And who am I to deserve this paragon of masculinity? Well, let's see...
I think the most important things in life are more the "how" than the "what." To me, going to the grocery store can be a great adventure. I usually go with my friend LeeAnn, and another woman stopped us to say laughingly that we were having way too much fun. It wasn't that wandering the aisles of Costco is exciting for us, but laughing, telling stories, and maybe it is just possible that we might have been singing a song from The Little Mermaid, but you can't prove it, so I'm not going to say one way or the other. Anyway, that's what I mean about just enjoying life. I think it is a skill, and it is something I am pretty good at.
I bake bread at the merest hint of an excuse. I like to invent recipes and experiment with ingredients and methods. I make my own pickles, mustard, mayo, and whatever else sounds interesting. Cooking seems like every day magic to me, even though I know it's just chemistry.
I love to read, write, dance, travel, make up silly songs, and lavish affection on those around me. I have a wide circle of people I adore, and an inner circle of people who carry a piece of my heart with them wherever they go. I like nearly everyone I meet.
In the last couple of years or so, I've been to Hawaii, Costa Rica, Mexico, and the American Southwest. I love sunshine and warmth. I think the life running a retreat center in a Mexico would be wonderful, and I'm plotting a course toward that end.
I live with two of my kids and a dachshund. The kids are smart, the dog... well, let's just say he's cute. The kids are teens, and we are an affectionate, tight family unit. I adore them.
On any given night, you might find me at home snuggled up with a book, volunteering, doing some ballroom dancing, or making dinner for friends. I have had a gym membership, but I really prefer my exercise to come naturally from doing interesting things.
I think my best traits are curiosity and kindness. I value love, truth and beauty in all aspects of life. I seek to grow and contribute, improving myself and making the world around me a better place.
What about us together? We have independent, interesting lives. I tell you what I need, you tell me what you need, and we work together to find ways to come to a happy balance. We resolve problems through discussion. (You know about Gottman's work? Oooo, that's sexy.)
I bring my A-game to dating. It is important enough for me to do nothing less. I prefer that you do, too.
I hope you'll read this and drop me a line. I'm looking forward to meeting you.