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rationalalchemy

55 Seattle, WA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 53–63
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 10:41pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Job
Income
Status
Single
Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
There's this one kind of guy... he just makes my heart sing. He's an every day hero. He's a manly kind of guy who tips well, would stop to pick up a piece of litter, holds doors for people, and is kind to his mother and sisters. If you're reading this and thought, "That's not heroic, that's just being a man," then you're the hero, the kind of man I am looking for; the one I want to hold hands with, share secret jokes, and look up at while we're dancing.

And who am I to deserve this paragon of masculinity? Well, let's see...

I think the most important things in life are more the "how" than the "what." To me, going to the grocery store can be a great adventure. I usually go with my friend LeeAnn, and another woman stopped us to say laughingly that we were having way too much fun. It wasn't that wandering the aisles of Costco is exciting for us, but laughing, telling stories, and maybe it is just possible that we might have been singing a song from The Little Mermaid, but you can't prove it, so I'm not going to say one way or the other. Anyway, that's what I mean about just enjoying life. I think it is a skill, and it is something I am pretty good at.

I bake bread at the merest hint of an excuse. I like to invent recipes and experiment with ingredients and methods. I make my own pickles, mustard, mayo, and whatever else sounds interesting. Cooking seems like every day magic to me, even though I know it's just chemistry.

I love to read, write, dance, travel, make up silly songs, and lavish affection on those around me. I have a wide circle of people I adore, and an inner circle of people who carry a piece of my heart with them wherever they go. I like nearly everyone I meet.

In the last couple of years or so, I've been to Hawaii, Costa Rica, Mexico, and the American Southwest. I love sunshine and warmth. I think the life running a retreat center in a Mexico would be wonderful, and I'm plotting a course toward that end.

I live with two of my kids and a dachshund. The kids are smart, the dog... well, let's just say he's cute. The kids are teens, and we are an affectionate, tight family unit. I adore them.

On any given night, you might find me at home snuggled up with a book, volunteering, doing some ballroom dancing, or making dinner for friends. I have had a gym membership, but I really prefer my exercise to come naturally from doing interesting things.

I think my best traits are curiosity and kindness. I value love, truth and beauty in all aspects of life. I seek to grow and contribute, improving myself and making the world around me a better place.

What about us together? We have independent, interesting lives. I tell you what I need, you tell me what you need, and we work together to find ways to come to a happy balance. We resolve problems through discussion. (You know about Gottman's work? Oooo, that's sexy.)

I bring my A-game to dating. It is important enough for me to do nothing less. I prefer that you do, too.

I hope you'll read this and drop me a line. I'm looking forward to meeting you.

PS I think I buried my antipathy for chat too far down in my profile. I do not "chat" here, nor am I interested in long, back-and-forth email conversations with someone on the other side of the country. If that's what you're looking for, I am not your girl.

PSS To whom it may concern: It is sweet that you are in your 20s or 30s and you think age doesn't matter, but I am just not into men that young. I am sure you will have no trouble finding a charming older woman, but I am afraid it isn't going to be me. *smile*
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Carpe-ing the heck out of every diem!

Last year, I said yes, and the entire trajectory of my life changed. I am currently building a prototype of a sustainable structure in my driveway. (and when I say, "I" am building it, I mean I am allowing it to be built by people who know what they are doing) It's being built entirely out of recycled and salvaged materials. It is the first of its kind in the city of Seattle, and we are hoping it will open the door to more radically sustainable construction. It has been joyful, frustrating, wild, and life-expanding. We hope to finish the structure this summer.
 
I am learning Spanish, (Necesito practicar. Tu tambien?) I would love to move to Mexico and open a B&B or retreat center, using the above construction techniques to create beautiful, sustainable off-grid housing. Want to go live in the sunshine?

I absolutely adore partner dancing, swing, salsa, country 2 step… I think it is an amazing metaphor for the relationship between masculine and feminine beings. It's great exercise, and so romantic. You get extra points if you dance ballroom even a little.

I love to write, and have a couple of things in the works right now. The process is very slow, but I hope to one published electronically this summer. (wow. That's not that far away. I should get off here and go write)

I volunteer at various places, doing various things. I like to contribute to my community.

Every day I hug my kids (the two who are still at home) and tell them I love them. They are both still physically affectionate with me, even at 15 and 20. We are a tight-knit unit and they are my favorite people on the planet.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the best in others. I like almost everyone.

Singing extemporaneous silly lyrics to old songs. I just make them up and bust out with them. And now, my kids do, too.

Creating community in groups of people; weaving human connection.

Being super-feminine; receptive, aware of feelings, alive in my senses, in the flow of life.

Communicating; listening deeply, saying exactly what I mean, getting to the heart of the matter.

"I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.” ― Augusten Burroughs, Magical Thinking: True Stories

(I know, that's not really a thing I am good at, but how about if we put down my skill as finding great quotes?)

kind of a weird collection of talents, now that I look at the list...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I smile. A lot. And I really pay attention to whomever I am speaking with.

Or maybe my waist-length hair. That's a pretty obvious feature, too. It currently features a lot of pink in it. Yeah, people might notice long, dark hair with a lot of pink in it, especially on a woman in her 50s.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Moor's Last Sigh, The Secret Life of Bees, Nickeled and Dimed, The Forgetting Room. David Deida, Robert Masters, Anything by Terry Pratchett, some poetry, some mysteries, a few biographies and a bit of literary fiction. I really like reading!

I'm an adventurous eater. I finally got to try alligator (delicious) and crickets (taste like crunchy dirt). I am still looking for an opportunity to eat rattlesnake. Mostly, though, I eat like a regular person. I don't eat a lot of meat, but I'm not a vegetarian. I listen to what my body wants in the moment. I love the food at El Gaucho, The Harvest Vine, the Ethiopian place in my neighborhood, or a really great Indian buffet. I also really like to bake. I love to cook and to feed people.

My music collection runs from Gregorian Chant to Crystal Method, with stops along the way at Robert Johnson, Tito Puente, Zeplin, INXS, Sinatra, and Johnny Cash to name a few. I particularly love world music, for is polyrhythmic style. I'll put on some and dance around my living room in total bliss.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The people I love, especially my kids
Sunshine
Color
Writing
Sparkle
Ideas that grab my mind and refuse to let go
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life, the universe, everything!

I think about how to make my corner of the world a better place; recycling, kindness, volunteering, helping friends and neighbors, living a life firmly anchored in joy… that sort of thing.

Whenever I remember, I stop thinking and take time to become present to the moment. Mindfulness is an important practice for me. I think it should be taught in elementary school, but it's never too late, thank goodness!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
typical is not an adjective that really resonates with me. I spend a lot of time at home, but I could be doing anything… cooking, reading, creating art, stuffing plastic trash into plastic bottles <--- that is not actually as insane as it sounds. Just ask.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Let's see… if it is private, am I likely to post it on the internet? Nope. Not gonna happen. Need to know basis!
You should message me if
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…you want to talk to me.

I'm a super-feminine woman, and I prefer men who take the initiative. If that's not you, that's great, it just means we're not a good match. As Wayne Gretzky said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." (did she just make a hockey reference? Yes, sir, she did)

I promise to respond promptly to every respectful, local inquiry. I don't chat or text, because I find those exchanges unenlightening and unsatisfying.

More? I admire smart men who are pursuing their purpose, who are driven by something greater than themselves. I love being around people who are always growing and learning.

I am a complete sucker for deep eye contact. If you're good at that, I would definitely enjoy hearing from you.