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55 Seattle, WA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 53–63
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 25
White, Other
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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There's this one kind of guy... he just makes my heart sing. He's an every day hero. He's a manly kind of guy who tips well, would stop to pick up a piece of litter, holds doors for people, and is kind to his mother and sisters. If you're reading this and thought, "That's not heroic, that's just being a man." Then you're the hero, the kind of man I am looking for, the one I want to hold hands with, share secret jokes, and look up at while we're dancing.

And who am I to deserve this paragon of masculinity? Well, let's see...

I think the most important things in life are more the "how" than the "what." To me, going to the grocery store can be a great adventure. I usually go with my friend LeeAnn, and another woman stopped us to say laughingly that we were having way too much fun. It wasn't that wandering the aisles of Costco is exciting for us, but laughing, telling stories, and maybe it is just possible that we might have been singing a song from The Little Mermaid, but you can't prove it, so I'm not going to say one way or the other. Anyway, that's what I mean about just enjoying life. I think it is a skill, and it is something I am pretty good at.

I bake bread at the merest hint of an excuse. I like to invent recipes and experiment with ingredients and methods. I make my own pickles, mustard, mayo, and whatever else sounds interesting. Cooking seems like every day magic to me, even though I know it's just chemistry.

I love to read, write, dance, travel, make up silly songs, and lavish affection on those around me. I have a wide circle of people I love, and an inner circle of people who carry a piece of my heart with them wherever they go. I like nearly everyone I meet.

In the last 18 months or so, I've been to Hawaii, Costa Rica, Mexico, and the American Southwest. I love sunshine and warmth. I think the life of a hotelier in a mediterranean or tropical climate would be wonderful, and I'm plotting a course toward that end.

I live with two of my kids and a dachshund. The kids are smart, the dog... well, let's just say he's cute. The kids are teens, and we are an affectionate, tight family unit. I adore them.

On any given night, you might find me at home snuggled up with a book, volunteering, doing some ballroom dancing, or making dinner for friends. At the gym, I like to do yoga and rumba, but I'd rather dance and walk around park holding your hand to get my heart rate up.

I think my best traits are curiosity and kindness. I value love, truth and beauty in all aspects of life. I seek to grow and contribute, improving myself and making the world around me a better place.

I hope you'll read this and drop me a line. I'm looking forward to meeting you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Carpe-ing the heck out of every diem!

This week in particular, I'm selling tickets to my friend's play, having a sleepover with a girlfriend, making sriracha, and playing D&D with my son. (oh the things we mothers do for our children) This morning, the neighbor girl brought me a huge bouquet of dandelions, which are now n a vase in the living room.
I am learning Spanish, (Necesito practicer. Tu tambien?) I would love to move to Central or South America and open a B&B or retreat center. Costa Rica is the current front-runner for destination. Want to go live in the sunshine?

I absolutely adore partner dancing, swing, salsa, country 2 step… I think it is an amazing metaphor for the relationship between masculine and feminine beings. It's great exercise, and so romantic. You get extra points if you dance ballroom even a little.

I love to write, and have a couple of things in the works right now. The process is very slow, but I hope to one published electronically by June. (wow. That's not that far away. I should get off here and go write)

I volunteer at various places, doing various things. I like to contribute to my community.

Every day I hug my kids (the two who are still at home) and tell them I love them. They are both still physically affectionate with me, even though they are teens. (14 & 19) We are a tight-knit unit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the best in others. I like almost everyone.

Singing extemporaneous silly lyrics to old songs. I just make them up and bust out with them. And now, my kids do, too.

Baking bread, and inventing new bread recipes.

Being super-feminine; receptive, aware of feelings, alive in my senses, in the flow of life.

Decorating a room; I love creating beautiful spaces. My friends invite me to help them create luscious goddess bedrooms.

Communicating; listening deeply, saying exactly what I mean, getting to the heart of the matter.

kind of a weird collection of talents, now that I look at the list...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I smile. A lot. And I really pay attention to whomever I am speaking with.

Or maybe my waist-length hair. That's a pretty obvious feature, too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Moor's Last Sigh, The Secret Life of Bees, Nickeled and Dimed, The Forgetting Room. David Deida, Robert Masters, Anything by Terry Pratchett, some poetry, some mysteries, a few biographies and a bit of literary fiction. I really like reading!

I'm an adventurous eater. I finally got to try alligator (delicious) and crickets (taste like crunchy dirt). I am still looking for an opportunity to eat rattlesnake. Mostly, though, I eat like a regular person. I don't eat a lot of meat, but I'm not a vegetarian. I listen to what my body wants in the moment. I love the food at El Gaucho, The Harvest Vine, the Ethiopian place in my neighborhood, a really great Indian buffet. I also really like to bake. I love to cook and to feed people.

My music collection runs from Gregorian Chant to Crystal Method, with stops along the way at Robert Johnson, Tito Puente, Zeplin, INXS, Sinatra, and Johnny Cash to name a few. I particularly love world music, for is polyrhythmic style. I'll put on some and dance around my living room in total bliss.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The people I love, especially my kids
Ideas that grab my mind and refuse to let go
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life, the universe, everything!

I think about how to make my corner of the world a better place; recycling, kindness, volunteering, helping friends and neighbors, living a life firmly anchored in joy… that sort of thing.

Whenever I remember, I stop thinking and take a moment to become present to the moment. Mindfulness is an important practice for me. I think it should be taught in elementary school, but it's never too late, thank goodness!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Let's see… if it is private, am I likely to post it on the internet? Nope. Not gonna happen. Need to know basis!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
…you want to talk to me.

I'm a super-feminine woman, and I prefer men who take the initiative. If that's not you, that's great, it just means we're not a good match. As Wayne Gretzky said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." (did she just make a hockey reference? Yes, sir, she did)

I promise to respond promptly to every respectful, local inquiry. I don't chat or text, because I find those exchanges unenlightening and unsatisfying.

More? I admire smart men who are pursuing their purpose, who are driven by something greater than themselves. I love being around people who are always growing and learning.

I am a complete sucker for deep eye contact. If you're good at that, I would definitely enjoy hearing from you.