl Popper and the scientific method. Or the dialectical nature of the Buddha-dharma. Or wondering whether there is some coming metamorphosis for humanity which can positively recontextualize and sublimate the nightmare of history into some heretofore unknown beauty and meaning. Will we ever wake up? How am I a part of this coming-into-consciousness?

I'm all over the place but there's an underlying theme of growth and discovery driving and uniting it all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
depends on how the week went and what the last few Fridays were like. Gotta recharge the batteries every now and again. When I'm out, though, it's usually to gatherings/events involving tea, art, music, or some combination of the above. You won't generally find me in any bars, but if you do it'll be divey and I'll have whiskey.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ok I'll take this seriously -- I've been through a lot in the last few years. Physically displaced, separated against my will from a powerful love, endured the long and messy divorce of my parents, got in absurdly disproportionate legal trouble in a backwards little town in Oregon over some mushrooms, and lost my dad to lung cancer.

I'm about a year out of the woods from all of this, and I like to think I'm not carrying around a lot of baggage and cynicism -- on the contrary, I'm generally cheerful and quite happy with my current life -- but it all still happened, and to one degree or another it has some kind of impact on my life still.

I don't mention any of this to garner sympathy -- mostly I'm just tired of going on first dates and having to explain "how I got to the bay" to people who apparently don't realize that life is real and people's paths aren't always all sunshine and rainbows. I'm not the type to dump a bunch of shit on others, and despite everything I'm doing quite well for myself now, but if you can't deal with a little bit of history then let's not waste each other's time.
You should message me if
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You think hiking the John Muir Trail or even the PCT sounds awesome.

You can gimme danger, little stranger.

You agree that Bill Hicks is a modern day prophet.